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Fathers Day

by Vashte on September 7, 2014

Today, in Australia, it is Fathers Day. I wish all the Fathers out there a wonder day, embracing the gift they have been given in this life.

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It is my brother’s first Fathers Day. He seems to be a pretty cool Dad. His son even gave him a book called “Why I love my Daddy”. When I asked him what the book said, my brother remembers “He is funny” and “He is clever” – straight off the cuff.. not too much else 😉 His son is about 5 months old… so .. I guess he must be as clever as his Dad is… :) They have a beautiful family- filled with love and it shows.

I respect and honour all parents out there. It is a mammoth task and one I have not experienced. Yet or perhaps ever. Who knows.

I know it takes a strong man. A loving man. A true man to be a Dad.

In church today the paster gave us this quote which I loved: “It is easier for a Father to have children, than it is for children to have a good Father”. Hands up those who know this to be true – on both sides of the fence. My hand raises.

An ideal family celebrates this day with their Dad. The man they lean on, trust, feel safe with. This is the image I imagine in my mind about Fathers Day and the one I pray you are celebrating today!:

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For me, Fathers Day has been a day of unexpressed annoyance I guess. I don’t remember my Dad being around, and certainly don’t remember words of encouragement, much love or support from him. Every girl wants the love of her ‘father’. But my ‘father’ was never really much of a ‘father’. I remember fighting though. Too many families are like this today. I pray that more people understand how important it is for a child to have a Mum AND a Dad. If they have issues- keep it away from the children. He was never very good at that. Children are smart and see through everything – it is funny how some adults think they don’t. -Especially when those adults were once children too..

I had a step father once for a while- he tried to be a good man, and a good father. I still respect the role he played in my life as that person. He spent time helping me with certain classes in school, and he tried to be the ‘man’ we needed in our family. As a Dad. But he is no longer in our lives either.

My biological Father is alive. I don’t speak to him very often. I’m not angry with him or upset with him. I still love him because I have a small understanding of who he is, and what it might have been like growing up in his family as a child. And I believe it would have been horrible. HIS father was a bad man. It is harder for  a person who has never been shown love, to give love or express it. It is not impossible, but my Father, chose not to change very much. That is OK with me- it is what it is.

I’m still a girl who wants the love of a Father. I know he loves me even though he doesn’t show it, or know how to show it well, or has bothered much to try..

I am safe though- because I found a real love from The Father of all- Christ Jesus’ Father: God.  So for all the people out there who have not experienced love from their Dad’s. For those who have been mistreated. For those who have been abandoned- and for those who actually do have the coolest Dad’s in the world! -There is One out there who really does love unconditionally- no matter what- through thick and thin- is never angry with you – and always forgives. There is One who will make you feel safe, and keep you safe from all things.. and He is with you all the time.

His name is God. Jesus Christ’s father. Our creator.

God IS love so everything He does is in love. Pretty cool to have a Dad who always, always, always walks in love. It’s very safe. It’s very empowering.

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So I leave you with this thought:

Dad– I do love you- even though I don’t speak to you often.

AND:

God is GOOD and something GOOD is going to happen today and everyday with God our Father walking with us.

Happy Fathers Day Everyone!

Forgive your children. Forgive your parents. Forget it all- there is no point harbouring memories that only eat you up, spit you out and end up destroying lives.

xx Vashte xx

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A Question For You?

by Vashte on August 28, 2014

Thankyou for reading my website! I am encouraged by hearing from you and would love your feedback…..

I am Vashte www.vashte.com

HI! This is me. Vashte. And I would like to hear from you – reading this post. 

Would you be so kind to tell me why you are here – on my site? 

How did you find it? What were you looking for?

I started this site after the sudden death of my partner- to cancer. It was a shock to many, myself included. I wrote predominantly on empowerment, strength, determination and the healing health journey – mind, body and spirit. Encouraging others, encourages me and I find it easy to write from the heart.

I have, for all my life, supported, encouraged and powered – from behind the scenes. I did not have the belief in myself to stand on my own, I mean – why would you want to listen to me? Friends might.. family don’t- and strangers- well I just smile and look pretty. It seems all my life others could see what I had to offer, but not I. I wanted to, but there was something big holding me down. I know what it was, and it is very annoying that something I was completely aware of could still hold me down. I let it you see.

When you don’t face your issues they control you. It appears scary to face them – but when that day comes- and I hope you face yours sooner than I chose to face mine- they run for cover. Because the truth will set you free. Perhaps one day I will talk about that issue- I am sure it will help someone somewhere out-there knowing that I have personal issues too. You see, I don’t know that some of you think I do. I often write on ‘belief in self”, ‘encouragement’, ‘self esteem’- please remember I am human too and have the same ‘fears’and set backs as anyone else.

Consider this: Your perception is your reality- your reality is your perception. Think about that :)

When I lost my partner- when he was stolen from this earth, my life changed dramatically. Inside out, upside down, topsy turvy. But not in an out of control kind of way. Not in the way so many experience when they lose a loved one. I was at Rhema Bible College that year, as he was, studying for my (our) diploma in Biblical Studies. Let me tell you- I had NO desire to go as I was high on life building his (our) business!! I was taking it global baby! I LOVED it!! But he wanted to go study- so I went along like a petulant school girl, kicking and screaming. On the first day- I was hooked. What a miracle. Funny that. Little did I now what that year had in store for us. Interesting how God puts us in places to protect us- isn’t it. Places where we will be blessed despite what is comes. From ANY direction.

Inside out, upside down, topsy turvy year and year after that. I found out what I was made of.. again. When life throws mud at you- make mudcakes. So there. Why wallow in it? Get up and do something about it. So … this site started as a place for you to get to know me.. on my own. As a single entity. Out here without the support of anyone else, but you- the people who take the time to read my posts- who are you? Tell me what you enjoy the most, please?  Here, I have taken myself out of the shadowns. Here, for once, I am not selling myself short.. or am I? I’m sure I do it all wrong here – there is no plan- no agenda…

But I ask you – what is it that draws you in to me? Do I still attract you? What do you want to hear from me?

I would really like to know as… it is time I took life to the next level.

It has taken me this long from 2011 to 2014 to settle down again. To recover and to relax. I am now engaged to a beautiful man filled with love, support and encouragement. It would be easy for me to slip back into a ‘behind the scenes role’. But my loss propelled me to a place where I know I have something to say. ..Do you want to hear it? 

I am older than I look. There. I said it. Some people underestimate me because they think I am younger than I am. I have lived lives upon lives upon lives. I have lived lives within lives. I have done things I am not proud of, and have done things that surprised even me! I have encouraged, I have disappointed. I am human. I have studied the mind. I have studied the spirit. I have studied the body. I have studied food. I am a master of none- but a student of all. 

It is time to step further out off the safe ledge and into the unknown. There will always be a safety net. I don’t know what I was afraid of before- was it failure.. or success…. 

I know now that life can be stolen in the blink of an eye. It is not the things that you did that you truly regret in life.. it is the things you didn’t even try. Those are the things you will regret at the end of life.

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My wholefood workshops start in Sept– if you want a close up and personal encounter of the third kind with me and more people like me – make sure you email your spot!! I was asked for these- so I have jumped off and put it out there- did you ask? Do you want to come? If you know even a little about me- you will know that my life walks this walk more than I talk the talk- so many people out there talking talking talking. So many shooting stars. Don’t be a shooting star- be the bright star that shines bright- for a very long time. Shooting stars.. they are here one minute- burnt out the next. 

Success is achieved by consistency. Consistency – so don’t be drawn in by the bright light swishing past. Be the stable light, reliable and standing strong in the end.

I run “Empowerment Coaching” via Skype – fully qualified you can ask for the creds if you are interested- and a qualified Personal Trainer…

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But my question still remains to you- what is it you like to read from me most of all?

I am going to have this site redesigned with more structure- is there anything you would like to see more of? less of? ….

(I’m not very good  short posts am I?!) Sigh- technology is not my forte- and that’s a shame.

Thanks for listening I am off to make paleo chewy choc fudge brownies for my family tomorrow – now this a truth if ever there was one.. had you known me in London (I lived there for 10 years…)or growing up… you would have fallen off your seat had you even considered the concept of Vashte running wholefood workshops!!!! I managed fine dining restaurants but there is no way I would create the food!! !!! xxx

Never say NEVER!!! FAMOUS LAST WORDS

I would LOVE to hear from you- post comments in the comments sections below- let me grown this site organically :)

XX Vashte xx

 

 

 

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Seasons

by Vashte on May 28, 2014

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As I look at my life, I realise it is made up from a  medley of different seasons. Each day leading further into, or as a continuum, or leading out of that season and prepping for the next season I allow, or choose to walk into.

The life I live is my responsibility directly. Noone else’s. Yes, things happen ‘to’ me and around me that are seemingly out of my control. Or are they? When I reflect back and look with open eyes and heart, and with hardcore pure honesty.. nothing I have lived through has been completely out of my control.

I may not have been able to ‘stop’ things happening, especially as a child; but I could definitely have done a little more, or a lot more about them to make my feelings known. I still cannot ‘stop’ some things happening as an adult- but I do have more ability to understand; take myself out of any given situation; choose to ‘put myself in other people’s shoes’; consider different meanings for events that mean one thing to me; ask questions; speak up; action change.

Seasons in life are here to help mold us into the brilliant human beings we are designed to be. And as logical and predictable as the seasons in one year are; so too are our very own seasons. Completely logical. 

The seeds we plant today will be the harvests for our tomorrows. I cant help but relate the parable of the sower, spoken by Jesus (Luke 8: 4-15), to my life today – and yours potentially?

If my seed (my ideas) are thrown away or not even spoken of, my life remains as it is. Life happens ‘to’ me. I am the ‘victim’, and ‘life’ is in control. If my dreams are never even made into goals, they will never become my reality. Life goes on without me, and I will forever be looking on as a spectator- wishing on a star. I fall to the wayside and the world tramples me down.  Survival of the fittest.

When we have courage to go after even a small dream, then we overcome self doubt, and dis-belief. No matter what has happened in life, no matter what people have said- we have the power to change all those things. Don’t live life as a spectator. Don’t be pushed into the gutter. Don’t be trampled down. All it takes is one small step to start changing that.

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If I plant on stony ground- what do I expect to grow from that? How do I expect to produce a harvest from that?

I look around my world and I question – is my ground stony? How have I been treating myself and others? Am I loving, considerate, passionate, truthful? If I am walking in truth, then the people around me will reflect that. As will my workplace. As will my home space. Or am I living ‘in ‘ the world- ‘expecting‘ the world to ‘give me what I deserve’? Do I have an attitude of resentment, anger and hatred? Am I hardening my heart, and therefore hardening the soil (world) around me to reflect the negativity I believe to be true? Do I have a chip on my shoulder? Are all people annoying and wrong all the time? Is my patience thin with life? Is my attitude: I work hard… Nothing was ever given to me… Nothing good will ever come.. I ‘deserve’better….? Stony ground.

A world on stony ground is a cold, hard place. Lonely. It is a heart thing. We don’t need to open the heart over night.. Jesus said to ‘guard your heart above all else’, but He did not say to make it hard.  We can start by cracking a smile at work.. to the cafe workers.. to your husband or wife. What eventuates from that one small gesture, can instigate a softening of the heart… softening of the soil in which we live.

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If I plant seeds with weeds- what can we expect from this? Is a productive season likely to eventuate with weeds all around my precious seeds?

I look around my world and ask myself- am I living with weeds? Am I living in truth, peace and in that space of incredible lightness in being? Am I empowered? Am I empowering to others? Are they listening? Who are the people I connect with? Are they honest, determined and caring? Or is my environment toxic? Are there chemicals all around, and yet the weeds morph into superweeds- condescending, haughty, self righteous? Are there road blocks with every corner I turn? Do I stumble and fall, finding noone to offer a hand up? Do I offer a hand to those who tumble and fall? Are my conversations all about ‘me, me, me’; do I talk behind people’s backs; do I harbour jealousy, resentment, self pity. Do my connections? Are my ideas considered, or are they squashed before the idea is even fully disclosed? Weeds- kill healthy seedlings.

Weed out the thorns in life. Weed the thorns from your own self. Always start with self first, before we look to others. Chances are we harbour the issue ourselves,  which is why we attract such lifestyles to us. Clean from the inside out first and watch the weeds just fall away naturally as we replace those spaces with encouraging, forward thinking, empowered life skills and people. 

When we plant our seeds on fertile soil- of course they grow and flourish. So long as they are nourished.

I ask myself is my life fertile? Do I see blessing in all things? Am I experiencing the beauty that is life? Do I appreciate every day, the opportunities, the people, the lifestyle. Am I making the most of my given days and circumstances. Is there anything I can do to be more of a blessing to myself, and to others? Am I regularly checking my heart space- clearing it from stones, weeds and thorns as they crop up?

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  • These are all things I constantly remind myself to consider and ask in life.
  • These are all things I need reminding of too.

The seasons that have seemed the hardest, difficult and painful  have been the seasons where I fought. Those were the seasons I wanted to be somewhere or someone else, where I chose to hold on to things that have passed away. In doing so, I chose not to ‘be’ in the moment learning the lessons I needed to learn, to move on. Stuck in the moment... a catch phrase for a reason. Those moment can last years if we are not careful. Even in the midst of heart ache, pain and anguish there is light and hope. There is a reason to move on. When we see the event for what it is, whatever it is, and learn to let it go by learning and accepting.. then we are free. Then we are free to move to the next stage or season.

Every event that has happened, has shaped me to be the woman I am today. In the thick of those ‘life changing’ events are where I realised more power and strength, as well as true joy.

Why would anyone want to change the past? The past is the past. It just is. Noone is changing it. Not ever. So let it go but make sure you learn what you need to learn from it, with an open heart.. See it for what it is- just the past. It can not hurt you. Not if you don’t let it. I use those things that were designed to hurt me the most, to my advantage. I use them to help other people. My past cant hurt me.

Only I can hurt me, and why would I do that?

BE the light so many people, are looking for and needing today.

Understand your season is only momentary- build on it if you like it; observe it and change what you need to change if you are fighting it. it too shall pass. It is only a season. Stop fighting.

xx Vashte xx

 

 

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Risk

by Vashte on April 8, 2014

I was rummaging through one of my collectors boxes :) and I came across this poem. It not written by me, but by a 15 year old girl with maturity beyond her age. I do not know the author, nor do I know where it came from but I thought it timely to post. It was a message to me and I’m banking a message for a couple of my readers out there as well.

Read; take on board the message; and remember- this is written by a 15 year old. Let’s all Live Our Lives OutLoud- every day of the week, no matter what the circumstance….:

RISK

 

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To reach out to another

Is to risk showing your true self.

To place your ideas, your dreams,

  your feelings

before people, is to risk appearing

  the fool.

To love is to risk being heartbroken

To hope is to risk despair

To succeed is to risk failure.

But risks must be taken

because the greatest failure in life

is to risk nothing.

The person who risks nothing

Does nothing,

Is nothing.

They may avoid suffering and sorrow

But they cannot learn.

Learn to live, feel, change, love, grow.

Changed by certainty,

They are slaves,

They have no freedom

For only a person who risks is

  free.

Christine Adamson, Age 15

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Emotional Stress

by Vashte on March 12, 2014

Lets talk emotional.

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Emotional stress and what it can do to a body.

Emotional Stress can be a major contributor to a vast majority of illness, directly and non directly. Illness from the common cold (how frequently do you get a simple little cold, the sniffles, or some other ‘minor’ illness that keeps you únder the weather’ – just slightly) – to more ‘serious’ illness in terms of acute or terminal illness. Yes, stress affects them all.

Every part of the human body can be impacted negatively (or positively) by ‘stress’..

Stress experienced in a negative way, and for too long contributes to:

  • depression
  • reduces the immune system
  • delays healing- emotionally and physically
  • may cause heart attack/stroke
  • impairs memory
  • can increase risk of cancer
  • increases inflammation
  • unwanted weightloss/gain
  • worsen diabetes
  • impairs sexual function
  • increases ageing
  • and more…so much more

Stress makes the body age faster at a cellular and genetic level by shortening ‘telomeres’. Telomeres are DNA at the end of chromosomes that directly affect how quickly cells age. The shorter the telomere, the shorter the life span. Research it. BUT all is not lost if you are a stress head, or are in the middle of an incredibly stressful situation!!!

Stress -Management techniques have been shown to lengthen telomeres (yay!!) So there is light at the end of the tunnel!!!

A life without Stress does not exist. You don’t see every person ageing rapidly, developing chronic illness and living a shortened life by living a life filled with stress. Some do, some don’t. Interesting. This poses the question- why is that? Why can some people handle stress in their stride; whilst others collapse the moment one thing falls out of place? Could it be that the people able to handle stress have implemented stress- management techniques giving them tools to manage stress on higher and higher levels? hmmm maybe…

I think it wise to look briefly at what stress is before we delve into that.

What is stress?

By definition ‘stress’ according to the Oxford dictionary for this purpose is:

noun 
  1. 2.
    a state of mental or emotional strain or tension resulting from adverse or demanding circumstances.
    “he’s obviously under a lot of stress

‘Stress’ is often viewed as “what is going on in a person’s life”. Change; good or otherwise; is stress. A change in perception, understanding, belief, circumstance, lifestyle, weight, marriage/divorce, life/death…. the list goes on and on and on…Stress can be ANY factor contributing to change.  Good change can be just as ‘stressful’ as adverse change for some people. 

The degree to which a person experiences stress is directly related to how that person reacts to that stress. It is how you, or I, as an individual person perceives the stress, which in turn dictates how much if any, stress is involved. Stress is completely subjective, non quantifiable, and entirely personal. I cannot judge judge your stress levels, and you cannot judge my stress levels. Does this make sense?

In a world where we are seeing more chronic illness, more depression, more suicide, more loneliness, more nervous breakdowns, more meltdowns, more encouragement towards being an ‘individual’ so therefore supposedly ‘stronger without the need for anyone else’s help……??!!, and more drugs than ever expected in pharmaceutical drug companies wildest dreams prescribed- with that number exponentially risingwhy are we not ALL taking a moment  to ask ourselves:

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  • WHAT exactly is going on here?
  • WHO has created and continues to create this Monster?
  • HOW do we stop it? Or at least- how do I stop it in my own world. If you stop it in your world- you will be the light for others to see and give them the strength to believe that they can do it to. I mean if i can do it, you can too right? So if you can do it- so can someone else. And so it flows.
  • Why is a “meltdown” or “nervous breakdown” so accepted today? Why is it virtually expected at some time in life for many people today???

The people of today must be experiencing obscene amounts of this ‘stress’ to lead them down the road to breakdowns. What is going on????

Perceived Stress.

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If you feel stress; you are stressed. It really is that simple. Your body will respond to how you are feeling; so if you ‘feel’ stress- the body will result in stress. The mind affects the body just as the body affects the mind. We cannot dissociate one from the other.

It does not matter what the stress in any given person’s life actually is. What matters  is how that person deals with or manages that stress. For example: making billion dollar investments on high risk stocks can be experienced or perceived in exactly the same magnitude as changing jobs, losing/gaining weight; having a haircut to someone else!!!!  Stress is as individual as we are, and is often compounded by a sequence of events. The straw that breaks the camel’s back is not what actual breaks the camel’s back, but it is the one thing that often gets blamed for doing so when in fact, the sequence of event that lead up to that straw is responsible. That sequence may have started years prior! 

HOW do we stop Stress? Or at least manage it? 

We don’t stop ‘stress’ in life. Without ‘stress’ we would like devolve as opposed to evolve. There would be no challenge in life. No goals to hit. No obstacles to overcome. ‘Stress’ is a necessary and healthy co-factor in our existence. I have learnt the most, the fastest, and more robust lessons through times of ‘stress’ and even tragedy. HOW I choose to face stress directly affects HOW stress affects me. Am I a victim? Or am I an achiever? Do I overcome obstacles with one mighty bound (Superman!); do I take a few mighty bounds?; or loads of mighty bounds which might not appear to the outside world as mighty, but in my world, and where I’m at for that moment- they are mighty!!! This is the mindset of a Mighty Warrior. A Princess warrior. A Compassionate Samurai. Whatever you want to call yourself to give you empowerment- do so! Never the victim. Never.

Some keys I use to manage stress are as follows. They are my Stress Management Tools. If you have not got some tools in place that are used on a daily practice, perhaps you too might like to implement some, if not all, of these too. They just might save your life, as they have mine :)

Vashte’s 9 Stress Management Tools:

1. Learn HOW to turn stress OFF when it is not beneficial. 

In certain circumstances such as when I’m working, exercising, creating… stress is good! I ask myself which areas of life I thrive on stress and allow it in for a short time. This is controlled. I like it. What is life without a challenge or two? There are certain seasons when even a little stress can be too much, so learn to pull back in those times. We all have different seasons and thresholds dependent on what is happening in life, and how we deal with them. Many factors are completely out of our control- what we DO control is HOW we ‘react’ to them or manage them.

Stress in this manner can be healthy when I turn it on and turn it off. I turn it on to produce the goods, being mindful of how I am with others around me at work; then leave it at the door when I go home, or change roles. When I go home at night, I relax. My choice. My rules. Turn it on and turn it off. Just like a light switch. 

2. Pray.

Fear Not

As a Christian I turn the The Lord as often as I remember. I do forget sometimes and thats when I end up tripping over my own feet. :) I’m human; I forget. I talk to Him, I read my Bible, I use work books to help me interpret the Bible and develop my relationship with Jesus, The Holy Spirit and God. I read 21st C books written by Christian’s on how to live in this world- being relevant. I apply these principles. I ditch worldly affirmations and worldly self help books- they just don’t work like The Truth. Nothing does! If you want to know where my ‘wisdom’  comes from- as some have asked- it’s not my wisdom – it comes from God. I dont pray crying out ‘why has this happened to me??!!’ I pray using stregnth and promises from the Bible. I pray from a place of empowerment. Always. With belief that God will show the the way, the truth and light. And He does. Every time. HERE is how I pray to get results x.

3. Meditate

The Bible encourages us to meditate on God’s Word daily. So I meditate. On Him and the truth he has written about me and for me. 

I find meditating first thing in the morning and (if I’m being particularity awesome….) last thing at night. Definitely first thing in the morning. This sets my day up in gratitude, love, clarity and focus. I usually incorporate a brisk walk to help physically charge and awaken my body at the same time.  I walk without music. Just me, God and the other early risers getting ahead start on all the late starters in life! If I quiet my mind, am present in the moment, I hear the answers I seek. Effective mindfulness. Effective communication with the One True God. Effectively developing my relationship with Him. Having fun with Him.

Meditation is about focusing mental energy.

Focusing energy increases power.

Increased power is empowerment.

Empowerment allows for more concentration.

Concentration results in better function and effectiveness: in school; in business; in sports; in LIFE.

4. Exercise

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Ooh a life without exercise would be equivalent to a life without music! = NO Life at all!!!!

Walking is GREAT!!! Most people can walk. So do more of it. Faster. 😉 Walking with purpose and appreciating that we CAN walk will change the state of the mind. Try it. Gentle exercise is better  for the vast majority of people in today’s society regardless of fitness level. Walking is one of the BEST fat burning exercises you can dream of doing. Dancing is another. Walking is easier see?! 

I run as nothing makes me feel more alive than when I finish a run. But this is a very jarring exercise and certainly has it’s faults. I walk in the mornings :) Join me! Walk. Walk with power. First thing in the morning. Change your life. Change your stress levels. Empower yourself.

5. Stretch!

Pilates is a brilliant practice for stretching, lengthening the body and strengthening the core. It will give you an amazing posture and free any creaky or stuck bits (frozen shoulder anyone?) Instructors are usually highly trained and focus on core strength. True change comes from the inside out- from the core. Start stretching.

By working with the body, and focusing on positive change, we can manage stress far more effectively.

6. FOOD

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I finally bring this up. One of my favourite topics!! The food I eat plays a direct role in how I process information and how I handle situations. If you are any different, then… you my friend, are an alien from a planet far, far away.

  • Foods that make us sleepy and tired such as: heavy, creamy foods, pastas, breads, dairy; can slow the body and mind as energy is used in some attempt to digest this crap. Loads of energy is taken as these so called foods produce an inflamed response in many people sending the body into overdrive, causing stress internally.
  • Refined sugar, artificial sweeteners and foods with chemicals (most supermarket foods) go straight to the brain and cause neuro-toxic responses. In ‘Vashte’ words: cause brain farts, toxic ones, resulting in behavioural changes in the vast majority of people. Myself included. I used to drink a product called Defin-8. Sold as a ‘mostly natural pre-workout’ – used by  people who use the gym, or in my case for energy. Much like an energy drink. Well, there is nothing natural about this product. Beware of the label ” natural sweetener”. WHAT EXACTLY is this? It is not labeled. For your information: MSG is a NATURAL PRODUCT. I drink Defin-8 and my brain shuts down. Like flicking a switch. Boom. I’m in lala land. I get agitated and itchy. BAD. Really bad. Here is what is happening: brain cells are dying. Just by me drinking a product sold as ‘mostly natural’. Lord knows I have damaged enough brain cells without adding to the equation!
  • Stimulants like coffee and energy drinks can and often do result in dependency. They sure will stimulate the brain and therefore nervous system producing some degree of false energy, and just as surely, they will result in a crash around 1-3 hours later producing a sure fire crash. Hence reaching for another hit.

Choose real food. Real food is whole food. Whole food is made by God without man’s intervention. We stuff it up every. single. time. Wholefoods are: vegetables, good fats, proteins and a little fruit. If you don’t know where to start with healthy, whole foods I have a wide range of FREE easy recipes to get you going!  Click HERE NOW!I’m not one to hang out in the kitchen unless its a party and that’s where it’s at, but only ever then! My recipes are simple, easy and clean eating. AND DELICIOUS!!! Give them a go!!

By changing the food and drink I consume, I directly changed how I experienced and will continue to experience stress.

7. Breathe!!!!

So simple, yet so many forget about it!

Physiologically, when we are stressed it is completely natural to breath shallow, fast breaths. Why? The body is preparing itself for danger. It senses attack. It is preparing me for a fight or a flight. Blood rushes to muscles in my arms and legs leaving digestion – don’t eat when stressed! Eyes dilate. Blood rushes to my heart and increases beats per minute. I’m ready to fight or run. This is an inbuilt defense mechanism that has kept us humans alive since the dawn of time. Its awesomely clever.  God is pretty on to it! When I am stressed I can get tunnel vision- my vision becomes like a laser beam to the exclusion of everything else. Good if I’m looking for an escape, bad if there is oncoming traffic….or I’m not needing to run like a black panther to escape one. Which has never happened by the way. I’m still here. When I say I like to run.. it is not fast by any stretch of the imagination :)

If I were to experience that every time I experienced stress, I would be a train wreck. Some people live in this state day in, day out. This is chronic stress and is guaranteed to make a human body very sick. If not now, eventually. I lived in this state for two years. A human can live like this for a large part of their lives. What often results is sudden cardiac arrest. Often the first sign of cardiac arrest is death. Which is why cardiovascular disease is the number one cause of death in the Western World. It is too late at the first sign of cardiac arrest.

  • Breathe.
  • Notice your breath.

The breath is usually the easiest sign indicating stress. Sometimes I notice I am shallow breathing when my conscious mind has not quite connected to any perceived stress. All I need to do to regain control is stop doing whatever it is that I am doing and focus on my breath. By taking long, slow, deep breathes, I regulate my heart rate and slow my breathing and heart rate down.

Stress can be controlled by breathing correctly! So simple. Why are we not all aware of this and taught to practice this? In school would be the best place to start. It may help with bullying, exams, sports events.. life after school.

Breath is the link between the mind and the body. It both reflects and affects the body’s level of stress. The mind affects the body; the body affects the mind.  The whole is in the part and the part is n the whole. 

8. Focus.

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Determine my focus. I ask myself: what is it I am focusing on? Is it beneficial or toxic? Ditch the toxic. This revolves around forgiveness, letting go and forgetting. There is no forgiveness without forgetting. Chronic hatred and anger are among the worst forms of stress. If I remain angry with a person or situation, I empower that person or situation to lord over my life, take control of my thoughts and create a toxic, sick world for me to live in. No thanks.

Forgiving a person does not excuse the behaviour, but it does free my mind from stress, suffering and physical illness. Let it go. There are many situations in my life where I could ‘justifiably’ be angry and harbour resentment and hatred. pfff. No way. I give it all to God and He can deal with the mess. I have a life to live.

Determine your focus with a pure heart = freedom.

It takes strength and courage to forgive. Just try it. A courage you will never experience if you choose not to forgive, let go and foeget. Live an empowered life, not a life lorded over by those who have hurt you.

9. Reach Out.

Connect with the people! Find support groups, or people similar to you who are also moving forward and getting on with life. DON’T connect with people who marinate in the past and tell their story over and over and over..and over. Toxic!! Run Forrest RUN!!!

We all have sad times in life. Don’t choose to stay there! Move on. Join sports groups, reading groups, computer groups..do stuff that you find FUN!!! FUN!!! The key to life!!! Dont LOOK for happiness!!! Do the stuff that interests you and you ARE the happiness and fun in the world!!!! Just get out and start connecting with good people! Get on with LIVING!! 

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This is NO  dummy run, although it sure looks as though there are some dummies sleep walking around this world! DON’T be ONE!!!

Quit hiding out on your own. That is dangerous. Being alone is when the lies your head tells you appear real. Get out and about. Dust the cobwebs off and start Living Life OutLoud!! Watch the stress melt away, seemingly without you even trying too hard.. because you are having fun! Before long you will wonder what that old life was all about and how it was even possible in your world. 

Life is for Living. Manage the stress using techniques proven over the ages. Life involves stress. We can’t stop it but we sure can manage HOW we deal with it.

Live Your Life OutLoud.

xx Vashte xx

Vashte has a BA majoring in Psychology; is a Master Neuro-Linguistic Programmer, Master Results and Performance Coach, and holds qualifications in advanced neurological re-patterning. She has a Diploma in Christian Biblical Studies and is a Qualified Personal Trainer registered with Fitness Australia.  She has been researching nutrition for 20 years; composing wholefood food plans for 6 years, focusing on weight and fatloss via wholefood.

Vashte is a health and wellness ambassador, specialising in spirit, mind and body. 

Vashte is currently based on the Gold Coast and consults from there. Skype sessions are available for those outside this area. Please contact her via email: info@vashte.com for further information.

 

 

 

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BULIMIA. A life free from it.

by Vashte on February 28, 2014

As a self confessed ‘foodie’ I love to share my learnings, creations and ideas on this page hoping that I inspire a few others to come to the realisation that food is our friend, and not the enemy.

Fillet of Salmon in lemon and pesto with Fresh Salads

My ENTIRE life I have believed the opposite; that food was my enemy. I thought this was my lot in life and I just had to live with it; that I had a ‘love-hate’ relationship with food and this was the way life was going to stay.

I have been on so many diets, so many pills and every fix known to man (woman) to get my weight/size down. I know what it is like to battle the mind every moment of every day of your entire life wondering where the voices came from, and where the decision for this love/hate thing evolved from.

More importantly:  how to get rid of it.

I started dieting young. I have always had eyes on me as a young girl with a pretty face; intellectual (had to work at that); and very competitive and successful in sports. Yet, I grew fast in my teen years. Yay- for some but not for a self-conscious sports girl.

Food became my escape. I thought I ate well; healthy, and followed the rules. The rules that stipulated grains are ‘healthy’ and ‘good’ for you. So healthy whole grains  will help keep me lean and filled with energy? Wrong. Boy; is that the biggest, FATTEST LIE the food industry has had the audacity to vomit all over us, and is still allowed to do so? It makes me angry to say the least.

How can we move forward as a healthy nation(s) when we are SOLD constant lies like this. People like you and I think we are doing the right thing, when, in fact, the truth is the complete opposite. Celebrities endorse rubbish products; sports people we, and especially young people admire and aspire to be like.  Where is the integrity?  When they wouldn’t eat these foods even if it was the last ‘food’ item on the earth. Hypocrisy I cry!!

Enter, stage left, to my life bulimia. But first I lost a truck load of weight through Weight Watchers. I have never been  significantly overweight at any stage in my life, but have lived at the heavier zone of the ‘healthy weight range’ at times. It all started with training for sports and eating too much wheat/fibre. Little did I know then. (If only I had known then what I know now, it could have saved years of agony.)

You don’t have to be significantly different to passionately hate yourself you know.

I know as I have lived many years masking that truth.

So success reigned in for me at age 15 when I lost so much weight I touched on anorexia..but didn’t quite make it. So, as I ‘failed’ at that as well (note the language used- I thought I was a failure in life). Here is where the love/hate thing with food entered my life and pretty much stayed with me until only very recently. Bulimia. A Love/Hate relationship with food representing a love-hate relationship with self. More hate than love but as passive aggressive people we rarely take it further. Enough that it rules our lives and minds.

I visited the hospital as an outpatient for a short time working through this event around this age.  Perhaps this is when I decided to study the mind and how it worked to complete a degree in psychology, as I found it far too easy to tell the therapists what they wanted to hear, or lie to them and have them believe me.  Interesting that.

Bulimia is not just vomiting food back up. A person with bulimia will use whatever means there is to ‘purge’ food eaten. This can involve vomiting, laxatives, excessive exercise.. any way that person thinks they can get rid of the ‘bad’ or unwanted food eaten. As they get older, they often get wiser and more able to justify certain behaviours to sell them as acceptable and normal.- To themselves as well as those around them.

They can starve themselves for long periods of time going on strict diets, and then BOOM one day eat one thing off the schedule, and it is all over red rover. The bingeing starts.

Noone would ever guess that I have experienced this. It is not something many people speak on and we are usually pretty good at keeping it quiet. Professionals don’t get caught.

I am sharing this with anyone reading my blog as I think it is important you know that I am not perfect. I do my best. I learn. I grow. I need help sometimes. I help others. We all have our strengths and we all have those points that are not so strong. Admitting those not so strong points can help us beat them. When they are kept a secret they can and will eat you alive, eventually killing you. Literally.

One Life, Live it Well

So what needs to change for a person living a life like this? A lot, yes. But one step at a time is the answer, as it is with all things in life.

Steps. There are always steps to progress -big and small. When we understand this we can move forward whilst in control, or gaining control. The key word here is únderstand’.

I understood that the behaviour of bulimia was not sensible or positive but I continued this for most of my adult life regardless; seeking answers through routine, systems and rules. Permitting it to continue by not dealing with it.  This doesn’t work because routines, systems and rules are always broken or changed at some stage so we need flexibility. A person who inherently believes they are at the mercy of anything else, be that a person, thing or situation, is a victim. They are a person living in blame; passing responsibility off to other people, other situations or other things.

Living and allowing bulimia to have any part of my life gave all the power to…food! An inanimate object??! Food- which is meant to be a source of nourishment and enjoyment; to me was a severe source of pain and hatred.

Stepping out of the blame side of life and into the responsibility side of life has been easier than I could ever have imagined.

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There are steps I took in the ‘natural’. Meaning steps made by man; developed by psychologists, great ideas from people who speak on how they themselves freed themselves from the dark depths of despair.. (please note that many people who claim such things are not always walking in truth– scratch at the surface and you will see for yourself so beware the blind leading the blind…)

Many of these steps make good logical sense. I have spent years studying the mind and how it works, and have the qualifications to boot. But somehow there was always an empty void there, despite the great ideas and science behind many theories.

So what was missing?

Spiritual Truth.

Enter Christ. When the concept of Christianity was reintroduced to my world in 2008, I was just like most sceptics out there. I was sure there was God- some universal spirit being overseeing us all. I am inherently sure I have not evolved from any animal. But my question was: what and who is this universal God?

I have spent many days, perhaps years screaming into the night with a silent cry asking “why am I here????”. But I was screaming into darkness and not to anything or anyone specifically. So when the concept of Christianity was brought once more into my life, I was vehement I was not one of those “archaic, dusty Christians”. What I was thinking and visualising was the concept of ‘religion’. Man Made religion. Religion overflowing with rules and regulations (I  make enough of my own without the need for some crusty old human dictating how I’m supposed to be in this life); that Man Made Religion packed with hypocritical paedophiles; that Man Made Religion not designed for 21st living. No. I was definitely NOT one of those and never will be.

I’m still not!

When Christianity was explained and then shown to me for what it really is; that is: true love, true peace, true forgiveness; then that is when I was happy to

  • A. Give my heart to Jesus and ask Him to live in it.
  • B. Be called a Christian- A follower of Christ.

Christianity: where no man or woman tells me how to love God, myself or others because God has written it all down in His own Bible.  I can read it for myself, from my own heart and He can do his loving work in me and change me from the inside out without any other man or woman giving their spin or opinion on it. Thankyou very much!

So He did, He has and He continues to.

Chains have been broken from my life just ‘like that’’. Some took a little working, some took a lot and some still have to be. But when change comes from within, and a little seed is planted – in love- showing us how to change, and giving us the strength to change, and giving us the belief that we CAN change… because no matter what we do, say or are, that God LOVES us no matter what… and we are safe..and we are protected…and when we don’t have the strength we can give it all to Him because we are strong in the Lord and the power of His might….

Then we can make the change.

Until then, we will always be in our heads. This is fact. I lived there most of my life and often go back to living in my head until I am reminded to reconnect to my heart. That is where God lives if you ask Him to. That is where He can make more change in your life than you EVER thought possible.

Bulimia. Just ONE chain I carried around most of my adult life. Gone. That one took a bit of work. It started with beginning to understand HOW MUCH God loves me. How much He has ALWAYS been there for me and protected me- even through the REALLY, REALLY bad times. He protected me. So in seeing these truths, I could finally break the concrete barrier I had laid over, and over, and over, and over that issue to ‘protect’ my heart from more hurt. In this space I could feel and connect safely with the behaviour and understand what drove it. In this space I could let it go. Forever.

You know when something leaves your life forever. Spiritually you will feel it. Because YOU control what you allow in and out of your life.

Bulimia. That issue I held onto as a security blanket for so long. Why? Well without it..what was I? I had infused it into such an everyday event in life even until recently; that without it- if I let it go- there would be an empty space. Be careful with empty spaces. Make sure you fill them with Truth. I filled mine with God’s love, His peace and His total acceptance.

Today I no longer have to exercise for hours on end to burn off the food I ate. The food I ate was often not even in excess but I had developed such a negative association with so many items it was obsessive. I can walk past a shop selling items I used to crave and obsess over, and not have any connection whatsoever. I no longer have that burning desire to self harm- because that is what it is. Really. There are fewer and fewer rules that ‘won’t allow’ me to have this or that- because I just don’t want them anymore, or I can have a taste and be satisfied. This in itself is a miracle.  Such is the mind of a person carrying bulimia. What it boils down to is self-love. Or self-hate.

The words I speak over myself are now empowering, most of the time. The words I speak come directly from the Bible. I have tried affirmations. They are nice. They are like pretty flowers to brighten a room but they die, quickly. They are not from Truth. I speak the words that God speaks about me. They quicken my Spirit and make me alive. The Spirit knows Truth when it sees and hears it.

Through loving myself and accepting myself, because God loves and accepts me- no matter what; I can change. I have changed and will continue to change exponentially.  I use my thorough studies in psychology; neuro linguistic programming; fitness; and nutrition to work on a practical level. But without the words from God’s one true book of the Bible, nothing would instigate permanent and lasting change. I took a year out to study the Bible at Rhema Bible College. Here I developed an understanding and an amazing relationship with The Lord God.  That was in 2011 completing a Dip in Biblical Studies. The best year Spiritually of my life. Perhaps one of the hardest emotionally and physically.

But you see, God always shines through your darkest days, if you give Him permission; and reigns down on the great days!! He is the ultimate gentleman and will not force himself on you; will not push you, nor harass you. He waits at the door of your heart, and knocks gently, yet persistently, for you to answer and ask Him in for tea or coffee. Try it. My life has never been so abundantly blessed, so incredibly freed, so wonderfully positive since I asked Him in.

Even through death I am more blessed than even before.

I am all about control. I love to have it. Do not like being out of it. Just look at what happened when I jumped out of an aeroplane. I am an orderly person, and do live with rules and regulations. They are part of my personality. I like them. They make everything tidy and keep things in order. But I give everything to God now. Bulimia is a thing of the past and that’s why I can write about it.

  • I write to perhaps offer hope to anyone else out there who may experience moments of disorder. Because that is what it is- out of order 😉
  • I write to help, even if it is just one person, because YOU as that ONE person; YOU are important. Especially to The Lord.
  • I write because I do not think I am alone in having lived this nightmare. So whether you are someone or know someone who lives an eating ‘disorder’ for a long time or short time.. you are not alone. And if you start to face it; Speak it out and understand it; you are well on your way to destroying that issue.
  • I write because despite this being something most people won’t speak about, or are ashamed of; I am not. It is just another ‘thing’ that I allowed into my life and I have exited it out. No big deal. Nothing is a big deal. Why give it that power. It is ‘just’ something; like an ‘event’; that I experienced and passed. And perhaps because of it, I can reach out to you, or someone you know, to help guide them along the way. Perhaps this synopsis can be a light; a glimmer of hope or even a huge propulsion in the right direction.

Bulimia. It took me around 20 years to break the chain despite a university education, even further education, and immersion into a plethora of mind-body-soul strategies. Why? Because I was looking in all the wrong places for the key.

The heart. The Spirit. That is where the key is to break any chain you have.

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I offer coaching sessions via skype if you are looking for a mentor or trainer to move you from a stuck place, into a place of growth and empowerment. Ask me about it. 

God bless you and thank you for hanging with me here. I hope this journey has shown you some truth into a little part that has made me who I am today; and given you hope for your very own future. It’s a bitch living life blaming other people, things or circumstances for what happens in your own life. Take ownership back, over EVERYTHING.

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Xx Vashte xx

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It’s my birthday!

by Vashte on February 5, 2014

5 February.

All day long- it is my birthday.

What a fabulous day this is, as it is every year!! So I thought it would be timely for me to return to my blog which has been on hold since Dec 18.. I’m sorry to anyone following my site!!

A birthday can symbolise many different things for many different people. To me, I am grateful for the year that has passed and look with excitement into the year that is to come. The day itself is my day. In fact, the entire month is a great celebration and considered, on the whole, as my birthday so any and all gifts and well wishes are welcomed !!! lol.

I will not let the day go by without honouring my mother, without whom none of this would have been possible!!! An amazing lady highly exonerated in my eyes, and worthy of respect and praise. Lord – I think I have put her through a lot even as a good girl… for the most part!!!! :) (shhh) This is my beautiful Mother who raised me as a solo parent pretty much all my life along with my siblings. Incredible lady.

My Mum

www.vashte.comThis year I plan to take this page in a more focused direction or two. Perhaps three. Still making my mind up. I’m thinking- books to come- recipes to include all my instagram updates and more. Perhaps some inspirational pearls. Youtube channel stoked and moving forward.. Coaching programmes -automated and one on one. What do you think? I probably shouldn’t speak before they are created but as this is my page I’m rolling with it. Lets get this project rolling exponentially.

I’ve been thinking way too long about things but am now in a stable place to take the direction I feel called towards most strongly and then see how the wind blows. In all honesty I may have been under the banner of ”analysis paralysis” and some ”disbelief in self”- can you relate? But the thing is; I have learnt slowly, and the hard way, that life is no dummy run. This is it folks! So give it a go! Just do it! What have we got to lose? The ones who succeed are not the ones whith all the ducks lined up in a perfect row. The ones who succeed are the ones who just give it a go! And you know what? What does it matter if it doesn’t work out?! Life does not end in a puff of smoke! It carries on and you get back up, dust of the dirt and start again. Only this time you have a little more wisdom if you have learnt from the mistakes of the past.

So learn from those mistakes.

This page is an exploration of who I am, what I learn, and how I function in this world of ours. Any thoughts I write are indeed my thoughts and beliefs. You can take them on board; marinate in them; or disregard them. All your choice as is everything in life. I figure if you are following me then there must be something you connect with in me, so that is a good thing. I am your girl next door with a sparkle in her eyes, ready to play when I feel like it, share recipes, ideas, inspiration, and even a little coaching tacked on it you want it…

My mistake has been inertia. That little doubting Thomas sitting on the shoulder whispering: ‘”You can’t do that. You can’t say that. Who do you think you are?” But everyone has this voice at some stage in life. Walk right over that voice and speak what you want. Take action to achieve those goals and you will find, as I will, that the voice gets more and more distant as you trample it with the Truth in Who you Really Are. And that is Success.

Remove the people who bring you down and doubt you. They do not serve a purpose in your life other than to keep you where you are. Mediocre. Do you want to Live Your Life OutLoud? Do you want to live a life Less Ordinary? Then hang out here with me and walk with me in the direction of  your dreams. Make those dreams a reality and therefore a goal. It does not matter how long it takes. It matters that you get up every time you fall and keep going. Lord, sometimes just standing is a momentous feat. Celebrate standing for a moment!!  Life is not a race. There are more people on this earth than you are aware and whatever it is that you have to offer is there for you to access. Your people; your circles of influence, are different to anyone else’s. Do not get into the ”lack” mentality thinking you are too late.

You are right on time. As am I.

And right on time is where I want to be for my birthday dinner so I love you and leave you today – encouraging you for an empowered year this 2014.

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Birthday dinner – here I come!!!

 

 

 

 

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Christmas…

by Vashte on December 18, 2013

What does it mean to you?

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  • I love this time of the year.
  • I love the festivity, fun and lightness it can bring.
  • I love my family getting together and just hanging out.
  • I love seeing my nieces excited at the prospect of gifts, fun and laughter.
  • I especially love what Christmas really represents. That is the birth of Christ Jesus, the Son of God; and that God gave His only Son to save us from ourselves. We needed it then and Lord Almighty we need it now!

But what does Christmas mean to most people?  It seems more and more that Christmas means something other than the original gift it actually represents.  More and more we shy away from the Truth of what Christmas is, turning the real meaning of Christmas into a fable untold and forbidden to speak of; and creating some fabricated lie depicting the necessity in  ‘giving’; of a fat man called Santa Claus; of eating and drinking well over satiated state and well into gluttony day in and day out during the month of December and well into January; creating a complete waste as food and gifts are unappreciated, thrown out or resold on ebay.

We are sold movies exploring the lives of complete brats, and wonder why our children behave in a manner much the same. Adults as well. The children are only products of their environment.

Everywhere we look we see gross quantities of presents wrapped under trees; ads instruct us we ‘need’ to have this, that and everything else to keep up with the Jones’;  we are told the Spirit of Christmas is all about ‘giving’- so buy more.

I live on the Gold Coast of Australia. It is hot. Really hot at Christmas here. Even so,  I see Christmas puddings, brandy custards, heavy desserts, cooked hams and meats advertised at me as if I were living somewhere freezing cold where possibly I may have some small desire to consume such foods.. but in the middle of Summer?? Are you kidding??? That is weird- surely you would agree with me here? Summer is a time for light food- BBQ’s; salads, cold cuts.. especially in high humidity and heat. Why are they telling me to eat Winter foods? Yet many people subscribe to this.. “after all it IS Christmas!??” Mental!!!!!

You know something-  isn’t it time we turned around and analysed our own behaviour and the absurdity of it at times? I have to do this constantly myself- am I alone?

Christmas can bring absurd amounts of pressure on families, couples and friends as we ‘expect’ things from others and ourselves. Why? Who made the rules governing the importance of excessiveness?

Christmas represents LIFE. Perhaps we might like to examine HOW we are living LIFE at this time of the year as opposed to just following the herd of pigs jumping of the cliff with the others. We just don’t have to.

Christmas is NOT about GIVING GIFTS. They are nice if you can, without over-exerting yourself or going further into debt. But you can give gifts at any time of the year- remember that. Instead of BUYING gifts, you can MAKE your own if you have the time- most people don’t.  Do you realise that giving your TIME is one of the most important and memorable things you can do?

Think about it- what do you remember most from childhood? Is the gifts you received? If you answered yes, then please name every gift you received last year, the year before that and the year before that- then name the gifts you received as a child and from whom the gift was given…..

Or is it the experiences- the life events – you enjoyed and remember the most and easiest? Many people remember the times in life they enjoyed over and above the gifts. They remember the people they shared those times with; where they were and the feelings associated with those times.

I know we are almost at Christmas now, and many people have done their Christmas shopping- but how about making a decision for next year- that you don’t enter into the rat race of razzle dazzle shopping, stress, urgency. Ditch the gross overabundance in purchasing ‘stuff’ and plan fun times to spend with people you love over and above the gifts.

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I believe Christmas was given to us by God to cherish the people we love, appreciate our year that has passed; and remember our Holy Father and His Son who came to give us life abundantly. It is time of the year we can really remember LOVE and HOW to love. How to appreciate. How to start again.

Christmas ITSELF is the GIFT. It is a time when we can remember that we have HOPE. We have JOY. We have PEACE through Christ Our Savour.

Christmas is a time for peace, love and happiness. It has nothing to do with shopping. Nothing to do with Santa. Nothing to do with gluttony. Absolutely eat, and give if it is within your ability- but it is not the MEANING AND PURPOSE of this time of the year.

Unplug from the matrix and remember the Truth. It will set you free.

XXX MERRY CHRISTMAS XXX

(ditch happy holidays!!! What the heck is THAT  slogan all about. Don’t let the modern world suffocate the Truth you know in your heart to be true)

GOD bless you all over this wonderful, love filled season and I pray that you see the light, and seek the Truth to free your Souls now and forever.

xx Vashte xx

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God’s Love

by Vashte on November 14, 2013

I have this prayer hanging over my desk. I find it helpful when I lose sight of direction, who I am and/or how God really see’s me. I thought it may help you too in times when you feel like you need something, or would like something of substance to hold on to. It may help you see a little more clearly how very precious you are and how much He so very much loves you. Especially in those times when you find it hard to love yourself. I have been there too you know. x

Psalm 46:10 – Be still and know that I am God…

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Pray this prayer based on Ephesians1: 17-18; Ephesians 3: 18-19; Colossians1 9-11 and Philippians1:9-11

“Dear God (or Dad),

I ask you to make me intelligent and discerning in knowing you personally and make my eyes focused and clear, so that I can see exactly what You are calling me to do. I ask that I grasp the immensity of this glorious way of life that You have for me. I pray that Christ may live in my heart so that I be rooted and grounded in love and I may be able to understand all the dimensions of this love and be filled with the fullness of You Lord.

I pray that I am filled with the knowledge of Your Will in all wisdom and spiritual understanding, and that I live worthy of You Lord. I pray that I am fruitful in every good work and as I am increasing in the knowledge of You, I am strengthened with Your Power.

I pray that I may still have more love – a love that is full of knowledge and every wise insight. A love that always recognises the highest and best and sees my life full of the true goodness produced by the Power that Jesus Christ gives me to the glory and praise of God.

In Jesus Mighty Name,

Amen.”

If you pray this prayer, you will be pleasantly surprised at how you may then see things with open, loving eyes; and have a better understanding of why you are here, and how much you are loved.

Notes on great ways to pray:

  • Whenever you pray, make sure you use God/Dad/Jesus’ name when you start. Just like a letter. This way you address your prayer to the one true God and He will hear you.
  • Base your prayer on promises written in the Bible, if you can. If you haven’t read the Bible yet, or haven’t started, that is fine as He will hear you anyway. When you base your prayer on biblical promises, it is a very powerful prayer. God NEVER breaks promises xx.
  • Always end your prayer by saying “In Jesus name, Amen.” This way you seal the prayer in Jesus’ name. Every knee shall bow at the name of Jesus, above the earth, on the earth and below the earth; so this way you start the prayer to the One you are talking to, and you end it in Jesus’ name. Nothing and no one can stand between you and your prayer.

Awesomely powerful. xx

God Bless you

xx Vashte xx

If you ever want to connect with me asking questions on Christianity, you are more than welcome. Or if you have questions on life itself…

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Your Reality- What does it look like?

by Vashte on September 27, 2013

Thoughts – Questions – Ideas

Dreams- Goals- Your Reality

Vashte

  • Are you aware of your thoughts as you progress through your day to day life?
  • What words do you speak over yourself each day? Are they positive and encouraging, or are they actually negative and dis-empowering?
  • What do you REALLY believe for yourself? -For your today, and for your future?

I am a firm believe that we create our own reality. I know I do. If I do not, then who is creating my reality for me? Media? Friends? Family? Work? The wind? If I take control of my mind by becoming aware of my day to day thoughts, I can then see how I am processing information coming at me, every day in every way. You can do the same too.

Through becoming aware of our thoughts and observing them as they pop up, we can then understand what filters of ‘reality’ we have chosen to live through. And change them if we like.

  • Empower yourself.

  • Empower your world.

I know ‘things’ have happened to each and every one of us that are unfortunate. Very unfortunate. And many downright stink. We have two choices; to live in the past and marinate in what was, has been or could have been; or we can move on.

What do you choose?

I believe the way to live an empowered, successful, easier life is to observe. Observe everything, and choose what you allow in and then choose how those things make an impact on your life. You choose.

You are not governed by emotions. You govern those emotions. That takes practice, and awareness- just as you practice to learn to play a piano or play a sport. Develop the habit of strength. Strength of mind resulting in strength in character.

If we insist on turning back and living in the past, what happens? You turn to salt. You will be preserved back there, in the past,  stuck in an existence that is no longer relevant or meaningful to a world progressing ever forward. You are left behind. What use are we to anyone, including ourselves, by choosing that life? You are born for such a time as this. TODAY. To LIVE in the today, and build into your future. Not remain in the past. So come with me, let go of those memories, learning from them and letting them go.  This is not ignoring the past. This is strength of character.  Acknowledge the past as that which happened, back then. That ‘then’ is not now. Become aware and alert so that you do not have to repeat that learning again.

Use your wisdom.

You do not have to be the sharpest tool in the box to do well in life. No, no, far from it in fact! Look around and truly see who you respect the most in life. Research these people. You may be surprised as to their past, and their upbringing- it takes all sorts. YOU are an allsort too! You do not have to have the highest grades, nor an intellect that surpasses your peers. You do not have to have the most active social media know-how;  be clever,  be smart,  be fancy…. You do not have to be the skinniest, the prettiest, the biggest, the smartest anything in life to rise sky high.

You DO have to grow your wisdom- and you all have that. It resides in each person’s heart. Listen. Take a moment to stop, and BE. When you stop, exit out of the rat race and take a moment to feel the pulse of life.. that is when your wisdom can grow. Learn from life. Become aware of events in and around you. Question everything. But live through love and you will develop an innate ability to discern truth when you hear it and see it. Words, words, words – So many words, so little action following through. Come out of the sleepwalking slumber so many have permitted to fall over their lives. Come out of the matrix.

So many things do not add up in life- why. Ask the question for yourself, and start to look for your own answers. Too many of us have permitted a life of intravenous drip consumerism… must have, want to have, need it.. we have turned our brains off and along with that- our hearts. It is time to wake up world. It is time to reclaim what is yours- your life.

Vashte Bawden

I believe we are created in the image and likeness of God. Why? Because it is written by the handbook of life- The Bible. What Jesus says goes- more-so now than ever before. Oh I realise many people trip out at the name of Jesus, and immediately barriers are raised, ears are closed. I was one of these people as well, until 2008. The thing is- what is written makes so much sense! It resonates with your heart, and plucks at your soul– when you hear the Word of God spoken through Love – something goes off on the inside of you- that is Truth. So many of us do not understand what that feeling, or emotion is.. because we have never heard it, or felt it before. If we get past the wall of anger- and for many there are valid points to that anger – (humans are humans so often twist anything to be used to their own advantage), but when we allow the love of God to flow through and to you- life changes like nothing else.

But back on point- if we are made in the image and likeness of God, as I believe; and if we treat our bodies as the temple they are designed to be, then we permit our minds to function at a optimum levels through correct treatment of the body in which the mind is housed. Right?!

If we unplug ourselves from the factory farm in which so many live, and take back our lives and learn to think for ourselves, then it stands to reason we will live a more productive, fun filled, free life, right?!

  • Do not allow your thoughts to run wild. I used to.
  • Do not allow your emotions to rule your world.
  • Do not allow others to speak negative over you, invalidate their opinions.
  • Do not allow yourself to speak negative over your own life, and stop criticising others!
  • Stop doing things to yourself that you know harm you!

Choose your thoughts wisely- choose your words wisely – choose your food and drink wisely- choose your actions wisely….

You control everything about your life. Take back those reigns. You were born to reign. It is high time men stood up to be men and women stood up to be women!

I am over seeing big bullies push individuals around. It has never been more prevalent than today; patients being bullied by doctors because doctors are being bullied by sales reps of BIG corporations-as well as bribed; Govts being bullied by Big Pharma; boutique shops and restaurants being destroyed by fast food chains with money to market and lie; lies, lies and more lies on your TV which you watch every single day – for how long????

Unplug!! Unplug!!!

Live the life you were designed to live. And if you don’t know what that is, there is little wonder as you have likely been plugged in most of your life!! The wonderful, exciting thing is though, that you are stronger than you know and a very fast learner! Once you start listening to your heart, and doing the things that make you tick- you will soon get a desire stronger than you have ever felt before.. and it is at that point my friends that you have begun to find your passion.

We live in an age where we can reinvent ourselves at any age. So – go for it! Stop and change direction completely if necessary! Just get off that conveyer belt system churning out pork sausages filled with crap!

YOU are better than that!

YOU can do it!

I Believe in YOU!!

It is time for YOU to believe in YOU too :)

xx Vashte xx

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