Spiritual

BULIMIA. A life free from it.

by Vashte on February 28, 2014

As a self confessed ‘foodie’ I love to share my learnings, creations and ideas on this page hoping that I inspire a few others to come to the realisation that food is our friend, and not the enemy.

Fillet of Salmon in lemon and pesto with Fresh Salads

My ENTIRE life I have believed the opposite; that food was my enemy. I thought this was my lot in life and I just had to live with it; that I had a ‘love-hate’ relationship with food and this was the way life was going to stay.

I have been on so many diets, so many pills and every fix known to man (woman) to get my weight/size down. I know what it is like to battle the mind every moment of every day of your entire life wondering where the voices came from, and where the decision for this love/hate thing evolved from.

More importantly:  how to get rid of it.

I started dieting young. I have always had eyes on me as a young girl with a pretty face; intellectual (had to work at that); and very competitive and successful in sports. Yet, I grew fast in my teen years. Yay- for some but not for a self-conscious sports girl.

Food became my escape. I thought I ate well; healthy, and followed the rules. The rules that stipulated grains are ‘healthy’ and ‘good’ for you. So healthy whole grains  will help keep me lean and filled with energy? Wrong. Boy; is that the biggest, FATTEST LIE the food industry has had the audacity to vomit all over us, and is still allowed to do so? It makes me angry to say the least.

How can we move forward as a healthy nation(s) when we are SOLD constant lies like this. People like you and I think we are doing the right thing, when, in fact, the truth is the complete opposite. Celebrities endorse rubbish products; sports people we, and especially young people admire and aspire to be like.  Where is the integrity?  When they wouldn’t eat these foods even if it was the last ‘food’ item on the earth. Hypocrisy I cry!!

Enter, stage left, to my life bulimia. But first I lost a truck load of weight through Weight Watchers. I have never been  significantly overweight at any stage in my life, but have lived at the heavier zone of the ‘healthy weight range’ at times. It all started with training for sports and eating too much wheat/fibre. Little did I know then. (If only I had known then what I know now, it could have saved years of agony.)

You don’t have to be significantly different to passionately hate yourself you know.

I know as I have lived many years masking that truth.

So success reigned in for me at age 15 when I lost so much weight I touched on anorexia..but didn’t quite make it. So, as I ‘failed’ at that as well (note the language used- I thought I was a failure in life). Here is where the love/hate thing with food entered my life and pretty much stayed with me until only very recently. Bulimia. A Love/Hate relationship with food representing a love-hate relationship with self. More hate than love but as passive aggressive people we rarely take it further. Enough that it rules our lives and minds.

I visited the hospital as an outpatient for a short time working through this event around this age.  Perhaps this is when I decided to study the mind and how it worked to complete a degree in psychology, as I found it far too easy to tell the therapists what they wanted to hear, or lie to them and have them believe me.  Interesting that.

Bulimia is not just vomiting food back up. A person with bulimia will use whatever means there is to ‘purge’ food eaten. This can involve vomiting, laxatives, excessive exercise.. any way that person thinks they can get rid of the ‘bad’ or unwanted food eaten. As they get older, they often get wiser and more able to justify certain behaviours to sell them as acceptable and normal.- To themselves as well as those around them.

They can starve themselves for long periods of time going on strict diets, and then BOOM one day eat one thing off the schedule, and it is all over red rover. The bingeing starts.

Noone would ever guess that I have experienced this. It is not something many people speak on and we are usually pretty good at keeping it quiet. Professionals don’t get caught.

I am sharing this with anyone reading my blog as I think it is important you know that I am not perfect. I do my best. I learn. I grow. I need help sometimes. I help others. We all have our strengths and we all have those points that are not so strong. Admitting those not so strong points can help us beat them. When they are kept a secret they can and will eat you alive, eventually killing you. Literally.

One Life, Live it Well

So what needs to change for a person living a life like this? A lot, yes. But one step at a time is the answer, as it is with all things in life.

Steps. There are always steps to progress -big and small. When we understand this we can move forward whilst in control, or gaining control. The key word here is únderstand’.

I understood that the behaviour of bulimia was not sensible or positive but I continued this for most of my adult life regardless; seeking answers through routine, systems and rules. Permitting it to continue by not dealing with it.  This doesn’t work because routines, systems and rules are always broken or changed at some stage so we need flexibility. A person who inherently believes they are at the mercy of anything else, be that a person, thing or situation, is a victim. They are a person living in blame; passing responsibility off to other people, other situations or other things.

Living and allowing bulimia to have any part of my life gave all the power to…food! An inanimate object??! Food- which is meant to be a source of nourishment and enjoyment; to me was a severe source of pain and hatred.

Stepping out of the blame side of life and into the responsibility side of life has been easier than I could ever have imagined.

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There are steps I took in the ‘natural’. Meaning steps made by man; developed by psychologists, great ideas from people who speak on how they themselves freed themselves from the dark depths of despair.. (please note that many people who claim such things are not always walking in truth– scratch at the surface and you will see for yourself so beware the blind leading the blind…)

Many of these steps make good logical sense. I have spent years studying the mind and how it works, and have the qualifications to boot. But somehow there was always an empty void there, despite the great ideas and science behind many theories.

So what was missing?

Spiritual Truth.

Enter Christ. When the concept of Christianity was reintroduced to my world in 2008, I was just like most sceptics out there. I was sure there was God- some universal spirit being overseeing us all. I am inherently sure I have not evolved from any animal. But my question was: what and who is this universal God?

I have spent many days, perhaps years screaming into the night with a silent cry asking “why am I here????”. But I was screaming into darkness and not to anything or anyone specifically. So when the concept of Christianity was brought once more into my life, I was vehement I was not one of those “archaic, dusty Christians”. What I was thinking and visualising was the concept of ‘religion’. Man Made religion. Religion overflowing with rules and regulations (I  make enough of my own without the need for some crusty old human dictating how I’m supposed to be in this life); that Man Made Religion packed with hypocritical paedophiles; that Man Made Religion not designed for 21st living. No. I was definitely NOT one of those and never will be.

I’m still not!

When Christianity was explained and then shown to me for what it really is; that is: true love, true peace, true forgiveness; then that is when I was happy to

  • A. Give my heart to Jesus and ask Him to live in it.
  • B. Be called a Christian- A follower of Christ.

Christianity: where no man or woman tells me how to love God, myself or others because God has written it all down in His own Bible.  I can read it for myself, from my own heart and He can do his loving work in me and change me from the inside out without any other man or woman giving their spin or opinion on it. Thankyou very much!

So He did, He has and He continues to.

Chains have been broken from my life just ‘like that’’. Some took a little working, some took a lot and some still have to be. But when change comes from within, and a little seed is planted – in love- showing us how to change, and giving us the strength to change, and giving us the belief that we CAN change… because no matter what we do, say or are, that God LOVES us no matter what… and we are safe..and we are protected…and when we don’t have the strength we can give it all to Him because we are strong in the Lord and the power of His might….

Then we can make the change.

Until then, we will always be in our heads. This is fact. I lived there most of my life and often go back to living in my head until I am reminded to reconnect to my heart. That is where God lives if you ask Him to. That is where He can make more change in your life than you EVER thought possible.

Bulimia. Just ONE chain I carried around most of my adult life. Gone. That one took a bit of work. It started with beginning to understand HOW MUCH God loves me. How much He has ALWAYS been there for me and protected me- even through the REALLY, REALLY bad times. He protected me. So in seeing these truths, I could finally break the concrete barrier I had laid over, and over, and over, and over that issue to ‘protect’ my heart from more hurt. In this space I could feel and connect safely with the behaviour and understand what drove it. In this space I could let it go. Forever.

You know when something leaves your life forever. Spiritually you will feel it. Because YOU control what you allow in and out of your life.

Bulimia. That issue I held onto as a security blanket for so long. Why? Well without it..what was I? I had infused it into such an everyday event in life even until recently; that without it- if I let it go- there would be an empty space. Be careful with empty spaces. Make sure you fill them with Truth. I filled mine with God’s love, His peace and His total acceptance.

Today I no longer have to exercise for hours on end to burn off the food I ate. The food I ate was often not even in excess but I had developed such a negative association with so many items it was obsessive. I can walk past a shop selling items I used to crave and obsess over, and not have any connection whatsoever. I no longer have that burning desire to self harm- because that is what it is. Really. There are fewer and fewer rules that ‘won’t allow’ me to have this or that- because I just don’t want them anymore, or I can have a taste and be satisfied. This in itself is a miracle.  Such is the mind of a person carrying bulimia. What it boils down to is self-love. Or self-hate.

The words I speak over myself are now empowering, most of the time. The words I speak come directly from the Bible. I have tried affirmations. They are nice. They are like pretty flowers to brighten a room but they die, quickly. They are not from Truth. I speak the words that God speaks about me. They quicken my Spirit and make me alive. The Spirit knows Truth when it sees and hears it.

Through loving myself and accepting myself, because God loves and accepts me- no matter what; I can change. I have changed and will continue to change exponentially.  I use my thorough studies in psychology; neuro linguistic programming; fitness; and nutrition to work on a practical level. But without the words from God’s one true book of the Bible, nothing would instigate permanent and lasting change. I took a year out to study the Bible at Rhema Bible College. Here I developed an understanding and an amazing relationship with The Lord God.  That was in 2011 completing a Dip in Biblical Studies. The best year Spiritually of my life. Perhaps one of the hardest emotionally and physically.

But you see, God always shines through your darkest days, if you give Him permission; and reigns down on the great days!! He is the ultimate gentleman and will not force himself on you; will not push you, nor harass you. He waits at the door of your heart, and knocks gently, yet persistently, for you to answer and ask Him in for tea or coffee. Try it. My life has never been so abundantly blessed, so incredibly freed, so wonderfully positive since I asked Him in.

Even through death I am more blessed than even before.

I am all about control. I love to have it. Do not like being out of it. Just look at what happened when I jumped out of an aeroplane. I am an orderly person, and do live with rules and regulations. They are part of my personality. I like them. They make everything tidy and keep things in order. But I give everything to God now. Bulimia is a thing of the past and that’s why I can write about it.

  • I write to perhaps offer hope to anyone else out there who may experience moments of disorder. Because that is what it is- out of order 😉
  • I write to help, even if it is just one person, because YOU as that ONE person; YOU are important. Especially to The Lord.
  • I write because I do not think I am alone in having lived this nightmare. So whether you are someone or know someone who lives an eating ‘disorder’ for a long time or short time.. you are not alone. And if you start to face it; Speak it out and understand it; you are well on your way to destroying that issue.
  • I write because despite this being something most people won’t speak about, or are ashamed of; I am not. It is just another ‘thing’ that I allowed into my life and I have exited it out. No big deal. Nothing is a big deal. Why give it that power. It is ‘just’ something; like an ‘event’; that I experienced and passed. And perhaps because of it, I can reach out to you, or someone you know, to help guide them along the way. Perhaps this synopsis can be a light; a glimmer of hope or even a huge propulsion in the right direction.

Bulimia. It took me around 20 years to break the chain despite a university education, even further education, and immersion into a plethora of mind-body-soul strategies. Why? Because I was looking in all the wrong places for the key.

The heart. The Spirit. That is where the key is to break any chain you have.

Vashte BawdenYou are welcome to connect with me on facebook (inspiration and motivation); instagram (food pictures only so be aware of that); on this post or email me at info@vashte.com

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God bless you and thank you for hanging with me here. I hope this journey has shown you some truth into a little part that has made me who I am today; and given you hope for your very own future. It’s a bitch living life blaming other people, things or circumstances for what happens in your own life. Take ownership back, over EVERYTHING.

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Xx Vashte xx

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Christmas…

by Vashte on December 18, 2013

What does it mean to you?

Christmas John 8 12

  • I love this time of the year.
  • I love the festivity, fun and lightness it can bring.
  • I love my family getting together and just hanging out.
  • I love seeing my nieces excited at the prospect of gifts, fun and laughter.
  • I especially love what Christmas really represents. That is the birth of Christ Jesus, the Son of God; and that God gave His only Son to save us from ourselves. We needed it then and Lord Almighty we need it now!

But what does Christmas mean to most people?  It seems more and more that Christmas means something other than the original gift it actually represents.  More and more we shy away from the Truth of what Christmas is, turning the real meaning of Christmas into a fable untold and forbidden to speak of; and creating some fabricated lie depicting the necessity in  ‘giving’; of a fat man called Santa Claus; of eating and drinking well over satiated state and well into gluttony day in and day out during the month of December and well into January; creating a complete waste as food and gifts are unappreciated, thrown out or resold on ebay.

We are sold movies exploring the lives of complete brats, and wonder why our children behave in a manner much the same. Adults as well. The children are only products of their environment.

Everywhere we look we see gross quantities of presents wrapped under trees; ads instruct us we ‘need’ to have this, that and everything else to keep up with the Jones’;  we are told the Spirit of Christmas is all about ‘giving’- so buy more.

I live on the Gold Coast of Australia. It is hot. Really hot at Christmas here. Even so,  I see Christmas puddings, brandy custards, heavy desserts, cooked hams and meats advertised at me as if I were living somewhere freezing cold where possibly I may have some small desire to consume such foods.. but in the middle of Summer?? Are you kidding??? That is weird- surely you would agree with me here? Summer is a time for light food- BBQ’s; salads, cold cuts.. especially in high humidity and heat. Why are they telling me to eat Winter foods? Yet many people subscribe to this.. “after all it IS Christmas!??” Mental!!!!!

You know something-  isn’t it time we turned around and analysed our own behaviour and the absurdity of it at times? I have to do this constantly myself- am I alone?

Christmas can bring absurd amounts of pressure on families, couples and friends as we ‘expect’ things from others and ourselves. Why? Who made the rules governing the importance of excessiveness?

Christmas represents LIFE. Perhaps we might like to examine HOW we are living LIFE at this time of the year as opposed to just following the herd of pigs jumping of the cliff with the others. We just don’t have to.

Christmas is NOT about GIVING GIFTS. They are nice if you can, without over-exerting yourself or going further into debt. But you can give gifts at any time of the year- remember that. Instead of BUYING gifts, you can MAKE your own if you have the time- most people don’t.  Do you realise that giving your TIME is one of the most important and memorable things you can do?

Think about it- what do you remember most from childhood? Is the gifts you received? If you answered yes, then please name every gift you received last year, the year before that and the year before that- then name the gifts you received as a child and from whom the gift was given…..

Or is it the experiences- the life events – you enjoyed and remember the most and easiest? Many people remember the times in life they enjoyed over and above the gifts. They remember the people they shared those times with; where they were and the feelings associated with those times.

I know we are almost at Christmas now, and many people have done their Christmas shopping- but how about making a decision for next year- that you don’t enter into the rat race of razzle dazzle shopping, stress, urgency. Ditch the gross overabundance in purchasing ‘stuff’ and plan fun times to spend with people you love over and above the gifts.

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I believe Christmas was given to us by God to cherish the people we love, appreciate our year that has passed; and remember our Holy Father and His Son who came to give us life abundantly. It is time of the year we can really remember LOVE and HOW to love. How to appreciate. How to start again.

Christmas ITSELF is the GIFT. It is a time when we can remember that we have HOPE. We have JOY. We have PEACE through Christ Our Savour.

Christmas is a time for peace, love and happiness. It has nothing to do with shopping. Nothing to do with Santa. Nothing to do with gluttony. Absolutely eat, and give if it is within your ability- but it is not the MEANING AND PURPOSE of this time of the year.

Unplug from the matrix and remember the Truth. It will set you free.

XXX MERRY CHRISTMAS XXX

(ditch happy holidays!!! What the heck is THAT  slogan all about. Don’t let the modern world suffocate the Truth you know in your heart to be true)

GOD bless you all over this wonderful, love filled season and I pray that you see the light, and seek the Truth to free your Souls now and forever.

xx Vashte xx

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God’s Love

by Vashte on November 14, 2013

I have this prayer hanging over my desk. I find it helpful when I lose sight of direction, who I am and/or how God really see’s me. I thought it may help you too in times when you feel like you need something, or would like something of substance to hold on to. It may help you see a little more clearly how very precious you are and how much He so very much loves you. Especially in those times when you find it hard to love yourself. I have been there too you know. x

Psalm 46:10 – Be still and know that I am God…

Child Of God Vashte Bawden

Pray this prayer based on Ephesians1: 17-18; Ephesians 3: 18-19; Colossians1 9-11 and Philippians1:9-11

“Dear God (or Dad),

I ask you to make me intelligent and discerning in knowing you personally and make my eyes focused and clear, so that I can see exactly what You are calling me to do. I ask that I grasp the immensity of this glorious way of life that You have for me. I pray that Christ may live in my heart so that I be rooted and grounded in love and I may be able to understand all the dimensions of this love and be filled with the fullness of You Lord.

I pray that I am filled with the knowledge of Your Will in all wisdom and spiritual understanding, and that I live worthy of You Lord. I pray that I am fruitful in every good work and as I am increasing in the knowledge of You, I am strengthened with Your Power.

I pray that I may still have more love – a love that is full of knowledge and every wise insight. A love that always recognises the highest and best and sees my life full of the true goodness produced by the Power that Jesus Christ gives me to the glory and praise of God.

In Jesus Mighty Name,

Amen.”

If you pray this prayer, you will be pleasantly surprised at how you may then see things with open, loving eyes; and have a better understanding of why you are here, and how much you are loved.

Notes on great ways to pray:

  • Whenever you pray, make sure you use God/Dad/Jesus’ name when you start. Just like a letter. This way you address your prayer to the one true God and He will hear you.
  • Base your prayer on promises written in the Bible, if you can. If you haven’t read the Bible yet, or haven’t started, that is fine as He will hear you anyway. When you base your prayer on biblical promises, it is a very powerful prayer. God NEVER breaks promises xx.
  • Always end your prayer by saying “In Jesus name, Amen.” This way you seal the prayer in Jesus’ name. Every knee shall bow at the name of Jesus, above the earth, on the earth and below the earth; so this way you start the prayer to the One you are talking to, and you end it in Jesus’ name. Nothing and no one can stand between you and your prayer.

Awesomely powerful. xx

God Bless you

xx Vashte xx

If you ever want to connect with me asking questions on Christianity, you are more than welcome. Or if you have questions on life itself…

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CREATE your Joy!!

by Vashte on August 7, 2013

In a world where dreams are stolen, shattered and destroyed every day, it is a welcome respite when you find your light, however faint, still flickering away. Although muted by the events of the world, your candle never goes out. It was designed to withstand the greatest of tragedies, and in some cases shine brighter through those times.

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Realise this: the tiniest candle outshines the darkest dark- every time.

There is hope. There is strength. There are possibilities.

  • You can.
  • You will.
  • You are able and capable.

When you find yourself facing those dark times, don’t give up. Don’t turn and run. Don’t cower and hide. STAND tall. FACE your fear, and you will find it turns into a sniveling little willow the wisp and runs away FROM YOU. Fear is most often a fear of the unknown. Why we are afraid of the unknown is intriguing as the unknown is where we grow the most. The unknown is where the possibilities lie! The unknown is where you go when you want change to happen in your life! How can we expect anything different when we continue to repeat the same behaviour, the same thoughts, associate with the same type of people?

Same shit, different day? Well that can be someone else’s mantra. It is certainly not mine or any of my clients!

The world will want you to believe that mantra. ”The world” is not here to support you in your dreams, your goals or your aspirations… until you make it support your dreams, goals and aspirations!

When they say ”it is all in your mind”.. you better believe it! Because it is!

Think about this if you would:

  • 2 children born into the same family, treated exactly the same but-
  • One child believes for some ‘strange’ they will one day win gold at the Olympics, despite the obstacles, despite parents putting them down, despite school mates poking fun at them.
  • The second child who listens to the put downs, and believes them; Owning those condemning thoughts and useless affirmations =  Believes they will never amount to anything.
  • What do you think happens in adult life?
  • The first child grows into a strong adult, capable of anything, overcoming ALL obstacles seemingly effortlessly.
  • The second child grows into a shadow of an adult, timid and afraid. Shy and quiet. Introverted and introspective. Life is difficult at the best of times.
  • Two individual people, dealing with life in very different ways.

It is all in the mind. Build the strength of your mind.

I believe without a doubt we are ALL made in the image and likeness of God; that we are righteous through Christ. My Bible tells me these Truths. These are integral aspects of learning that ‘man’ does not have the final say over who you are, what you are, nor what you amount to – today, tomorrow OR as you were as a child, nor what you did yesterday. Live within the law of man, yes, but don’t let other people’s opinions as to what you are capable of dictate your life to you!! If you can dream a dream, it is yours to achieve it. Why do you think you dream your dreams, specific to you? Your dreams are different to my dreams! Your dreams are created by you and for you to achieve. If you can imagine it, you can dream it, if you can dream it you can set it in your future time line and make it a goal to hit! Make it fun! Step outside that box! You are stronger than you think you are! Oh yes you are!! BELIEVE it. KNOW it. OWN it.

Find your Joy in this life. It is never too late to start. Awaken to see the Truth in every given situation. Understand you are very special. You are needed in this life. You are here for such a time as this and you fit in perfectly, if only you learn to love yourself the way God loves you. If He sees you as perfect, righteous and beautiful- as He does– why do you not see yourself as this also? SEE the Truth. HONOUR yourself. GROW into the YOU that you are designed to be.

Don’t worry about the past. Make peace with it. Forgive every day, and ask for forgiveness for your mistakes. Allow yourself to change. Allow yourself to explore. Find out what inspires you, what motivates you, what EXCITES you? It does not matter what other people think of these things- they are yours! What other people think of you is not your business so long as you walk in love!  BE the type of person you want to meet! Don’t LOOK for what you want in your world! CREATE it!

You CANNOT change other people. You CANNOT change your husband or wife. You CANNOT change your parents, your children, your friends. You CANNOT change another person. So please stop trying! It is a waste of time and completely redundant! So what CAN you change? YOU can change YOU. TODAY. Right NOW. You can start to look at how YOU can change YOURSELF to BECOME the awesomeness of you! BE kindness. BE joy-filled. BE peace. BE love. BE patience. BE faith. BE all the things you value in life. THEN you will open your life to other people of the same calibre. THEN you will create the change you would like in your life.

BELIEVE, HOPE, TRUST.

There IS goodness out there. There IS life! There is faith! There IS fun! There IS an incredible lightness of being and its all out there!! Ór rather..it is all WITHIN you … all it takes is a little exploring, a little understanding, a little open-mindedness, and a touch of love and patience. You have all this and more inside of you! Even if you don’t see it, feel it or think it possible – I DO.

I BELIEVE in YOU. If that is what it takes to help you step up, and out of that box that you currently live within, let ME believe IN you and offer my hand in HOPE and BELIEF until YOU can BELIEVE it all for yourself. You have a MIGHTY God looking down on you, wanting so much to love on you, support you, care for you.. one step at a time. That is my mantra for life. One step. That is all it takes.

One step towards your Joy. Towards your Peace. Towards your Strength. When you take one step, you can take another, and then another, and before too long you have taken yourself, by taking ownership of your own life, into a whole new rhelm- a rhelm of life that is very real, and very tangible for those of us who live in it.

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If you would like to talk more with me on my coaching programmes, please feel free to make contact. My email is: info@vashte.com.  I offer my hand in help and assistance. Perhaps I can be that person to walk with you for a short time, or for a long time, side by side through life for a while. Empowering you through mindful strategies, giving you tools in life to aid and assist you in making strategic, healthy decisions; encouraging you to find your Joy, find your Peace, Find your Strength when you think all hope is lost, or you are just looking for some direction.

No matter what- you have everything you need within you. Right here, right now. It may be a simple matter of flicking a switch in your mind, changing a couple of behaviours, or enabling you to fall back in love with life… who knows.. you are unique and every single person is different. And important. And so very special.

You are very, very important, and you are needed in this life. You are needed for today.

“The Joy of the Lord is my Strength” Neh 8:10 Maybe you could let that be your joy too!! It is so much easier that way.

God Bless you and thank you for spending time on my blog xx

xx Vashte xx

 

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How To Live Life Outloud A-Z “K”

by Vashte on April 2, 2013

KindnessKindness

Kindness an action lacking in some people these days. Kindness is one of the key ‘fruits of the Spirit’ from the Christian Bible.

” But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, KINDNESS, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self control” Gal 5: 22

Kindness is looking outside of our present circumstance and into another person’s life with the intention of benefiting or helping that person in some way. Kindness can be a simple act such as getting up to offer your seat for someone else; holding the door open for the people following you; smiling at a stranger. So easy, yet so lacking in 2013. Be a blessing today and focus on showing some kindness to people  in your life- today.

Knight in shining armour

Calling all females! How to BE in 2013…. so many of us are confused. We don’t know how to act. Many have not been shown HOW to be a lady. How do you attract a knight in shining armour- and more importantly- does such a creature even exist?! Indeed he does; but he does not show himself to girls who flaunt themselves in handkerchiefs masquerading as clothing; nor does he show himself to females who give themselves freely. You know what I mean. Girls.. it is worth the wait. So wait. Wait for your knight in shining armour – do not LOOK for him. Get on with living your own life and he will appear. Take time to grow into you with poise and grace.  Your knight will appear for his princess. Be on alert for predators. Predators are a dime a dozen and easy to spot- predators will want to move fast. Knights are happy to take it slow. A knight will respect you for your elegance; your restraint; your class and your grace. A knight will admire you growing into the amazingness that is you and will encourage you on this path. Stay clear of the trap which is the world- you not need to bare all of your flesh to attract a man of integrity, class and honour. Keep your kisses for your true knight. Save your heart from breaking too many times. Stay away from the dark cold world that demands you sell your soul and your self respect to the first male that shows you attention and you will reap the benefits for finding true love in a world teaching confusion to the masses.

Kombucha and Kefir

…what are these?! Both Kombucha and Kefir are fermented foods. Fermented foods are- very basically- foods that can help balance the gut with good bacteria.  Why do we need foods such as these?

Our world is fast paced. We live in a microwave society where we expect everything yesterday. Our foods are often over processed, pre-packaged, pre-made, and dare I say it-microwaved. ‘Food’ such as this is dead. It provides the body very little to zero nutritional benefit. By introducing fermented foods into our diets, we can help start to balance the bacteria in the gut. This is very important to our overall health-more so than most people realise. Kombucha and kefir are just two of many options that can aid in the growth of pre and pro-biotics needed in the gut via nutrition. Pop into your local quality health food store for more information on probiotics and fermented foods; or message me for guidance. I have recently experienced the result of stripping my gut completely from all good and bad bacteria. It is an awful experience. There are specific steps needed to repopulate the gut with good bacteria in order for the body to have the ability to actually can digest and absorb nutrients in the food we eat, and keep disease at bay. You need a good naturopath to oversee you in this process. Without a healthy gut you have little control over your health and open yourself to dis-ease. Get it right. NOW.

Kale and Sea Kelp

Greens, greens and more greens! Alkalise that body! Fall in love with your greens! Find a great local farmers markets; organic preferably, and visit every week. Green veges are you new best friend! They help you flush the body of toxins which in turn reduces fat resulting in size/fat loss! As 70% of our population is overweight/obese- this is a GOOD THING!

Kale– some of the many benefits of kale include: ” A super food for life – one cup of kale contains vitamins K, A, C, B6, E plus minerals such as, manganese, copper, calcium, potassium, iron, and magnesium.”

Sea Kelp in small doses: “Sea kelp is a natural source of vitamins A, B1, B2, C, D and E, as well as minerals including zinc, iodine, magnesium, iron, potassium, copper and calcium. In fact it contains the highest natural concentration of calcium of any food – 10 times more than milk.”

Kilojoules

My meals are largely comprised of protein, good fats and loads of green leafy vegetables. Why? Because meals like this can turn my body into a lean, mean, fat-burning machine. Polenta vegetarian frittataPerhaps they will do the same for you too! I have no idea as to how many kilojoules they comprise of.

Move more to burn kilojoules but DON’T WASTE YOUR TIME COUNTING THEM! What is the point of counting kilojoules when our bodies use foods in very different ways? Counting kilojoules is a waste of my time and results only in worry and paranoia if I eat clean, whole, organic fresh food!

Eat clean fresh, wholefoods; mostly protein, good fats and plenty of fresh organic leafy green veges; move that body for 30mins to an hour a day (walking is great!); drink plenty of filtered alkaline water if you can; get 8 hours sleep ideally; and reduce your STRESS levels over and above all else.

Health is not rocket science so we ought to stop treating it like it is. Keep it simple. it is time to wake up to ourselves and admit that we know most food arriving in a box; most pre-made food; any fast food… is not food at all. Lets get logical and go back to basics in this life of ours. In order to live a long, healthy, prosperous, energetic life without the BRAIN FOG every single day of our lives.. it is simple:

Choose kindness to reduce stress!; choose to wait for your knight in shining armour to reduce heart ache and…stress;  choose kombucha, kefir and fermented foods to give your body pre and probiotics to help digest your foods; choose kale and kelp and green leafy veges, choose whole foods, choose organic foods to help get alkaline and be filled with energy. Choose to move more and burn kilojoules without the need to count them!

Choose life. One life, live it well!!!

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How To Live Life OutLoud A-Z “F”

by Vashte on January 27, 2013

Focus – Freedom – Foundation – Friendship – Fellowship – Feet on the Ground – Ferocious – Follow your Heart – Forgive and Forget – Faith – Fresh Food – Fresh Fruit – Fruit of the Spirit

F

 

Focus your energy on the tasks at hand. Focus like a laser beam on your goals and your desires. Follow your heart and Focus in on your natural talents to give you the direction you need in life. Use your head when you follow your heart to take the action necessary to achieve your goals. Keep your feet on the ground and keep reaching for the stars, for the moon or whatever you think is just beyond your reach. We need to get UN-comfortable to GET comfortable…and then get UN-comfortable to get comfortable again.. keep stretching beyond your comfort zone to be a better you!!

Be fearless and as ferocious as a tiger in realising your goals. Stay on track. Fellowship with people who stretch you, with people who believe in you, with people you respect and aspire to be similar to. Be the same for them. Find mentors, find accountability, find honour in this world where it is too easy to quit.

Forgive.

Forgive the wrongs you believe have been ‘done to you’. Then you too can be forgiven of the wrongs and hurt you have put on others. Forgive yourselves. In forgiveness comes forgetting. You cannot forgive without forgetting. If you use the common phrase “I will forgive you but I will never forget it” then you have not forgiven at all. Why give another human being power over you? That is exactly what you do when you do not forget. If you harbour resentment towards a person or thing then you GIVE them a piece of your heart. Guard your heart above all else. Let the issue go, forgive AND forget. Then you will have FREEDOM. Freedom in your Spirit, freedom in your Soul and freedom in your body. Gone- forever. You are free. Free to be the amazing person God created you to be. 

Foundations.

How do you build a house? From the foundation up. Why is it any different when you approach life? If you build the foundation of your health, your life, your relationships, your businesses strong and on rock, when the storms come, your life or parts of it will not be torn asunder. Build your life with strong foundations. If parts of your life could do with some remodeling, then start again- from the foundation up. Building from the foundations takes time, if you do it properly. Over night wonders get results fast, and lose those results just as fast. Build your foundations on solid ground. You will stand the storm of life and come out the other side stronger still when you build from the foundation.

Food.

Fresh Food. Whole Food. Fresh Fruit. – Food for the body.

Fruit of the Spirit: Love, Joy, Peace, Longsuffering, Kindness, Goodness, Faithfulness, Gentleness and Self Control (NJK Bible Gal5:22) = food for the Spirit.

Feed your Spirit with these qualities and you may find your mind and body respond in kind by creating an alkaline atmosphere, digesting edible food easily and will keep toxic thoughts away. ‘Food’ will either nourish your Spirit, Soul and Body or it will be of no value at all. Feed your house so that you grow in strength and health each day. Remove the frauds in your life, remove the false pretenses, and get on with living each day to its maximum by living out The Truth that is you. Be the unique and wonderful being you are created to be. It is never too late to start. Start today. Start now. Have Faith that you can. Have faith that you were created unique. Have faith you have the ability living inside you waiting to be given the opportunity to show up. Focus in what you CAN do. Focus in what YOU want to do. Then take the action to get you moving in the right direction. Be ferocious in your focus! Feed your mind with good thoughts, feed your Spirit with The Truth, and feed your body with the right nutrients for a recipe for success built on strong foundations.

HAVE FAITH in God who created you and has given you all the right abilities to live your life in abundance.

HAVE FUN DOING IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

 

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My Blessed Life

by Vashte on November 12, 2012

I am no different to you. I live my life and juggle the balls thrown at me. When the curve balls come, and believe me they do, I choose to pick up a bat and smash them out of the ballpark. That is my choice, and yours too. If you choose to dwell on the negative, you get more of it. If you choose to TALK about the negative, you get more. If you choose to LOOK at the negative..you get more.

SO, if you choose to focus on the good things in life. You get MORE OF THEM!

Well, I do anyway. Why I would be any different to you is beyond me. I am not special; I am not more gifted; I am not more privileged than you. I have created my world to be a reflection of that which is inside of me. I surround myself with people who encourage me, support me and love me and I let the rest go.I try not to judge myself in comparison to others. I am created unique to this world, as you are too. I choose mentors and people to guide me, but I have no idols. I do not want to ‘be like’ anyone else; I want to shine bright like a diamond. Each diamond is unique also. You are too.

Inside each of us there lives your Spirit. I call Him the Holy Spirit, being Christian. You have Him too if you want Him. Listen, He is a gentle voice, speaking to you in loving tones, guiding you on your unique path. Your path IS the road less travelled as noone has walked your path before you. Some cross it and you meet, some will walk with you for a short while, some will walk with you for a long while, and some will walk in the opposite direction and try to take you with them. Stay true to your calling, and walk the walk. It is not a lonely place if you embrace this amazing life, and choose to have the Holy Spirit live inside you. It is an amazing place, filled with a feeling of well being and contentment, and love.  Your choice always.

The ‘rights’ and the ‘wrongs’ of this world have changed dramatically, and will continue to change. To me, life can be sure of two things: change and death. Everything else comes and goes. I live in this world, but choose not to be ‘of‘ this world. I am a throwback of times past I suppose. I hold on to traditional values and believe in the fairy tale of happily ever after. I believe in men being masculine and women being feminine. I don’t do androgynous. You choose your perspective in life. Make your decisions based on sound Truth, honour and respect.

This life is an amazing life. We are not here for very long so why not choose to be a blessing to as many people as possible? Take the focus off yourself and help other people live joy-filled lives. I believe you will find once you do that, you will experience many blessings flowing TO you THROUGH you blessing THEM. A smile to a complete stranger can make their day- you will never know that though. Embrace and love this life of ours. I live in one of the most beautiful places on this earth, I surround myself with incredible people and I give thanks for my life every morning.

Try this on for size and see how you go. Turn the tables on the negativity of the world. Don’t buy into it. Life is wasted in negativity- NO MATTER WHAT IS HAPPENINGwe ALL go through crappy times. WALK THROUGH IT, HEAD HELD  HIGH.

XX  Vashte XX

I hope this article empowers you to walk tall with a smile on your face today and every day. I am just like you; living life OUTLOUD. Power to you my friend and thank you for reading this from my heart. xx

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A Soldier, I AM.

by Vashte on March 17, 2012

I am a soldier in the army of my God. The Lord Jesus Christ is my commanding officer; the Holy Bible is my Code of Conduct. Faith, prayer and The Word are my weapons of warfare. I have been taught by the Holy Spirit, trained by experience, TRIED BY ADVERSITY, and tested by fire. I am a volunteer in this army and I’m enlisted for ETERNITY. I will either retire in this army at the rapture or die in this army, but I WILL NOT get out, sell out, be talked out or PUSHED OUT. I’m faithful, reliable, capable and dependable. If my God needs me, I’m there. If He needs me in Sunday School to teach children, work with the youth, help adults or just sit and learn, He can use me because I’m there. I am a soldier, I am not a baby. I do not need to be pampered, petted, primed up, pumped up, picked OR pepped up….

I AM A SOLDIER.

 

Noone has to call me, remind me, write me, visit me, entice me or lure me. I AM A SOLDIER, NOT a wimp. I am in place saluting my King, obeying His orders, praising His Name, and building His Kingdom. Noone has to send me flowers, gifts, food, cards, candy or handouts. I do not need to be cuddled, cradled, cared for or catered to. I AM committed. I CANNOT have my feelings hurt BAD ENOUGH to turn me around. I CANNOT  be discouraged enough to turn me aside. I cannot LOSE ENOUGH TO CAUSE ME TO QUIT. When Jesus called me into this army I had nothing. If I end up with nothing, I’ll still come out even – I WILL WIN. My God will supply all my needs. I am MORE THAN a conqueror, I will ALWAYS triumph, I can do ALL things through Christ. Devils CANNOT defeat me, PEOPLE CANNOT DISILLUSION ME, weather cannot weary me, SICKNESS CANNOT STOP ME, battles CANNOT beat me, money CANNOT buy me, Governments CANNOT silence me and HELL CANNOT HANDLE ME…..

I AM A SOLDIER.

Even DEATH CANNOT DESTROY ME, for when my commander calls me from this battle field, He will promote me to a captain and then bring me back to rule this world WITH HIM. (yeah baby xx) I am a soldier in the army and I’m marching CLAIMING VICTORY. I WILL NOT GIVE UP. I WILL NOT TURN AROUND. I am a soldier marching heaven bound, here I stand. Will YOU stand with me? Guess what! If you have accepted Christ as your Lord and Saviour, you are ALREADY enlisted! The question is; are you on active duty serving the Lord faithfully, daily and on duty 24/7? Or are you on reserved status serving only when called upon twice a year; Christmas and Easter. OR guard status, backing up the active duty… OR   A.W.O.L – Absent Without The Lord?…..

I do not know the author of that, but was given it in Bible College last year. I think it is great, and something I am working on personally.

 Talk to Him- He is listening and always waiting. Always welcoming you.

ALWAYS. xx

 

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An Angel Walks Beside Me

by Vashte on March 4, 2012

An angel walks beside me,

I feel Him everyday,

He helps me through lifes ups and downs,

and whatever comes my way.

He guides me down the road of life,

and lights the darkest roads,

He picks me up and carries me,

when I can not bear the load.

He helps to ease the pain I feel,

He mends my spirit, too,

He holds my hand, and shelters me,

and gives me courage and strength, too.

He speaks to me with words of love,

and He listens to my pleas,

He was sent here from the Lord above,

to guide and comfort me.

I know He’s always watching,

though his form I can not see,

its a peace I feel deep in my heart,

that leads me to believe.

An angel walks beside me,

I feel blessed everyday,

that the presence of this angel,

will never go away.

Thank you Jesus x

Sent me to from a gorgeous friend of mine xx

I love you girl xx

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You are fearfully and wonderfully made

by Vashte on March 3, 2012

Our bodies are miracles. They function, adapt and cope with all the stresses we throw at them AND the junk we stick in them. These bodies of ours are amazing works of art. They are made up of millions of cells and chemical equations, firing every second we live on God’s green earth.

How cool is that?!!

To honour our bodies we ought to become aware of the body as a whole, and stop taking it for granted. Just by appreciating how amazing our bodies are can change it at a cellular level!

I believe we are first and foremost Spirit beings, we have a Soul (the mind) and we live in a Body. This body is rented. How we treat this body will reflect in the same manner as we treat the house we actually live in. Treat it with respect, keep it clean and give it the right products (nutrients) for it to provide you with energy and clear thinking resulting in a healthy good looking specimen!

Treat it like a theme park; you are asking for trouble.

65%of Australian adults are officially classified as overweight, obese or morbidly obese.

25% of Australian children fall in this category too.

This is the result of treating these bodies as theme parks.

Australia is the FATTEST nation in the world. That is shocking but unfortunately a harsh reality. We have so much available to us in good food and opportunities to get outdoors!!!! Why has this happened??

Come of Australia!!! Let’s change these stats, if not for us, for our future generations!!

Do you want to outlive your children? No?  Didn’t think so… but this may well be the case if we don’t turn these figures around so LETS DO IT!!!

When we learn to treat these bodies as the temple they are, then they will give back more than we ever thought possible.

Change your thinking to a grateful, appreciative state to help move your body into a more alkaline state of being. This, in turn, allows the body to digest foods fast and efficiently. You may be surprised as to how much influence the brain has over the entire functioning of your body as a whole. This can positively or negatively affect:

  • weight
  • body fat percentage
  • mental clarity
  • elasticity of your skin
  • anti or PRO aging
  • muscle growth, or atrophy
  • energy levels
  • digestion

..and so much more.

Becoming aware and conscious of the foods we eat, when we eat them and the mood we are in can DRAMATICALLY change the type of food you choose and how you digest that food.

YOU are in control of YOUR body not your body is in control of YOU.

Take control of your ‘flesh’ and let your SPIRIT MAN be in control. Get rid of the SCARCITY MENTALITY. There is plenty of food and it will be there tomorrow, the next week and the next year. You are not going to miss out… in actual fact you will gain SO MUCH in confidence, control and POWER when you beat that flesh and say “NO!! NOT TODAY!!! I AM THE BOSS AND YOU BETTER NOT FORGET IT”! It’s OK to talk to yourself in this instance… it is likely you will need to on more than one occasion!!

Be at peace with where you are at TODAY. Understand you are on the road to control, and self satisfaction. Learning to love yourself is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself, and the people who surround you.

You CAN do it.

You WILL do it – when you have a REASON to.

WHAT IS YOUR REASON?

 

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