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Fathers Day

by Vashte on September 7, 2014

Today, in Australia, it is Fathers Day. I wish all the Fathers out there a wonder day, embracing the gift they have been given in this life.

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It is my brother’s first Fathers Day. He seems to be a pretty cool Dad. His son even gave him a book called “Why I love my Daddy”. When I asked him what the book said, my brother remembers “He is funny” and “He is clever” – straight off the cuff.. not too much else 😉 His son is about 5 months old… so .. I guess he must be as clever as his Dad is… :) They have a beautiful family- filled with love and it shows.

I respect and honour all parents out there. It is a mammoth task and one I have not experienced. Yet or perhaps ever. Who knows.

I know it takes a strong man. A loving man. A true man to be a Dad.

In church today the paster gave us this quote which I loved: “It is easier for a Father to have children, than it is for children to have a good Father”. Hands up those who know this to be true – on both sides of the fence. My hand raises.

An ideal family celebrates this day with their Dad. The man they lean on, trust, feel safe with. This is the image I imagine in my mind about Fathers Day and the one I pray you are celebrating today!:

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For me, Fathers Day has been a day of unexpressed annoyance I guess. I don’t remember my Dad being around, and certainly don’t remember words of encouragement, much love or support from him. Every girl wants the love of her ‘father’. But my ‘father’ was never really much of a ‘father’. I remember fighting though. Too many families are like this today. I pray that more people understand how important it is for a child to have a Mum AND a Dad. If they have issues- keep it away from the children. He was never very good at that. Children are smart and see through everything – it is funny how some adults think they don’t. -Especially when those adults were once children too..

I had a step father once for a while- he tried to be a good man, and a good father. I still respect the role he played in my life as that person. He spent time helping me with certain classes in school, and he tried to be the ‘man’ we needed in our family. As a Dad. But he is no longer in our lives either.

My biological Father is alive. I don’t speak to him very often. I’m not angry with him or upset with him. I still love him because I have a small understanding of who he is, and what it might have been like growing up in his family as a child. And I believe it would have been horrible. HIS father was a bad man. It is harder for  a person who has never been shown love, to give love or express it. It is not impossible, but my Father, chose not to change very much. That is OK with me- it is what it is.

I’m still a girl who wants the love of a Father. I know he loves me even though he doesn’t show it, or know how to show it well, or has bothered much to try..

I am safe though- because I found a real love from The Father of all- Christ Jesus’ Father: God.  So for all the people out there who have not experienced love from their Dad’s. For those who have been mistreated. For those who have been abandoned- and for those who actually do have the coolest Dad’s in the world! -There is One out there who really does love unconditionally- no matter what- through thick and thin- is never angry with you – and always forgives. There is One who will make you feel safe, and keep you safe from all things.. and He is with you all the time.

His name is God. Jesus Christ’s father. Our creator.

God IS love so everything He does is in love. Pretty cool to have a Dad who always, always, always walks in love. It’s very safe. It’s very empowering.

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So I leave you with this thought:

Dad– I do love you- even though I don’t speak to you often.

AND:

God is GOOD and something GOOD is going to happen today and everyday with God our Father walking with us.

Happy Fathers Day Everyone!

Forgive your children. Forgive your parents. Forget it all- there is no point harbouring memories that only eat you up, spit you out and end up destroying lives.

xx Vashte xx

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Gone Troppo!

by Vashte on April 28, 2014

Golden sands, hammocks, beach houses, bikinis, and a wedding! Oh and sunshine, delicious food and drink, reuniting friends from all corners of the world, loads of laughs, conversations and, general mayhem 😉

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I’m on holidays. Such is the life of a Vashte :)

Dear friends are getting married in the tropics of Thailand so attendance is necessary to celebrate this momentous occasion! Many of us met on or very near the dance floors of London Town. Many of us remain good friends throughout the ages :)

This will be a reunion of people who may not have seen each other in up to 10 years! And all to celebrate one friend who unites us all :)

Personally, I cant think of a better location as the rain sets in here on the Gold Coast of Australia! Chasing the sun! I’m thinking poolside cocktails, mocktails, beaches, warm ocean waters, friends, friends and more friends :)

Happy days!!

I will let you know how it went on my return 😉 Don’t wait up !!!

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Twisting by the pool…

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Seat for two ..beachside

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White sands, aqua blue water, clowning around!

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All this sunbathing requires a relaxing massage…on the beach… 😉 Don’t mind if I do thanks!

Working hard on the beaches of Thailand!! Miss you all!! Where are you???

xx Vashte xx

 

 

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Emotional Stress

by Vashte on March 12, 2014

Lets talk emotional.

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Emotional stress and what it can do to a body.

Emotional Stress can be a major contributor to a vast majority of illness, directly and non directly. Illness from the common cold (how frequently do you get a simple little cold, the sniffles, or some other ‘minor’ illness that keeps you únder the weather’ – just slightly) – to more ‘serious’ illness in terms of acute or terminal illness. Yes, stress affects them all.

Every part of the human body can be impacted negatively (or positively) by ‘stress’..

Stress experienced in a negative way, and for too long contributes to:

  • depression
  • reduces the immune system
  • delays healing- emotionally and physically
  • may cause heart attack/stroke
  • impairs memory
  • can increase risk of cancer
  • increases inflammation
  • unwanted weightloss/gain
  • worsen diabetes
  • impairs sexual function
  • increases ageing
  • and more…so much more

Stress makes the body age faster at a cellular and genetic level by shortening ‘telomeres’. Telomeres are DNA at the end of chromosomes that directly affect how quickly cells age. The shorter the telomere, the shorter the life span. Research it. BUT all is not lost if you are a stress head, or are in the middle of an incredibly stressful situation!!!

Stress -Management techniques have been shown to lengthen telomeres (yay!!) So there is light at the end of the tunnel!!!

A life without Stress does not exist. You don’t see every person ageing rapidly, developing chronic illness and living a shortened life by living a life filled with stress. Some do, some don’t. Interesting. This poses the question- why is that? Why can some people handle stress in their stride; whilst others collapse the moment one thing falls out of place? Could it be that the people able to handle stress have implemented stress- management techniques giving them tools to manage stress on higher and higher levels? hmmm maybe…

I think it wise to look briefly at what stress is before we delve into that.

What is stress?

By definition ‘stress’ according to the Oxford dictionary for this purpose is:

noun 
  1. 2.
    a state of mental or emotional strain or tension resulting from adverse or demanding circumstances.
    “he’s obviously under a lot of stress

‘Stress’ is often viewed as “what is going on in a person’s life”. Change; good or otherwise; is stress. A change in perception, understanding, belief, circumstance, lifestyle, weight, marriage/divorce, life/death…. the list goes on and on and on…Stress can be ANY factor contributing to change.  Good change can be just as ‘stressful’ as adverse change for some people. 

The degree to which a person experiences stress is directly related to how that person reacts to that stress. It is how you, or I, as an individual person perceives the stress, which in turn dictates how much if any, stress is involved. Stress is completely subjective, non quantifiable, and entirely personal. I cannot judge judge your stress levels, and you cannot judge my stress levels. Does this make sense?

In a world where we are seeing more chronic illness, more depression, more suicide, more loneliness, more nervous breakdowns, more meltdowns, more encouragement towards being an ‘individual’ so therefore supposedly ‘stronger without the need for anyone else’s help……??!!, and more drugs than ever expected in pharmaceutical drug companies wildest dreams prescribed- with that number exponentially risingwhy are we not ALL taking a moment  to ask ourselves:

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  • WHAT exactly is going on here?
  • WHO has created and continues to create this Monster?
  • HOW do we stop it? Or at least- how do I stop it in my own world. If you stop it in your world- you will be the light for others to see and give them the strength to believe that they can do it to. I mean if i can do it, you can too right? So if you can do it- so can someone else. And so it flows.
  • Why is a “meltdown” or “nervous breakdown” so accepted today? Why is it virtually expected at some time in life for many people today???

The people of today must be experiencing obscene amounts of this ‘stress’ to lead them down the road to breakdowns. What is going on????

Perceived Stress.

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If you feel stress; you are stressed. It really is that simple. Your body will respond to how you are feeling; so if you ‘feel’ stress- the body will result in stress. The mind affects the body just as the body affects the mind. We cannot dissociate one from the other.

It does not matter what the stress in any given person’s life actually is. What matters  is how that person deals with or manages that stress. For example: making billion dollar investments on high risk stocks can be experienced or perceived in exactly the same magnitude as changing jobs, losing/gaining weight; having a haircut to someone else!!!!  Stress is as individual as we are, and is often compounded by a sequence of events. The straw that breaks the camel’s back is not what actual breaks the camel’s back, but it is the one thing that often gets blamed for doing so when in fact, the sequence of event that lead up to that straw is responsible. That sequence may have started years prior! 

HOW do we stop Stress? Or at least manage it? 

We don’t stop ‘stress’ in life. Without ‘stress’ we would like devolve as opposed to evolve. There would be no challenge in life. No goals to hit. No obstacles to overcome. ‘Stress’ is a necessary and healthy co-factor in our existence. I have learnt the most, the fastest, and more robust lessons through times of ‘stress’ and even tragedy. HOW I choose to face stress directly affects HOW stress affects me. Am I a victim? Or am I an achiever? Do I overcome obstacles with one mighty bound (Superman!); do I take a few mighty bounds?; or loads of mighty bounds which might not appear to the outside world as mighty, but in my world, and where I’m at for that moment- they are mighty!!! This is the mindset of a Mighty Warrior. A Princess warrior. A Compassionate Samurai. Whatever you want to call yourself to give you empowerment- do so! Never the victim. Never.

Some keys I use to manage stress are as follows. They are my Stress Management Tools. If you have not got some tools in place that are used on a daily practice, perhaps you too might like to implement some, if not all, of these too. They just might save your life, as they have mine :)

Vashte’s 9 Stress Management Tools:

1. Learn HOW to turn stress OFF when it is not beneficial. 

In certain circumstances such as when I’m working, exercising, creating… stress is good! I ask myself which areas of life I thrive on stress and allow it in for a short time. This is controlled. I like it. What is life without a challenge or two? There are certain seasons when even a little stress can be too much, so learn to pull back in those times. We all have different seasons and thresholds dependent on what is happening in life, and how we deal with them. Many factors are completely out of our control- what we DO control is HOW we ‘react’ to them or manage them.

Stress in this manner can be healthy when I turn it on and turn it off. I turn it on to produce the goods, being mindful of how I am with others around me at work; then leave it at the door when I go home, or change roles. When I go home at night, I relax. My choice. My rules. Turn it on and turn it off. Just like a light switch. 

2. Pray.

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As a Christian I turn the The Lord as often as I remember. I do forget sometimes and thats when I end up tripping over my own feet. :) I’m human; I forget. I talk to Him, I read my Bible, I use work books to help me interpret the Bible and develop my relationship with Jesus, The Holy Spirit and God. I read 21st C books written by Christian’s on how to live in this world- being relevant. I apply these principles. I ditch worldly affirmations and worldly self help books- they just don’t work like The Truth. Nothing does! If you want to know where my ‘wisdom’  comes from- as some have asked- it’s not my wisdom – it comes from God. I dont pray crying out ‘why has this happened to me??!!’ I pray using stregnth and promises from the Bible. I pray from a place of empowerment. Always. With belief that God will show the the way, the truth and light. And He does. Every time. HERE is how I pray to get results x.

3. Meditate

The Bible encourages us to meditate on God’s Word daily. So I meditate. On Him and the truth he has written about me and for me. 

I find meditating first thing in the morning and (if I’m being particularity awesome….) last thing at night. Definitely first thing in the morning. This sets my day up in gratitude, love, clarity and focus. I usually incorporate a brisk walk to help physically charge and awaken my body at the same time.  I walk without music. Just me, God and the other early risers getting ahead start on all the late starters in life! If I quiet my mind, am present in the moment, I hear the answers I seek. Effective mindfulness. Effective communication with the One True God. Effectively developing my relationship with Him. Having fun with Him.

Meditation is about focusing mental energy.

Focusing energy increases power.

Increased power is empowerment.

Empowerment allows for more concentration.

Concentration results in better function and effectiveness: in school; in business; in sports; in LIFE.

4. Exercise

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Ooh a life without exercise would be equivalent to a life without music! = NO Life at all!!!!

Walking is GREAT!!! Most people can walk. So do more of it. Faster. 😉 Walking with purpose and appreciating that we CAN walk will change the state of the mind. Try it. Gentle exercise is better  for the vast majority of people in today’s society regardless of fitness level. Walking is one of the BEST fat burning exercises you can dream of doing. Dancing is another. Walking is easier see?! 

I run as nothing makes me feel more alive than when I finish a run. But this is a very jarring exercise and certainly has it’s faults. I walk in the mornings :) Join me! Walk. Walk with power. First thing in the morning. Change your life. Change your stress levels. Empower yourself.

5. Stretch!

Pilates is a brilliant practice for stretching, lengthening the body and strengthening the core. It will give you an amazing posture and free any creaky or stuck bits (frozen shoulder anyone?) Instructors are usually highly trained and focus on core strength. True change comes from the inside out- from the core. Start stretching.

By working with the body, and focusing on positive change, we can manage stress far more effectively.

6. FOOD

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I finally bring this up. One of my favourite topics!! The food I eat plays a direct role in how I process information and how I handle situations. If you are any different, then… you my friend, are an alien from a planet far, far away.

  • Foods that make us sleepy and tired such as: heavy, creamy foods, pastas, breads, dairy; can slow the body and mind as energy is used in some attempt to digest this crap. Loads of energy is taken as these so called foods produce an inflamed response in many people sending the body into overdrive, causing stress internally.
  • Refined sugar, artificial sweeteners and foods with chemicals (most supermarket foods) go straight to the brain and cause neuro-toxic responses. In ‘Vashte’ words: cause brain farts, toxic ones, resulting in behavioural changes in the vast majority of people. Myself included. I used to drink a product called Defin-8. Sold as a ‘mostly natural pre-workout’ – used by  people who use the gym, or in my case for energy. Much like an energy drink. Well, there is nothing natural about this product. Beware of the label ” natural sweetener”. WHAT EXACTLY is this? It is not labeled. For your information: MSG is a NATURAL PRODUCT. I drink Defin-8 and my brain shuts down. Like flicking a switch. Boom. I’m in lala land. I get agitated and itchy. BAD. Really bad. Here is what is happening: brain cells are dying. Just by me drinking a product sold as ‘mostly natural’. Lord knows I have damaged enough brain cells without adding to the equation!
  • Stimulants like coffee and energy drinks can and often do result in dependency. They sure will stimulate the brain and therefore nervous system producing some degree of false energy, and just as surely, they will result in a crash around 1-3 hours later producing a sure fire crash. Hence reaching for another hit.

Choose real food. Real food is whole food. Whole food is made by God without man’s intervention. We stuff it up every. single. time. Wholefoods are: vegetables, good fats, proteins and a little fruit. If you don’t know where to start with healthy, whole foods I have a wide range of FREE easy recipes to get you going!  Click HERE NOW!I’m not one to hang out in the kitchen unless its a party and that’s where it’s at, but only ever then! My recipes are simple, easy and clean eating. AND DELICIOUS!!! Give them a go!!

By changing the food and drink I consume, I directly changed how I experienced and will continue to experience stress.

7. Breathe!!!!

So simple, yet so many forget about it!

Physiologically, when we are stressed it is completely natural to breath shallow, fast breaths. Why? The body is preparing itself for danger. It senses attack. It is preparing me for a fight or a flight. Blood rushes to muscles in my arms and legs leaving digestion – don’t eat when stressed! Eyes dilate. Blood rushes to my heart and increases beats per minute. I’m ready to fight or run. This is an inbuilt defense mechanism that has kept us humans alive since the dawn of time. Its awesomely clever.  God is pretty on to it! When I am stressed I can get tunnel vision- my vision becomes like a laser beam to the exclusion of everything else. Good if I’m looking for an escape, bad if there is oncoming traffic….or I’m not needing to run like a black panther to escape one. Which has never happened by the way. I’m still here. When I say I like to run.. it is not fast by any stretch of the imagination :)

If I were to experience that every time I experienced stress, I would be a train wreck. Some people live in this state day in, day out. This is chronic stress and is guaranteed to make a human body very sick. If not now, eventually. I lived in this state for two years. A human can live like this for a large part of their lives. What often results is sudden cardiac arrest. Often the first sign of cardiac arrest is death. Which is why cardiovascular disease is the number one cause of death in the Western World. It is too late at the first sign of cardiac arrest.

  • Breathe.
  • Notice your breath.

The breath is usually the easiest sign indicating stress. Sometimes I notice I am shallow breathing when my conscious mind has not quite connected to any perceived stress. All I need to do to regain control is stop doing whatever it is that I am doing and focus on my breath. By taking long, slow, deep breathes, I regulate my heart rate and slow my breathing and heart rate down.

Stress can be controlled by breathing correctly! So simple. Why are we not all aware of this and taught to practice this? In school would be the best place to start. It may help with bullying, exams, sports events.. life after school.

Breath is the link between the mind and the body. It both reflects and affects the body’s level of stress. The mind affects the body; the body affects the mind.  The whole is in the part and the part is n the whole. 

8. Focus.

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Determine my focus. I ask myself: what is it I am focusing on? Is it beneficial or toxic? Ditch the toxic. This revolves around forgiveness, letting go and forgetting. There is no forgiveness without forgetting. Chronic hatred and anger are among the worst forms of stress. If I remain angry with a person or situation, I empower that person or situation to lord over my life, take control of my thoughts and create a toxic, sick world for me to live in. No thanks.

Forgiving a person does not excuse the behaviour, but it does free my mind from stress, suffering and physical illness. Let it go. There are many situations in my life where I could ‘justifiably’ be angry and harbour resentment and hatred. pfff. No way. I give it all to God and He can deal with the mess. I have a life to live.

Determine your focus with a pure heart = freedom.

It takes strength and courage to forgive. Just try it. A courage you will never experience if you choose not to forgive, let go and foeget. Live an empowered life, not a life lorded over by those who have hurt you.

9. Reach Out.

Connect with the people! Find support groups, or people similar to you who are also moving forward and getting on with life. DON’T connect with people who marinate in the past and tell their story over and over and over..and over. Toxic!! Run Forrest RUN!!!

We all have sad times in life. Don’t choose to stay there! Move on. Join sports groups, reading groups, computer groups..do stuff that you find FUN!!! FUN!!! The key to life!!! Dont LOOK for happiness!!! Do the stuff that interests you and you ARE the happiness and fun in the world!!!! Just get out and start connecting with good people! Get on with LIVING!! 

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This is NO  dummy run, although it sure looks as though there are some dummies sleep walking around this world! DON’T be ONE!!!

Quit hiding out on your own. That is dangerous. Being alone is when the lies your head tells you appear real. Get out and about. Dust the cobwebs off and start Living Life OutLoud!! Watch the stress melt away, seemingly without you even trying too hard.. because you are having fun! Before long you will wonder what that old life was all about and how it was even possible in your world. 

Life is for Living. Manage the stress using techniques proven over the ages. Life involves stress. We can’t stop it but we sure can manage HOW we deal with it.

Live Your Life OutLoud.

xx Vashte xx

Vashte has a BA majoring in Psychology; is a Master Neuro-Linguistic Programmer, Master Results and Performance Coach, and holds qualifications in advanced neurological re-patterning. She has a Diploma in Christian Biblical Studies and is a Qualified Personal Trainer registered with Fitness Australia.  She has been researching nutrition for 20 years; composing wholefood food plans for 6 years, focusing on weight and fatloss via wholefood.

Vashte is a health and wellness ambassador, specialising in spirit, mind and body. 

Vashte is currently based on the Gold Coast and consults from there. Skype sessions are available for those outside this area. Please contact her via email: info@vashte.com for further information.

 

 

 

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SkyDive ByronBay. What WAS I thinking!!!

by Vashte on February 20, 2014

I jumped. I really jumped!!

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From the video you can see the moment I lost all sense and sensibility when I jumped out of a perfectly good place, 14,000 feet above sea level to hurtle at a mere 200 kms an hour towards earth. It really is not pretty. Attached to the back of me is a man. He is cool, calm and collected. I was absolutely not!

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  • Note the complete loss of colour from the neck up, loss of colour to the lips; shielded by a heavy layer of makeup on the face.
  • Note my poor neck. I think I pulled all my neck muscles as I looked this way all the way down.
  • Note the open mouth. In pretty much every photo….lol

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  • Note the bright red chest and collar bones.

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  • Note the wide eyes, tiinnnnyyyy, pupils, the constant licking of the lips..Somehow my lips no longer fits my mouth….?!

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I AM smiling OK?! THAT IS my smile dude. You get a grimace as I’m trying to play along to the ‘fun’ you guys are clearly having!! (Oh shiiiiit..what HAVE I got myself into!!)

I am so scared. This is sooo totally not normal. Crazy eyes.

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My parachutist was very experienced, and put me at ease as much as it is possible to put one at ease when they are clearly doing something so far out of their comfort zone one has to question the reasoning and sanity behind it…?!

It was a perfect day in Ballina. Stunning in fact. Perfect conditions for a first time jumper. For many years I have contemplated jumping out of an aeroplane with a parachute attached. Never have I brought myself to do it.. until now. I don’t know what changed.

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Well, maybe I do.

For the first time in a very long time (perhaps ever), I am beginning to feel safe and secure. Since 2011 I have been running around with my adrenals in overdrive the entire time reassuring myself that I was fine. And I was. In actual fact I have never felt more alive. Nothing like death to throw life ones face.  I guess that’s a way to put a positive spin on it.

So now, I feel enveloped in safety. Security. Surety.

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I am not sure I have ever let myself experience these things to the degree I am today. It is amazing. I recommend it! And yet, in allowing this I can feel my adrenals slowing down even more. And this scares me.

So I went looking for the adrenalin buzz.

I wanted that high those adrenalin junkies all seek..and get apparently. I wanted it for the day. To feel the high of life. Natural but forced excitement to have me bouncing off the walls and into infinity again. Because in my security, I am letting that go. Well that’s how it feels sometimes. So jumping out of a place ought to slap me around a bit, wouldn’t you think?

Slap me around is the word.

One of my favourite sayings is “Keep your feet on the ground and keep reaching for the stars’’. Perhaps I mean it literally! Some people are programmed for air time. It scares the crap out of me. I like to run, short or long distances…I don’t mind. But I’m rarely far from the ground. And have never hurtled like a space cowboy AT it! Until now.  Roller-coaster rides used to thrill me to a point, but underlying it all I was petrified. Now that I am older and wiser… I am OK with admitting this… I’m petrified with this sort of behaviour. I quite like the earth, with me standing on it.  My ears wouldn’t equalise when I tried to scuba dive as well- that was a bummer as that was quite beautiful and surreal down there… but I’m figuring … as some people are vegan; others meat eaters; some like raw foods; others love a good home roast… so it is for adventure seekers!!!

Some are designed to spend time in the air. As much time as possible! Like all those instructors who went up with us. Something has to be said for the thrill seekers- their eyes- wow. Crystal clear and filled with life and excitement.

My eyes, showed utter horror and fear. I have to give myself some credit as I think I did a pretty good job of covering up the terror until we got to the open door of the plane (which I was sitting right next too btw); and then my survival mechanism smacked my consciousness aside, telling it in no uncertain terms that the pathetic little show of ‘’I’m cool, calm and excited is WAY OVER BABY, time to let the truth out.”

FARRRRKKKKKKK

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Seriously. Dangling from another human being, complete stranger, with my life entirely under his control; 14,000 feet above the earth, OUTSIDE the freaking aircraft…. with him telling me to look DOWN (isn’t that what I’m exactly NOT supposed to to); wind smashing me at however fast we are travelling in the lovely little aeroplane above the sea; its COLD dude!! (Breath Vashte just breath)… Why am I not hot from adrenalin!!! Petrified. That’s the best word to describe how I was feeling. Now look up…what?! Seriously wtf???? Look up at what???? Oh the camera. Smile? You have GOT to be kidding me. Note the shortness of breath, the worry lines etched across my forehead– I look like a rolly polly dog. Quite frankly I don’t CARE! (Don’t you worry, I had prayed the night before and all the way up- like I was going to take any chances! All my sins had been forgiven I am sure of it!!) And finally we tumble.

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Into …nothing. Somersault, in thin air. Wooahhhh. Literally. And rocket towards the ground faster than a speeding bullet. Surely? Can’t breathe, Oh My G. This is scary. It’s going forever. So loooong. He hasn’t pulled the shoot. Mann…through some clouds, woooah.Cold. Really cold. Still can’t breathe. Yes I can..no I can’t…. Vashte- pull yourself together woman!!!!  It’s a long way down you know. Stuff being pulled from a plane without a parachute- there is a lot of time to think whilst plummeting that fast towards earth. Too much time. Jowls flapping and my skin flapping around trying to depart from my body… it’s so wrong on so many levels …. There goes the botox. Hahaha In actual fact,  I’d recommend not jumping with Botox- you’d just waste the stuff- the speed at which your metabolism goes to- pfst gone in a flash with a jump. Now that’s funny.

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Boom. FINALLY the chute is pulled and I can breathe. Farrrrkkkkkkk. With the chute pulled we could drift gracefully down, but noooooo. Selwyn gives me the controls and gets me to pull hard to the right and then to the left. Yeah. Not funny. Seriously…. I think when they tried to make up the video and pictures they may have been hard pressed to find shots of me screaming for fun. Petrified till we landed. And that’s a fact.

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I jumped for joy on landing  because it was OVER at last. I didn’t want to tell him that. He obviously loves this stuff. Me. I crashed and burned 30 minutes after landing. Almost vomited on a number of occasions as we drove to Byron., and for some reason gravity in Byron was so much heavier that afternoon.. I was dragging myself up the street!!! Surreal.  The intention was to catch up with one of my BFFs there but after eating, which helped momentarily, I was back to close to comatose state, and had to drive straight home to lie in darkness till the next day.

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Would I recommend it? Absolutely. I jumped with Byron Bay- Sky Dive The Beach and Beyond; click here for their website –  and Selwyn was my instructor. The company is brilliant, professional, very friendly. Awesome team.

vashte.com Skydive ByronThe guy deserved a hug. Technically speaking, he just saved my life.  I’m ALIVE!!!!!

It was way out of my comfort zone. Yes, I am glad I did it. I can cross it off my bucket list finally, but inherently I knew it was not a natural thing for me to seek out. I was looking for the high…and used it all up on the way down being so terrified. Once landed my body just shut down. That sucked! I was surprised and disappointed the high didn’t last but having looked back on the video ( I couldn’t bring myself to watch it till the next day); I can see that if I had continued that buzz I would have been greedy, and the crash following would have been even more scary.

I’m not normal. On so many counts.

I have spoken to many others who didn’t feel this way- they loved it. I was petrified. Horses for courses huh, but I say, if you have contemplated a jump, then go do it. You only live once and stuff missing out on fun things in life.

Fun things are scary- especially when they take you out of the boundary conditions of the box you live in. I was well out of my boundary conditions. Perhaps this will help me open more doors to more adventures that are out of my ‘normal’ adventure box!

Do it!

It’s a blast!

Not once did I see my life flash before my eyes. So I knew I was not in any danger. That, I think, was the real head spin; My logic rationalising it out, and my unconscious self having a right royal hissy fit.

Stunning view on the way down. Personally, I prefer it from the window seat comfort of a plane or helicopter where I can breathe without fighting 200km wind rammed down my throat, or ice particles swallowed at that speed but …what a hoot.

Go jump. Try it on for size.

Watch the video HERE. It is 6 minutes of total adrenalin and…. new experience 😉

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Vibrant Life

by Vashte on February 12, 2014

Here I am. In your face :) With a smile. Why frown?!

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In my posts on facebook, instagram and here on this site I like to keep an upbeat outlook on life. Why? Because so much we see and hear out there IS doom and gloom when it just doesn’t have to BE that way!

  • Have I lived a life without trouble? No.
  • Is there trouble in my life now? Sometimes.
  • Do I choose to dwell and marinate on the negative circumstance, or do I choose to figure out a way around those times- or through them. You guessed it- the second option. I choose to move through as often and as fast as I can.
  • Why don’t you try that too, if you haven’t already done so?

I have found that when I dwell on worry’s, or the hard situations ‘thrown” at me (could it be a possibility that I may have created that event myself….); or the unfairness in life (?!!)… well, that is what I dwell on and talk about. By dwelling on and talking more and more about these things, I’m sitting in my own little pigsty rolling in the mud. And then I wonder why life looks like, smells like and tastes like… crap!

All  problems are problems of our imagination; just as all solutions are solutions of the imagination. Think about that!

If the thoughts I constantly think are misery, lack-of, defeatist thoughts; then what are my actions likely to be? The same!!! Because as a man thinkith- so is he- A little quote from the Christian Bible. In the same breathe, if my thoughts are uplifting, happy and joy filled, what are my actions then likely to be as a direct result? The sameuplifting, happy and joy-filled. And when a person has those thoughts and those actions flowing- what is possible for that person?? ANYTHING THEY DESIRE.

  1. Strength comes from faith.
  2. Faith is believing in something unseen yet, and perhaps not experienced in the body yet.
  3. Faith is believing.
  4. Believing is power.
  5. With power you can overcome the worst nightmare you can dream up, in your reality.
  6. You CAN.

Every single day people are rising up out of the darkness and into the light. In the light there are no secrets, there is no doubt, there is no fear. But we must make the FIRST MOVE. The first move is to just imagine what it might be like to have faith. Imagine what it might be like to believe that all things are possible. All things ARE possible to the one who believes in Christ Jesus. That, my friends, is a promise of God. And God keeps ALL of His promises. Unlike humans. Once we start to IMAGINE that these things are possible…they become so; as Truth states: as a man thinkth so it he! Because once we start imagining good things, what are we doing? We are thinking these things. If we are thinking these things, then what is a likely follow on effect …? We start DOING good thingsjust because. Not with the intention of getting something in return. Just because. And here-in lies the secret to a fun filled, ease filled life, with the ability to overcome when trouble rises. And trouble does come. This is life. Get with the programme.

Attitude will determine Outcome. Every. Single. Time.

I thought I would write this little post as I believe some people think that I am constantly ”up” and constantly positive. This is simply not true. You see, I, like you, are human too. I have good days and days where I would like to give myself a frontal lobotomy for the things I say and the things I do. On those days, I usually pull away from the maddening crowd and make some attempt at coming to terms with where the brain farts are coming from. I have a couple of people whom I may choose to confide in. It is never via an open forum social media platform :) That to me is unnecessary. The world does not need to hear my dirty laundry, unless I make it the world’s business. lol but what point is there in that, and quite frankly the world doesn’t care; it has enough of it’s own crap to try deal with let alone little ol me.

The higher the platform you put someone on is setting that person up for a higher fall as we are all human. We all make mistakes. Understand every person has their strengths and their weaknesses, be aware of them and love them anyway. I still have to allow others that right too as it is easy for us as humans to fall into ‘self’- righteousness– condemning others for behaviour we believe incorrect. Until we do it.

Join me in 2014 in allowing more forgiveness, more love, more acceptance, more tolerance into my life. Yours too perhaps. And understand that I too am human, don’t put me on a pedestal as I just might fall and I don’t like that; I fall hard. Same goes for anyone else in your life.

Here’s to an EMPOWERED 2014 with more understanding, more love and more truth than ever before.

xx Vashte xx

 

 

 

 

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Christmas…

by Vashte on December 18, 2013

What does it mean to you?

Christmas John 8 12

  • I love this time of the year.
  • I love the festivity, fun and lightness it can bring.
  • I love my family getting together and just hanging out.
  • I love seeing my nieces excited at the prospect of gifts, fun and laughter.
  • I especially love what Christmas really represents. That is the birth of Christ Jesus, the Son of God; and that God gave His only Son to save us from ourselves. We needed it then and Lord Almighty we need it now!

But what does Christmas mean to most people?  It seems more and more that Christmas means something other than the original gift it actually represents.  More and more we shy away from the Truth of what Christmas is, turning the real meaning of Christmas into a fable untold and forbidden to speak of; and creating some fabricated lie depicting the necessity in  ‘giving’; of a fat man called Santa Claus; of eating and drinking well over satiated state and well into gluttony day in and day out during the month of December and well into January; creating a complete waste as food and gifts are unappreciated, thrown out or resold on ebay.

We are sold movies exploring the lives of complete brats, and wonder why our children behave in a manner much the same. Adults as well. The children are only products of their environment.

Everywhere we look we see gross quantities of presents wrapped under trees; ads instruct us we ‘need’ to have this, that and everything else to keep up with the Jones’;  we are told the Spirit of Christmas is all about ‘giving’- so buy more.

I live on the Gold Coast of Australia. It is hot. Really hot at Christmas here. Even so,  I see Christmas puddings, brandy custards, heavy desserts, cooked hams and meats advertised at me as if I were living somewhere freezing cold where possibly I may have some small desire to consume such foods.. but in the middle of Summer?? Are you kidding??? That is weird- surely you would agree with me here? Summer is a time for light food- BBQ’s; salads, cold cuts.. especially in high humidity and heat. Why are they telling me to eat Winter foods? Yet many people subscribe to this.. “after all it IS Christmas!??” Mental!!!!!

You know something-  isn’t it time we turned around and analysed our own behaviour and the absurdity of it at times? I have to do this constantly myself- am I alone?

Christmas can bring absurd amounts of pressure on families, couples and friends as we ‘expect’ things from others and ourselves. Why? Who made the rules governing the importance of excessiveness?

Christmas represents LIFE. Perhaps we might like to examine HOW we are living LIFE at this time of the year as opposed to just following the herd of pigs jumping of the cliff with the others. We just don’t have to.

Christmas is NOT about GIVING GIFTS. They are nice if you can, without over-exerting yourself or going further into debt. But you can give gifts at any time of the year- remember that. Instead of BUYING gifts, you can MAKE your own if you have the time- most people don’t.  Do you realise that giving your TIME is one of the most important and memorable things you can do?

Think about it- what do you remember most from childhood? Is the gifts you received? If you answered yes, then please name every gift you received last year, the year before that and the year before that- then name the gifts you received as a child and from whom the gift was given…..

Or is it the experiences- the life events – you enjoyed and remember the most and easiest? Many people remember the times in life they enjoyed over and above the gifts. They remember the people they shared those times with; where they were and the feelings associated with those times.

I know we are almost at Christmas now, and many people have done their Christmas shopping- but how about making a decision for next year- that you don’t enter into the rat race of razzle dazzle shopping, stress, urgency. Ditch the gross overabundance in purchasing ‘stuff’ and plan fun times to spend with people you love over and above the gifts.

Christmas John-4-14

I believe Christmas was given to us by God to cherish the people we love, appreciate our year that has passed; and remember our Holy Father and His Son who came to give us life abundantly. It is time of the year we can really remember LOVE and HOW to love. How to appreciate. How to start again.

Christmas ITSELF is the GIFT. It is a time when we can remember that we have HOPE. We have JOY. We have PEACE through Christ Our Savour.

Christmas is a time for peace, love and happiness. It has nothing to do with shopping. Nothing to do with Santa. Nothing to do with gluttony. Absolutely eat, and give if it is within your ability- but it is not the MEANING AND PURPOSE of this time of the year.

Unplug from the matrix and remember the Truth. It will set you free.

XXX MERRY CHRISTMAS XXX

(ditch happy holidays!!! What the heck is THAT  slogan all about. Don’t let the modern world suffocate the Truth you know in your heart to be true)

GOD bless you all over this wonderful, love filled season and I pray that you see the light, and seek the Truth to free your Souls now and forever.

xx Vashte xx

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God’s Love

by Vashte on November 14, 2013

I have this prayer hanging over my desk. I find it helpful when I lose sight of direction, who I am and/or how God really see’s me. I thought it may help you too in times when you feel like you need something, or would like something of substance to hold on to. It may help you see a little more clearly how very precious you are and how much He so very much loves you. Especially in those times when you find it hard to love yourself. I have been there too you know. x

Psalm 46:10 – Be still and know that I am God…

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Pray this prayer based on Ephesians1: 17-18; Ephesians 3: 18-19; Colossians1 9-11 and Philippians1:9-11

“Dear God (or Dad),

I ask you to make me intelligent and discerning in knowing you personally and make my eyes focused and clear, so that I can see exactly what You are calling me to do. I ask that I grasp the immensity of this glorious way of life that You have for me. I pray that Christ may live in my heart so that I be rooted and grounded in love and I may be able to understand all the dimensions of this love and be filled with the fullness of You Lord.

I pray that I am filled with the knowledge of Your Will in all wisdom and spiritual understanding, and that I live worthy of You Lord. I pray that I am fruitful in every good work and as I am increasing in the knowledge of You, I am strengthened with Your Power.

I pray that I may still have more love – a love that is full of knowledge and every wise insight. A love that always recognises the highest and best and sees my life full of the true goodness produced by the Power that Jesus Christ gives me to the glory and praise of God.

In Jesus Mighty Name,

Amen.”

If you pray this prayer, you will be pleasantly surprised at how you may then see things with open, loving eyes; and have a better understanding of why you are here, and how much you are loved.

Notes on great ways to pray:

  • Whenever you pray, make sure you use God/Dad/Jesus’ name when you start. Just like a letter. This way you address your prayer to the one true God and He will hear you.
  • Base your prayer on promises written in the Bible, if you can. If you haven’t read the Bible yet, or haven’t started, that is fine as He will hear you anyway. When you base your prayer on biblical promises, it is a very powerful prayer. God NEVER breaks promises xx.
  • Always end your prayer by saying “In Jesus name, Amen.” This way you seal the prayer in Jesus’ name. Every knee shall bow at the name of Jesus, above the earth, on the earth and below the earth; so this way you start the prayer to the One you are talking to, and you end it in Jesus’ name. Nothing and no one can stand between you and your prayer.

Awesomely powerful. xx

God Bless you

xx Vashte xx

If you ever want to connect with me asking questions on Christianity, you are more than welcome. Or if you have questions on life itself…

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Your Reality- What does it look like?

by Vashte on September 27, 2013

Thoughts – Questions – Ideas

Dreams- Goals- Your Reality

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  • Are you aware of your thoughts as you progress through your day to day life?
  • What words do you speak over yourself each day? Are they positive and encouraging, or are they actually negative and dis-empowering?
  • What do you REALLY believe for yourself? -For your today, and for your future?

I am a firm believe that we create our own reality. I know I do. If I do not, then who is creating my reality for me? Media? Friends? Family? Work? The wind? If I take control of my mind by becoming aware of my day to day thoughts, I can then see how I am processing information coming at me, every day in every way. You can do the same too.

Through becoming aware of our thoughts and observing them as they pop up, we can then understand what filters of ‘reality’ we have chosen to live through. And change them if we like.

  • Empower yourself.

  • Empower your world.

I know ‘things’ have happened to each and every one of us that are unfortunate. Very unfortunate. And many downright stink. We have two choices; to live in the past and marinate in what was, has been or could have been; or we can move on.

What do you choose?

I believe the way to live an empowered, successful, easier life is to observe. Observe everything, and choose what you allow in and then choose how those things make an impact on your life. You choose.

You are not governed by emotions. You govern those emotions. That takes practice, and awareness- just as you practice to learn to play a piano or play a sport. Develop the habit of strength. Strength of mind resulting in strength in character.

If we insist on turning back and living in the past, what happens? You turn to salt. You will be preserved back there, in the past,  stuck in an existence that is no longer relevant or meaningful to a world progressing ever forward. You are left behind. What use are we to anyone, including ourselves, by choosing that life? You are born for such a time as this. TODAY. To LIVE in the today, and build into your future. Not remain in the past. So come with me, let go of those memories, learning from them and letting them go.  This is not ignoring the past. This is strength of character.  Acknowledge the past as that which happened, back then. That ‘then’ is not now. Become aware and alert so that you do not have to repeat that learning again.

Use your wisdom.

You do not have to be the sharpest tool in the box to do well in life. No, no, far from it in fact! Look around and truly see who you respect the most in life. Research these people. You may be surprised as to their past, and their upbringing- it takes all sorts. YOU are an allsort too! You do not have to have the highest grades, nor an intellect that surpasses your peers. You do not have to have the most active social media know-how;  be clever,  be smart,  be fancy…. You do not have to be the skinniest, the prettiest, the biggest, the smartest anything in life to rise sky high.

You DO have to grow your wisdom- and you all have that. It resides in each person’s heart. Listen. Take a moment to stop, and BE. When you stop, exit out of the rat race and take a moment to feel the pulse of life.. that is when your wisdom can grow. Learn from life. Become aware of events in and around you. Question everything. But live through love and you will develop an innate ability to discern truth when you hear it and see it. Words, words, words – So many words, so little action following through. Come out of the sleepwalking slumber so many have permitted to fall over their lives. Come out of the matrix.

So many things do not add up in life- why. Ask the question for yourself, and start to look for your own answers. Too many of us have permitted a life of intravenous drip consumerism… must have, want to have, need it.. we have turned our brains off and along with that- our hearts. It is time to wake up world. It is time to reclaim what is yours- your life.

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I believe we are created in the image and likeness of God. Why? Because it is written by the handbook of life- The Bible. What Jesus says goes- more-so now than ever before. Oh I realise many people trip out at the name of Jesus, and immediately barriers are raised, ears are closed. I was one of these people as well, until 2008. The thing is- what is written makes so much sense! It resonates with your heart, and plucks at your soul– when you hear the Word of God spoken through Love – something goes off on the inside of you- that is Truth. So many of us do not understand what that feeling, or emotion is.. because we have never heard it, or felt it before. If we get past the wall of anger- and for many there are valid points to that anger – (humans are humans so often twist anything to be used to their own advantage), but when we allow the love of God to flow through and to you- life changes like nothing else.

But back on point- if we are made in the image and likeness of God, as I believe; and if we treat our bodies as the temple they are designed to be, then we permit our minds to function at a optimum levels through correct treatment of the body in which the mind is housed. Right?!

If we unplug ourselves from the factory farm in which so many live, and take back our lives and learn to think for ourselves, then it stands to reason we will live a more productive, fun filled, free life, right?!

  • Do not allow your thoughts to run wild. I used to.
  • Do not allow your emotions to rule your world.
  • Do not allow others to speak negative over you, invalidate their opinions.
  • Do not allow yourself to speak negative over your own life, and stop criticising others!
  • Stop doing things to yourself that you know harm you!

Choose your thoughts wisely- choose your words wisely – choose your food and drink wisely- choose your actions wisely….

You control everything about your life. Take back those reigns. You were born to reign. It is high time men stood up to be men and women stood up to be women!

I am over seeing big bullies push individuals around. It has never been more prevalent than today; patients being bullied by doctors because doctors are being bullied by sales reps of BIG corporations-as well as bribed; Govts being bullied by Big Pharma; boutique shops and restaurants being destroyed by fast food chains with money to market and lie; lies, lies and more lies on your TV which you watch every single day – for how long????

Unplug!! Unplug!!!

Live the life you were designed to live. And if you don’t know what that is, there is little wonder as you have likely been plugged in most of your life!! The wonderful, exciting thing is though, that you are stronger than you know and a very fast learner! Once you start listening to your heart, and doing the things that make you tick- you will soon get a desire stronger than you have ever felt before.. and it is at that point my friends that you have begun to find your passion.

We live in an age where we can reinvent ourselves at any age. So – go for it! Stop and change direction completely if necessary! Just get off that conveyer belt system churning out pork sausages filled with crap!

YOU are better than that!

YOU can do it!

I Believe in YOU!!

It is time for YOU to believe in YOU too :)

xx Vashte xx

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Put the Effort In

by Vashte on September 20, 2013

Inspired by a post from my new friend Hannah Seemann, I am compelled to add my two cents worth. Please read THIS article which I found highly accurate and certainly not confronting enough for the reality in which we live. A brilliant piece nonetheless, and written kindly as it would seem our generation is far too fragile to handle anything less.

I can speak with a certain frankness as I fall into this generation so, in essence, I am writing about myself just as much as anyone else so no hard feelings; although I am of the opinion we are past bubble wrapping our words and behaviours. It clearly has not worked.

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We, (and I include myself in that ‘we’) – We today, those of us brought up in the land of plenty, God’s Zone, Australia, New Zealand or any Western developed country, seem to have made a unanimous decision that we ‘deserve it all’. mwa hahaha. Whilst this could possibly be true for those people who work for their goals, dreams and desires; this decision also appears to have been made by those of us who just want it, without having to lift one little finger. Enter the world of the Spoilt Brat.

Spoilt Brats: Generation Y and most certainly Generation X.

I am included in these generations I remind you.

We have been given everything we asked for, or wanted. Whether we deserved it, earned it or whinged for it, we generally have managed to find a way to get what we wanted, and have the belief we ‘deserved’.  Our parents wanted to make our lives that much easier than theirs so they worked hard, as shown by their parents, and then gave us everything they missed out on. Enter – the issue.

Through being given everything we wanted, or as much as our parents could give at least, we have grown up with an overinflated ego of ourselves, as clearly pointed out through Hannah’s linked article.

What has risen is a generation of ‘takers’, who have no conception of giving. Nor do we have much of a concept of working  hard and pushing through times that are seemingly hard. And I must reiterate seemingly hard– we have grown up with pretty much everything at our fingertips, or within arms reach, and if it is not, well the Government or some charitable body surely must have some kind of grant or benefit to aid and assist us. Surely?!

Unfortunately for us, this has not helped us one iota. A generation of spoilt brats has emerged, and we are breeding another generation of even more grossly spoilt brats- unless we stop it! Learning how to overcome obstacles is an important growth factor in life. We have no serious obstacles to overcome, aside from the ones we generate ourselves and usually due to our own ill equipped planning.

Look at us! We grow fatter and fatter, sicker and sicker, and some poorer and poorer.. all whilst we sit back on our couches, watching pay TV, eating fast food (as we believe that is all we can afford, or can be bothered preparing); we move less and less, discover more and more illnesses and reasons not to work, and still want and demand the best of everything. We stink of laziness and sloth.

DIETING

Our children are only products of the environment they grow up in. We are not setting the best example nor a model that is doing anything to benefit them for their future. Our children are predicted to die before us due to this model we have set in motion.

This is scary.

We complain as foreigners take ‘our jobs’ and yet, how many of us are actually willing to get up off those couches, leaving that paid TV, takeout pizza and cigarettes to actually go to work? Why should they when they are collecting a hefty sum from our Govt to continue acting in such a manner? A sum, often more lucrative than the weekly pay check at the end of the week.

Some people actually need this and are legitimate. Some, not many, and certainly not as many as are currently collecting this ‘magic money’. This magic money will dry and is drying up, as surely we are all aware this magic money is not magic at all, but results from taxes paid from those employed. If less people are employed.. it stands to reason there is less money to distribute to the couches, let alone to the running of the country.

Come on team- and we are a team! I am in this group too and it is up to all of us to turn this around or we are looking down the nozzle of a very real firearm. We are doing it to ourselves and our children.

Isn’t it time we looked back at how our parents and their parents lived? We do not ‘deserve’ anything at all. Noone does. When we put in the hard yards and work for a living; when we set goals and take the action needed; when we understand those credit cards are NOT your best friend.. perhaps we can lead our children and their children into a better quality of life. Instead of setting them up for failure from day dot.

Isn’t it time we went back to the drawing board and learnt to restrain ourselves from our whimsical notions that we are ‘born to shop’; that ‘shopping defines us;  that the car we drive reflects who we are?.. We do not need the latest ridiculous gadget, outfit, nor be ‘seen’ in the ‘right’ circles. Why are we refusing to grow up?  We do not deserve holidays when we do not work for them. If we work, then we can afford to take a holiday every now and then– without out racking up debt to take it.

How about showing our children how to save, by going without. How about eating the leftovers from last nights dinner as lunch. How about NOT buying takeaway 3 times a week, or NOT switching on the TV, and NOT using that credit card so easily. How about learning to budget, and showing our children how!

It is up to us to do this! If we love our children as much as we say we do, we would set them up for a realistic life by showing them they DO NOT deserve everything they ‘want’ but if, and only if, they work hard with consistency, then perhaps they too will be shown how to live a life worth living.

We are teaching them, and many of us believe ourselves, that ‘love’ as a foreign construct- reachable through materialism, and external. This is a lie. Such a big, fat common lie in our world today and that is why so many of us are so lonely and miserable. Teach them, and reteach ourselves that love, (which is what we all yearn for when it all boils down to it), is found within. All  the money in the world cannot buy love for yourself, or other people. Not to be truly satisfied.

Let’s go back to our grandparents ways of living. Return to simplicity and learn to smell the roses; grow and cook our own food; and make our own fun, instead of this vain attempt at buying it all- via the remote control, and sticking it on the credit card then declaring bankruptcy. Seriously!?

Life is so much more than taking! Life can be abundantly blessed and filled with love and everything your heart desires if we go back to the basic understanding that we DO live in an abundant country; that we have NO real hardships and so.. we CAN work hard to earn the desires of our hearts…if we really do want them. It is through consistent work, not luck.

I am a Spoilt Brat Gen Y individual too. I have been given more than I deserved and worked for. I have not worked as hard as my mother or any of her brothers and sisters.  I am very aware of this. I do not assume I deserve anything in life aside from that which I work for, and even then I don’t ‘deserve’ anything. Come on team, lets find our Spirit, lets find our Spunk and get off our butts and make something of our lives. Especially for those of you who have children- they are looking to us for guidance. It is up to us to show them how.

Stop looking for the quick fix in life. There are none that count for anything. Quick fix diets, 4 hour working weeks, magic money, perfect lives without any thorns- a bubble that just doesn’t exist so lets stop buying into it as it only blows up around our faces.

Enjoy working and earning your keep. Enjoy making an effort. Enjoy obstacles and times of challenge – they result in improvement. These are the things in life that strengthen our spines and make us determined and focused. These are the things that create great stories and a wonderful sense of achievement.

We were born to succeed. Work for it.

stop wishing

Living life is not through being handed everything on a platter. Life gets very boring, very quickly that way, and we find ourselves in trouble often when we are spoilt. Life is meant to be interesting; life is meant to be peppered with situations. How else can you grow aside from facing and overcoming situations?

  • Set more goals.
  • Refocus your aim.
  • Reach higher and work harder.
  • Show yourself how strong and capable you actually are. Show your children and their children that you are NOT the spoilt brat of our generation, but one of the hopefully growing few that revolt against this pathetic way of life, and that you achieve more than you think you can.
  • BE the inspiration this world is looking for.
  • Quit looking for the quick fix.
  • You are stronger than you know- just get up and go do it!!

It is fun jumping off that diving board into the unknown! Seriously- ask yourself- what is the worst that count happen? And then ask yourself: what is the BEST that could happen??!!!! And then make it happen!!!

xx Vashte xx

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Push Through

by Vashte on August 21, 2013

Push Through

Push Through Inertia

Push Through Pain

Push Through Hard Times

Push Through Broken Times

Push Through Criticism

Push Through “Cant”

Push Through Doubt

Push Through Excuses

Push Through Self Hatred

Push Through Giving Up

Push Through Ridicule

Push Through Comparison

Push Through Odds staked against you

Push Through it all.

When you are going through hell just keep walking. Why do people stop when they think they are in hell? Why do people give up when the odds are staked against them? Why do we listen to those that have no confidence in themselves? Why do we let other people bring us down? What other people think of you is none of your business. Let them talk! Because they will. Small people talk about people, leaders talk about ideas, design and inspiration. What are you and what are you listening to? What are you talking about over coffee, dinner and  friendly chit chat?

If we let other people’s opinion  of us define us, then we are shooting ourselves in the foot. Consider this: most people out there have little to no self-confidence. Those with the least self-confidence are not the ones you may expect. These people are usually the biggest and baddest bullies. The people are the ones with the loud mouths and attitude to boot. Such people usually have nothing inside to hold them up so they think they need to try to bring others down. Such people love to criticise, laugh at, and pull you down publically. This is the only way they know to try to elevate their status over you.

Once you understand that the loudest people have the least self-confidence and self-assurance, it stands to reason that every day people also have self-doubt.  Understand this: if you have self-doubt, you can be fairly confident that most other people out there have exactly the same issues, questions, nagging doubts going on inside their heads. It is not only you. Push through those thoughts. Do not give them validation nor the time of day. You are completely normal for having those thoughts! It is Ok. You are OK. Push through it! Do not spend time on them nor focus on them. Instead,  focus on taking the necessary action in making your dreams goals and therefore reality.

Why do we all constantly compare and make remarks about attributes in people we don’t even know? We make instant judgements based on premise. All fallacy. With nothing substantial to back up statements and judgements.  Stop spreading rumours.

Just Stop.

If you don’t, then how can you expect to be exempt from the critical eye? Criticism is a habit many people have developed in the comfort of their own home in front of TV. We sit there, on our couches giving our harshest criticism on people who have stuck their neck out. We openly condemn those that worked against all odds to actually get on TV and give it their best. Why do we do this? To bring them down. Secretly we all wish we had the confidence to try ourselves.. but then we worry what other people would think. Other people (critics) just like… .. ourselves …as we sit there destroying these people, laughing  at these people, and are appalled that they should ever think to audition or have an opinion!!

“Who do they think they are??!!””

  • These people are The Ones. The ones who pushed through. Pushed through all YOUR criticism, sneering, laughing, cajoling.
  • These are the people who WILL make it, one day, if not this day while you stay repeating the same ol, same ol. Getting older, getting fatter, getting lazier. Fading into nothingness.
  • These are the people who pushed through the tough times, the bullying, the self doubt.
  • These are the people who made a decision. A decision in which they decided to CUT OFF from all else. A decision which meant they focused on their goals to the exclusion of all else. So that they would give it their best shot.

Do more

YOU can be this person too.

Just get up off the couch. Quit criticising other people no matter how preposterous you think their dream is. WHO are You to judge another person’s dreams? Haven’t you seen the complete transformations made in some people’s lives when they hold on to a dream, take the necessary action and just keep getting up every single time they get knocked down?

If you doubt them, if you think it is impossible; then you think it is impossible for your own life. Think about that for a second or three. The only reason you say it is not possible for someone else is because you are speaking your own self-doubts over someone else. If that person has made a decision to go for it- nothing YOU say can stop them. Why would your words affect them one iota? They don’t care what you think. You have no right to speak negative over their lives.

Just as no one has the right to speak negative over yours. Unless you let them. Unless you speak negative over others.

So stop doing that.

Start new today. Right now. Start with endorsing other people’s dreams. Start encouraging other people and you will be encouraged yourself. Self-confidence does not necessarily come from focusing on yourself. Perhaps you have been doing that for too long! Start taking the focus off yourself and turn your attention onto other people. BE an encourager. Open your eyes to the possibility of hope manifested. Give hope. Give life. Speak words of encouragement and life over others, and without you even trying, you will become empowered yourself.

The more you encourage; The more you believe; The more you endorse as opposed to tear down- The less you will need to push through as you will find hard times become less and less frequent. When they do occur, you will have strengthened your resolve;  your self-confidence; your belief in the possibility of hope, that you breeze through events you previously may have thought impossible to deal with.

That is the power of love. That is the power of walking in love. That is the power of being in love. Being in peace. Living in hope and faith. Take your eyes off yourself and your situation right now. Focus on the goal. Do the work needed and push through being positive in your steps; being positive in your words.

If you have nothing good to say, then choose to say nothing. Pulling other people down only pulls you down further. If you want to push through, if you want to fly like the eagle, then start acting like one.

Push through it all. Push through them all so you can soar higher every day.

xx Vashte xx

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