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Fathers Day

by Vashte on September 7, 2014

Today, in Australia, it is Fathers Day. I wish all the Fathers out there a wonder day, embracing the gift they have been given in this life.

fathers day

It is my brother’s first Fathers Day. He seems to be a pretty cool Dad. His son even gave him a book called “Why I love my Daddy”. When I asked him what the book said, my brother remembers “He is funny” and “He is clever” – straight off the cuff.. not too much else 😉 His son is about 5 months old… so .. I guess he must be as clever as his Dad is… :) They have a beautiful family- filled with love and it shows.

I respect and honour all parents out there. It is a mammoth task and one I have not experienced. Yet or perhaps ever. Who knows.

I know it takes a strong man. A loving man. A true man to be a Dad.

In church today the paster gave us this quote which I loved: “It is easier for a Father to have children, than it is for children to have a good Father”. Hands up those who know this to be true – on both sides of the fence. My hand raises.

An ideal family celebrates this day with their Dad. The man they lean on, trust, feel safe with. This is the image I imagine in my mind about Fathers Day and the one I pray you are celebrating today!:

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For me, Fathers Day has been a day of unexpressed annoyance I guess. I don’t remember my Dad being around, and certainly don’t remember words of encouragement, much love or support from him. Every girl wants the love of her ‘father’. But my ‘father’ was never really much of a ‘father’. I remember fighting though. Too many families are like this today. I pray that more people understand how important it is for a child to have a Mum AND a Dad. If they have issues- keep it away from the children. He was never very good at that. Children are smart and see through everything – it is funny how some adults think they don’t. -Especially when those adults were once children too..

I had a step father once for a while- he tried to be a good man, and a good father. I still respect the role he played in my life as that person. He spent time helping me with certain classes in school, and he tried to be the ‘man’ we needed in our family. As a Dad. But he is no longer in our lives either.

My biological Father is alive. I don’t speak to him very often. I’m not angry with him or upset with him. I still love him because I have a small understanding of who he is, and what it might have been like growing up in his family as a child. And I believe it would have been horrible. HIS father was a bad man. It is harder for  a person who has never been shown love, to give love or express it. It is not impossible, but my Father, chose not to change very much. That is OK with me- it is what it is.

I’m still a girl who wants the love of a Father. I know he loves me even though he doesn’t show it, or know how to show it well, or has bothered much to try..

I am safe though- because I found a real love from The Father of all- Christ Jesus’ Father: God.  So for all the people out there who have not experienced love from their Dad’s. For those who have been mistreated. For those who have been abandoned- and for those who actually do have the coolest Dad’s in the world! -There is One out there who really does love unconditionally- no matter what- through thick and thin- is never angry with you – and always forgives. There is One who will make you feel safe, and keep you safe from all things.. and He is with you all the time.

His name is God. Jesus Christ’s father. Our creator.

God IS love so everything He does is in love. Pretty cool to have a Dad who always, always, always walks in love. It’s very safe. It’s very empowering.

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So I leave you with this thought:

Dad– I do love you- even though I don’t speak to you often.

AND:

God is GOOD and something GOOD is going to happen today and everyday with God our Father walking with us.

Happy Fathers Day Everyone!

Forgive your children. Forgive your parents. Forget it all- there is no point harbouring memories that only eat you up, spit you out and end up destroying lives.

xx Vashte xx

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DownSize You! De-Clutter Life!

by Vashte on May 9, 2014

Hellooooo! Back from a fabulous quick trip to Thailand and raring to go!

Thailand www.vashte.com

A change in environment is often a catalyst to a change in thinking, and potential change in situation. It can give us the ability to see the wood from the trees. When we are slap, bang! in the thick of things, it takes a unique person to detach from e-motions and from the simple fact we are ‘in’ the melting pot. Few can experience life objectively and rationally from that place.  – We are emotive beings- 

Thailand was bliss! I love the Thai islands I have been to! Her beaches. Her people. Her food. Her weather. I can not fault Thailand. I only see the good there :) I went to celebrate a wedding there on this occasion; reuniting friends from all over the globe in celebration of dear friends committing life to each other. That is something very, very special!

Now I am back, and I too, am experiencing a more clear perspective for my life here in Australia. I have decided to harness this perspective and take action. When we choose not to take action in times like these, we soon fall back into old habits, old behaviours, old thought patterns. Life then returns to exactly as it was before. Same ol’, same ol’.

Change.

Make some changes. They can get a little, or a lot, harder to make as we get older if we choose not to make at least a few changes in life. Don’t be that miserable, old, lonely, cranky-pants who point-blank refused to change. Don’t get stuck in the past! Live today for today, making plans for the future.

  • The words you speak today form your reality tomorrow.
  • The action you take today will reflect in your today, tomorrow.
  • What future are you creating with your today, today??

So one major change I am committing to and sharing with you is the commitment to de-clutter my life. ‘De-cluttering my life’ is a very broad statement and concept so lets break this down into a bite sized chunk easy to chew.  I have previously posted on how to set and achieve goals, click HERE for a refresh. This is a goal. It is going to take effort and work but I am starting out small and so will grow in confidence and enjoyment in this potentially painful experience. -All dependent on how emotionally charged I am to items I choose to de-clutter.

We tend to hoard, gather and consume more and more in this consumer based life. We collect things; be they physical items (stuff); friendships or souls…; memories; behaviour/survival patterns. We refuse to let go of some. Even when they drag us down physically, emotionally, and or spiritually. Even when they make us sick. Or just plain get in the way of our moving forward. So we get stuck. Immobile. When we plateau, and the world keeps moving forward. Effectively we get left behind. And that’s not kosher Jack is it?!

Ruthless. That is how we (I) need to be when de-cluttering life. Ruthless. Unemotional. Get factual and objective. It is the only way to ditch the baggage.

I think the easiest place to start is in de-cluttering my home. Followed closely by de-cluttering my workspace. What in your environment can you afford to de-clutter? Or a better question to ask is: what in your environment can you NOT afford to de-clutter? What is your clutter costing you?!!

Space www.vashte.com

I have read that attachment to people, places and things is the basis of much of our suffering. Think about that and consider the truth in that. Really think about it. I see the truth in that perspective. My suffering and pain has often been in relation to my attachment of things/places or people I did not want to let go of. Are you the same? A healthy balance is important. Being completely detached is equally unhealthy. When we come to terms with seasons in life, de-cluttering becomes a lot easier.  I understand that I have lived many seasons in life so far, and I have many more to come. If I hold on to past seasons, I am in effect, living in the past. I then prevent myself from living in today. Some of my past is found in ‘stuff’ I have kept – on display or in storage (is that baggage?!) Some of my past in found in friendships and equally enemies. Some of my past is located in places and events.

‘Stuff’ is not a major factor in my life, having traveled for most of it and not considering myself grounded or rooted in one place, I probably have fewer ties to hoarding for memory. Apartment living also aids in this department. There is nowhere to hoard!! I do, however,have a tendency to keep books and documents ‘in case I can use them in the future’. Yes, books, magazines, cutouts and the like. I have a plethora of photos as well- they are emotional I suppose, but more a footprint of my life so far. (Is that an excuse?!)

Culling some of these items will be hard, but greatly beneficial, as they weigh heavy- in physical weight as well as the ever questioning ‘ what if I can use them?”- effectively cluttering my mindspace ?!! Here I have to get tough with myself and reason: If I haven’t used them already, then chances are I won’t in the near future. If I do, then I can always find them again. It really is not the end of the world. None of them are the Holy Grail!

By de-cluttering space, we keep what is useful and loved. We learn how to let go in the physical. There is power in letting go. Even when that letting go is represented by the smallest item in the house. Personal possessions. Sometimes personal possessions mean more to us than human interaction. Don’t let your personal possessions define you.

YOU define you. Personal possessions only fool fools, and impress small minds. What are you? Who do you choose to associate with?

If I can make basic decisions on what to keep and what to either give, throw away or sell; then those decisions spill into all aspects of my life. These decisions can be the seed planted allowing me to let go of more of my past so that I an un-clutter my entire home- mind, spirit and body.

  • New business ideas can flow, once old business concepts are closed.
  • New friendships are formed, once old friendships that have grown stale or changed paths are finished.
  • New attitudes can be developed, once old attitudes that not longer serve to benefit are changed.
  • New belief systems can be set up, once old belief systems that are not working are stopped.

Out with the old- in with the new!

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A trip overseas, or just away for a night or two can be that catalyst for clear thinking to re-emerge. Act on it when you see the wood from the trees. This can take courage. You can do it. Start with baby steps. These grow into infant steps, to teen steps and then to adult steps. Before you know it, you are running down the path of your dreams. And it could all have been sparked by you committing to a simple act, such as de-cluttering your space. 

-That book you have been meaning to read for years- read it or de-clutter it. Out it goes.

-That outfit you have never worn, the one with the tags still attached- that one you bought 2 years ago – give it away, or sell it. 

-That ornament reminding you of times past- the good ol’days – throw it away. How can you have good times today when you constantly pine for the ol’ days?

Our past has helped shape us to who we are today. We are very special and unique people. Each one of us. Our past does not define us though. Do not let the past hold you down to the person you were yesterday, or years ago. Do not let people hold you back in their desire to keep yesterday alive. That image may no longer suit or fit the person you are today, or plan to become. Break free of the chains. Ask yourself this: who is the person who stands in front of the mirror today? Who are you creating yourself to be for tomorrow and tomorrow’s tomorrow? Bring your dreams to life.

Enjoy your today and let go of the past. Learn from it, yes. Be thankful that it happened, no matter what it entails; and let it all go. Get on with Living Life OutLoud for today, so that you can make your dreams, your reality. 

Declutter – Start at home!

Here is how to start:

  1. Go to the seconds shop.
  2. Buy a plastic container- usually about $20.00 Aus.
  3. Label it “Declutter Box”
  4. Add one item every day for one month (add more if you like but make sure at least one item goes in every day to make a habit).
  5. At the end of one month donate it to the Salvation Army; throw it out or sell it on ebay/garage sale..whatever you do, get it out of the house!!

This is a step by step process to lighten the burden in life. Too often we are held down by insignificant ‘stuff and things’. This simple, easy, but achievable game-plan begins something much deeper in the Spirit and Soul. It brings empowerment.  You begin to learn how, or remember how to, let go of things that just are not relevant to life now or the future. 

Your lifespace can be a reflection of your mind space. As you de-clutter your home space, work space, living space; imagine how de-cluttered your mind space could potentially become. 

I am excited!! Are you??

If you too think this is a good idea- commit with me and join me on this 30 day de-clutter challenge! Please leave a comment. We can become accountable to each other. Let me know what and where you are choosing to start! My first item is actually two items: 2 photo albums of a wedding back in 2003. I haven’t spoken to the couple since, have tried to contact them to ask if they want the albums but there is no response. It is cluttering  my space so they are going in my de-clutter box as the inaugural first items!!  Big step for me- de-cluttering photos- as I tend to be emotionally tied to these. I figure it has got to get easier if I start with the hard things!

Why not make 2014 the most progressive year to date? 

Join me on this 30 day challenge! Who knows..maybe it will continue past 30 days! Imagine the space  we can create by removing old, unused items. Ready for new, fresh items to take their space.

Add your comment below if you are joining in with me! Do it!!

xx Vashte xx

 

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Risk

by Vashte on April 8, 2014

I was rummaging through one of my collectors boxes :) and I came across this poem. It not written by me, but by a 15 year old girl with maturity beyond her age. I do not know the author, nor do I know where it came from but I thought it timely to post. It was a message to me and I’m banking a message for a couple of my readers out there as well.

Read; take on board the message; and remember- this is written by a 15 year old. Let’s all Live Our Lives OutLoud- every day of the week, no matter what the circumstance….:

RISK

 

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To reach out to another

Is to risk showing your true self.

To place your ideas, your dreams,

  your feelings

before people, is to risk appearing

  the fool.

To love is to risk being heartbroken

To hope is to risk despair

To succeed is to risk failure.

But risks must be taken

because the greatest failure in life

is to risk nothing.

The person who risks nothing

Does nothing,

Is nothing.

They may avoid suffering and sorrow

But they cannot learn.

Learn to live, feel, change, love, grow.

Changed by certainty,

They are slaves,

They have no freedom

For only a person who risks is

  free.

Christine Adamson, Age 15

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Two Eyes. One Mouth.

by Vashte on April 1, 2014

In my humble opinion it could be wise to use our eyes more than is popular, and save our vocal chords…. well, wise for me. I cant speak for you…so I decided this year to make a commitment to read more. As you can see from my library below.. I have a few to choose from :) I feel quite proud in the fact that I have culled so many. I started with twice this amount… So book by book, page by page, I will read! (And I keep buying new books too…bizarre).

My library www.vashte.com

This does not mean it will take up all of my ‘off’ time, but it means I commit 20 -30 minutes most days to reading, something from a book, with a purpose. 

In an ideal world I would commit to: 20 minutes reading my Bible; 20 minutes reading on nutrition; 2o minutes reading on personal development and 20 minutes reading on fitness. But just writing that sounds scary to me, even though all subjects are passionate aspects of my life! So, in order to get started, I commit to 20 minutes per day. Give or take 😉 Last week was unaccounted for- I don’t know what happened to last week.. do you??– no reading whatsoever from my designated books. It works best if you make the commitment and stick to it. This way a habit is formed and therefore becomes part of everyday living, without an issue. Trying to catch up by binge reading every few days is not the solution. Its all about making a habit. Habits grow from consistency, and through desire.

Lets face it. We could all turn the TV off 20 minutes earlier each night, couldn’t we? Did you know the TV, and any electronic device, gives off artificial light and electronic waves stimulating the brain therefore making it harder to fall into a peaceful and deep sleep? So if you are one of the many who use the internet, check emails/facebook/instagram/twitter….(the list goes on) until you are falling asleep with your phone in your hand… and wonder why you don’t sleep so well.. perhaps herein lies your answer!

Why not try this on for size? Get a book. Any book – it has to be something you are actually interested in. Promise yourself to read it in a given time frame. Be lenient with the goal posts- this is a new adventure remember. Be OK if you fall asleep reading.. perhaps decide not to actually lie in bed reading, but sit up on the couch and read for the 20 minutes prior to sleeping. Or any other time of the day that best suits you. 

You, like me, could be pleasantly surprised as to how many books you chomp through!

Reading can also enhance one’s use of the English language.. and (ahem) I think we could all do with a little improvement there…. 😉 

My chomping so far:

Trace Elements www.vashte.com

Great book and defiantly one I recommend if you are interested in getting to the crux of any issues you might be facing. In a nutshell: This book explores trace elements and minerals and how they affect our bodies- too much and too little. Often the hidden reason behind many issues that just won’t budge. Hair Mineral Analysis is what the book is pointing towards, and something I think worth exploring in our journey towards healthy living. Explains things like- calcium and how calcium deficiency does NOT usually benefit from taking calcium supplements… it is a great read. Click HERE for more information on trace elements; David Watts and where to buy the book.

Wheat Belly www.vashte.com

Wheat Belly by William Davis MD. (MD sounds so intelligent dont you think?!)

Get your fingers on the trigger and BUY THIS BOOK!! BRILLIANT!! This man is a doctor, and most doctors don’t really have much of a sense of humour. This guy, he’s funny. And he’s on the ball. This guy knows what he is talking about. It was as if he wrote the book just for me!!! And any other gluten intolerant/celiac person out there in this world.. which is pretty much everyone as he very subtly exposes the filth of the mutated wheat grain in the very recent 40 years or so. So when your grandparents and some parents give you the line ‘ I don’t know what’s wrong with you kids today- you are allergic to this, and allergic to that…we used to eat everything in our day…’ well- they are telling the truth. Perhaps they might like to read this book too and see just how swiftly our food has changed, and by design-Not for our health. I will read and re-read this book. It’s tops. Please do yourselves a favour and read it too. No more diets!! Just change certain foods and watch the bloated, inflamed bodys deflate, without the drama of a ‘diet’ . Surely THAT sounds appealing?! Buy it HERE

Life Skills www.vashte.com

Two books:

5 love Languages by Gary Chapman– again- another book every human being in the entire world ought to read in my humble opinion. Not only could it save your marriage/relationship but it can shed light on what floats your boat- and surprise you! It applies to ALL people, across ALL nations and age groups. If you think you are misunderstood- read this book. If you don’t understand why some people do the things they do – read this book. If you want to understand your kids better- read this book. If you want to know how to be more effective in business- read this book. If you deal with human beings- ever- read this book. This is a fun book! In a nutshell: READ THIS BOOK!! Click HERE to buy.

Read it with the intention of learning more on who you are personally, what you like and don’t like; and how to understand pretty much every other person in your whole entire world– if you want. It really is that simple. When you understand yourself, and you make a small effort in understanding people– you will find life shines back at you with a whole lot of goodness. It’s not rocket science. Its people. We are not that complicated.

Boundaries before Marriage – a book I am currently reading as recommended by people I respect. So far, it is a book I think every single person would benefit from reading. It encourages you to explore what you accept and expect in life, get to know who you are, and dive into what you want. All great topics to know before you enter into ANY kind of relationship. Two halves don’t make a whole. Two halves make a co-dependent relationship that explodes in misery. Too many relationships are like this today. Spend some time on you and enjoy finding out what makes you tick. Keep your standards high, and dont make compromises which go against who you are Spiritually.

My next book which I am super excited to get into is:

Books with Vashte.com

So again- in line with my whole food, celiac/gluten free (which is sugar free) way of eating. It all makes sense once you start to unravel the lies. They are not hard to start to unravel- we just need to switch our rains into first gear instead of walking around like zombies – half dead. That is pretty much what we are, and what we are doing to ourselves. Don’t think it is too hard. These books are mega easy to read. Start with one!! If my books don’t get you excited, then find some that do! Personally I love reading about how to swim away from mainstream lies. I’ve swum with mainstream before; it’s so refreshing to swim against the masses. Here you find people who actually care about life. Here you find people with passion and zest. Here you find spunk and personality. Here you find individuals who just want to Live Life OutLoud without the feeling of apathy, grumbling and negativity. We don’t all speak the same language. We don’t all have the SAME passion- but what we DO share is a determination to BE the change we want to see in the world, instead of wishing on a star. And THAT desire, brings all walks of life together. Empowering each other, speaking truths that we actually believe in, walk and live live authentically.  No zombies exist here. Its all fun and interesting and refreshing.

My Bibleis part of me. I read it as often as I can- because I love it. Because it is part of me I sometimes forget to read it. I can tell when I’m not reading my Bible. My energy drops. You see, I love talking to God and having Him guide and instruct me. What is a Bible but God’s Word written just for me every single day as and when I need it; and sometimes when I think I don’t want it- I’m human- it stands to reason – I have attitude just like you 😉 He’s the coolest, most inspiring, most tremendous ‘person’ I turn to for advice and guidance. He is LOVE. He is God. He answers all my prayers. He gives me the desires of my heart. Those are only SOME of the magnificent promises He gives His children. We are ALL His children. All we have to do is pray and invite The One who was, and is and who is to come, to live in our hearts. And there He will live, to gently guide you, just as He guides me. That quiet, beautiful, loving voice that speaks to me through the madness of the world out there. Peace. Love. Joy.

Happy reading!

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xx Vashte xx

Vashte has a BA majoring in Psychology; is a Master Neuro-Linguistic Programmer, Master Results and Performance Coach, and holds qualifications in advanced neurological re-patterning. She has a Diploma in Christian Biblical Studies and is a Qualified Personal Trainer registered with Fitness Australia.  She has been researching nutrition for 20 years; composing wholefood food plans for 6 years, focusing on weight and fatloss via wholefood.

Vashte is a health and wellness ambassador, specialising in spirit, mind and body. 

Vashte is currently based on the Gold Coast and consults from there. Skype sessions are available for those outside this area. Please contact her via email: info@vashte.com for further information.

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Emotional Stress

by Vashte on March 12, 2014

Lets talk emotional.

Stomach ache

Emotional stress and what it can do to a body.

Emotional Stress can be a major contributor to a vast majority of illness, directly and non directly. Illness from the common cold (how frequently do you get a simple little cold, the sniffles, or some other ‘minor’ illness that keeps you únder the weather’ – just slightly) – to more ‘serious’ illness in terms of acute or terminal illness. Yes, stress affects them all.

Every part of the human body can be impacted negatively (or positively) by ‘stress’..

Stress experienced in a negative way, and for too long contributes to:

  • depression
  • reduces the immune system
  • delays healing- emotionally and physically
  • may cause heart attack/stroke
  • impairs memory
  • can increase risk of cancer
  • increases inflammation
  • unwanted weightloss/gain
  • worsen diabetes
  • impairs sexual function
  • increases ageing
  • and more…so much more

Stress makes the body age faster at a cellular and genetic level by shortening ‘telomeres’. Telomeres are DNA at the end of chromosomes that directly affect how quickly cells age. The shorter the telomere, the shorter the life span. Research it. BUT all is not lost if you are a stress head, or are in the middle of an incredibly stressful situation!!!

Stress -Management techniques have been shown to lengthen telomeres (yay!!) So there is light at the end of the tunnel!!!

A life without Stress does not exist. You don’t see every person ageing rapidly, developing chronic illness and living a shortened life by living a life filled with stress. Some do, some don’t. Interesting. This poses the question- why is that? Why can some people handle stress in their stride; whilst others collapse the moment one thing falls out of place? Could it be that the people able to handle stress have implemented stress- management techniques giving them tools to manage stress on higher and higher levels? hmmm maybe…

I think it wise to look briefly at what stress is before we delve into that.

What is stress?

By definition ‘stress’ according to the Oxford dictionary for this purpose is:

noun 
  1. 2.
    a state of mental or emotional strain or tension resulting from adverse or demanding circumstances.
    “he’s obviously under a lot of stress

‘Stress’ is often viewed as “what is going on in a person’s life”. Change; good or otherwise; is stress. A change in perception, understanding, belief, circumstance, lifestyle, weight, marriage/divorce, life/death…. the list goes on and on and on…Stress can be ANY factor contributing to change.  Good change can be just as ‘stressful’ as adverse change for some people. 

The degree to which a person experiences stress is directly related to how that person reacts to that stress. It is how you, or I, as an individual person perceives the stress, which in turn dictates how much if any, stress is involved. Stress is completely subjective, non quantifiable, and entirely personal. I cannot judge judge your stress levels, and you cannot judge my stress levels. Does this make sense?

In a world where we are seeing more chronic illness, more depression, more suicide, more loneliness, more nervous breakdowns, more meltdowns, more encouragement towards being an ‘individual’ so therefore supposedly ‘stronger without the need for anyone else’s help……??!!, and more drugs than ever expected in pharmaceutical drug companies wildest dreams prescribed- with that number exponentially risingwhy are we not ALL taking a moment  to ask ourselves:

pills pills and more pills

  • WHAT exactly is going on here?
  • WHO has created and continues to create this Monster?
  • HOW do we stop it? Or at least- how do I stop it in my own world. If you stop it in your world- you will be the light for others to see and give them the strength to believe that they can do it to. I mean if i can do it, you can too right? So if you can do it- so can someone else. And so it flows.
  • Why is a “meltdown” or “nervous breakdown” so accepted today? Why is it virtually expected at some time in life for many people today???

The people of today must be experiencing obscene amounts of this ‘stress’ to lead them down the road to breakdowns. What is going on????

Perceived Stress.

stress

If you feel stress; you are stressed. It really is that simple. Your body will respond to how you are feeling; so if you ‘feel’ stress- the body will result in stress. The mind affects the body just as the body affects the mind. We cannot dissociate one from the other.

It does not matter what the stress in any given person’s life actually is. What matters  is how that person deals with or manages that stress. For example: making billion dollar investments on high risk stocks can be experienced or perceived in exactly the same magnitude as changing jobs, losing/gaining weight; having a haircut to someone else!!!!  Stress is as individual as we are, and is often compounded by a sequence of events. The straw that breaks the camel’s back is not what actual breaks the camel’s back, but it is the one thing that often gets blamed for doing so when in fact, the sequence of event that lead up to that straw is responsible. That sequence may have started years prior! 

HOW do we stop Stress? Or at least manage it? 

We don’t stop ‘stress’ in life. Without ‘stress’ we would like devolve as opposed to evolve. There would be no challenge in life. No goals to hit. No obstacles to overcome. ‘Stress’ is a necessary and healthy co-factor in our existence. I have learnt the most, the fastest, and more robust lessons through times of ‘stress’ and even tragedy. HOW I choose to face stress directly affects HOW stress affects me. Am I a victim? Or am I an achiever? Do I overcome obstacles with one mighty bound (Superman!); do I take a few mighty bounds?; or loads of mighty bounds which might not appear to the outside world as mighty, but in my world, and where I’m at for that moment- they are mighty!!! This is the mindset of a Mighty Warrior. A Princess warrior. A Compassionate Samurai. Whatever you want to call yourself to give you empowerment- do so! Never the victim. Never.

Some keys I use to manage stress are as follows. They are my Stress Management Tools. If you have not got some tools in place that are used on a daily practice, perhaps you too might like to implement some, if not all, of these too. They just might save your life, as they have mine :)

Vashte’s 9 Stress Management Tools:

1. Learn HOW to turn stress OFF when it is not beneficial. 

In certain circumstances such as when I’m working, exercising, creating… stress is good! I ask myself which areas of life I thrive on stress and allow it in for a short time. This is controlled. I like it. What is life without a challenge or two? There are certain seasons when even a little stress can be too much, so learn to pull back in those times. We all have different seasons and thresholds dependent on what is happening in life, and how we deal with them. Many factors are completely out of our control- what we DO control is HOW we ‘react’ to them or manage them.

Stress in this manner can be healthy when I turn it on and turn it off. I turn it on to produce the goods, being mindful of how I am with others around me at work; then leave it at the door when I go home, or change roles. When I go home at night, I relax. My choice. My rules. Turn it on and turn it off. Just like a light switch. 

2. Pray.

Fear Not

As a Christian I turn the The Lord as often as I remember. I do forget sometimes and thats when I end up tripping over my own feet. :) I’m human; I forget. I talk to Him, I read my Bible, I use work books to help me interpret the Bible and develop my relationship with Jesus, The Holy Spirit and God. I read 21st C books written by Christian’s on how to live in this world- being relevant. I apply these principles. I ditch worldly affirmations and worldly self help books- they just don’t work like The Truth. Nothing does! If you want to know where my ‘wisdom’  comes from- as some have asked- it’s not my wisdom – it comes from God. I dont pray crying out ‘why has this happened to me??!!’ I pray using stregnth and promises from the Bible. I pray from a place of empowerment. Always. With belief that God will show the the way, the truth and light. And He does. Every time. HERE is how I pray to get results x.

3. Meditate

The Bible encourages us to meditate on God’s Word daily. So I meditate. On Him and the truth he has written about me and for me. 

I find meditating first thing in the morning and (if I’m being particularity awesome….) last thing at night. Definitely first thing in the morning. This sets my day up in gratitude, love, clarity and focus. I usually incorporate a brisk walk to help physically charge and awaken my body at the same time.  I walk without music. Just me, God and the other early risers getting ahead start on all the late starters in life! If I quiet my mind, am present in the moment, I hear the answers I seek. Effective mindfulness. Effective communication with the One True God. Effectively developing my relationship with Him. Having fun with Him.

Meditation is about focusing mental energy.

Focusing energy increases power.

Increased power is empowerment.

Empowerment allows for more concentration.

Concentration results in better function and effectiveness: in school; in business; in sports; in LIFE.

4. Exercise

walking

Ooh a life without exercise would be equivalent to a life without music! = NO Life at all!!!!

Walking is GREAT!!! Most people can walk. So do more of it. Faster. 😉 Walking with purpose and appreciating that we CAN walk will change the state of the mind. Try it. Gentle exercise is better  for the vast majority of people in today’s society regardless of fitness level. Walking is one of the BEST fat burning exercises you can dream of doing. Dancing is another. Walking is easier see?! 

I run as nothing makes me feel more alive than when I finish a run. But this is a very jarring exercise and certainly has it’s faults. I walk in the mornings :) Join me! Walk. Walk with power. First thing in the morning. Change your life. Change your stress levels. Empower yourself.

5. Stretch!

Pilates is a brilliant practice for stretching, lengthening the body and strengthening the core. It will give you an amazing posture and free any creaky or stuck bits (frozen shoulder anyone?) Instructors are usually highly trained and focus on core strength. True change comes from the inside out- from the core. Start stretching.

By working with the body, and focusing on positive change, we can manage stress far more effectively.

6. FOOD

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I finally bring this up. One of my favourite topics!! The food I eat plays a direct role in how I process information and how I handle situations. If you are any different, then… you my friend, are an alien from a planet far, far away.

  • Foods that make us sleepy and tired such as: heavy, creamy foods, pastas, breads, dairy; can slow the body and mind as energy is used in some attempt to digest this crap. Loads of energy is taken as these so called foods produce an inflamed response in many people sending the body into overdrive, causing stress internally.
  • Refined sugar, artificial sweeteners and foods with chemicals (most supermarket foods) go straight to the brain and cause neuro-toxic responses. In ‘Vashte’ words: cause brain farts, toxic ones, resulting in behavioural changes in the vast majority of people. Myself included. I used to drink a product called Defin-8. Sold as a ‘mostly natural pre-workout’ – used by  people who use the gym, or in my case for energy. Much like an energy drink. Well, there is nothing natural about this product. Beware of the label ” natural sweetener”. WHAT EXACTLY is this? It is not labeled. For your information: MSG is a NATURAL PRODUCT. I drink Defin-8 and my brain shuts down. Like flicking a switch. Boom. I’m in lala land. I get agitated and itchy. BAD. Really bad. Here is what is happening: brain cells are dying. Just by me drinking a product sold as ‘mostly natural’. Lord knows I have damaged enough brain cells without adding to the equation!
  • Stimulants like coffee and energy drinks can and often do result in dependency. They sure will stimulate the brain and therefore nervous system producing some degree of false energy, and just as surely, they will result in a crash around 1-3 hours later producing a sure fire crash. Hence reaching for another hit.

Choose real food. Real food is whole food. Whole food is made by God without man’s intervention. We stuff it up every. single. time. Wholefoods are: vegetables, good fats, proteins and a little fruit. If you don’t know where to start with healthy, whole foods I have a wide range of FREE easy recipes to get you going!  Click HERE NOW!I’m not one to hang out in the kitchen unless its a party and that’s where it’s at, but only ever then! My recipes are simple, easy and clean eating. AND DELICIOUS!!! Give them a go!!

By changing the food and drink I consume, I directly changed how I experienced and will continue to experience stress.

7. Breathe!!!!

So simple, yet so many forget about it!

Physiologically, when we are stressed it is completely natural to breath shallow, fast breaths. Why? The body is preparing itself for danger. It senses attack. It is preparing me for a fight or a flight. Blood rushes to muscles in my arms and legs leaving digestion – don’t eat when stressed! Eyes dilate. Blood rushes to my heart and increases beats per minute. I’m ready to fight or run. This is an inbuilt defense mechanism that has kept us humans alive since the dawn of time. Its awesomely clever.  God is pretty on to it! When I am stressed I can get tunnel vision- my vision becomes like a laser beam to the exclusion of everything else. Good if I’m looking for an escape, bad if there is oncoming traffic….or I’m not needing to run like a black panther to escape one. Which has never happened by the way. I’m still here. When I say I like to run.. it is not fast by any stretch of the imagination :)

If I were to experience that every time I experienced stress, I would be a train wreck. Some people live in this state day in, day out. This is chronic stress and is guaranteed to make a human body very sick. If not now, eventually. I lived in this state for two years. A human can live like this for a large part of their lives. What often results is sudden cardiac arrest. Often the first sign of cardiac arrest is death. Which is why cardiovascular disease is the number one cause of death in the Western World. It is too late at the first sign of cardiac arrest.

  • Breathe.
  • Notice your breath.

The breath is usually the easiest sign indicating stress. Sometimes I notice I am shallow breathing when my conscious mind has not quite connected to any perceived stress. All I need to do to regain control is stop doing whatever it is that I am doing and focus on my breath. By taking long, slow, deep breathes, I regulate my heart rate and slow my breathing and heart rate down.

Stress can be controlled by breathing correctly! So simple. Why are we not all aware of this and taught to practice this? In school would be the best place to start. It may help with bullying, exams, sports events.. life after school.

Breath is the link between the mind and the body. It both reflects and affects the body’s level of stress. The mind affects the body; the body affects the mind.  The whole is in the part and the part is n the whole. 

8. Focus.

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Determine my focus. I ask myself: what is it I am focusing on? Is it beneficial or toxic? Ditch the toxic. This revolves around forgiveness, letting go and forgetting. There is no forgiveness without forgetting. Chronic hatred and anger are among the worst forms of stress. If I remain angry with a person or situation, I empower that person or situation to lord over my life, take control of my thoughts and create a toxic, sick world for me to live in. No thanks.

Forgiving a person does not excuse the behaviour, but it does free my mind from stress, suffering and physical illness. Let it go. There are many situations in my life where I could ‘justifiably’ be angry and harbour resentment and hatred. pfff. No way. I give it all to God and He can deal with the mess. I have a life to live.

Determine your focus with a pure heart = freedom.

It takes strength and courage to forgive. Just try it. A courage you will never experience if you choose not to forgive, let go and foeget. Live an empowered life, not a life lorded over by those who have hurt you.

9. Reach Out.

Connect with the people! Find support groups, or people similar to you who are also moving forward and getting on with life. DON’T connect with people who marinate in the past and tell their story over and over and over..and over. Toxic!! Run Forrest RUN!!!

We all have sad times in life. Don’t choose to stay there! Move on. Join sports groups, reading groups, computer groups..do stuff that you find FUN!!! FUN!!! The key to life!!! Dont LOOK for happiness!!! Do the stuff that interests you and you ARE the happiness and fun in the world!!!! Just get out and start connecting with good people! Get on with LIVING!! 

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This is NO  dummy run, although it sure looks as though there are some dummies sleep walking around this world! DON’T be ONE!!!

Quit hiding out on your own. That is dangerous. Being alone is when the lies your head tells you appear real. Get out and about. Dust the cobwebs off and start Living Life OutLoud!! Watch the stress melt away, seemingly without you even trying too hard.. because you are having fun! Before long you will wonder what that old life was all about and how it was even possible in your world. 

Life is for Living. Manage the stress using techniques proven over the ages. Life involves stress. We can’t stop it but we sure can manage HOW we deal with it.

Live Your Life OutLoud.

xx Vashte xx

Vashte has a BA majoring in Psychology; is a Master Neuro-Linguistic Programmer, Master Results and Performance Coach, and holds qualifications in advanced neurological re-patterning. She has a Diploma in Christian Biblical Studies and is a Qualified Personal Trainer registered with Fitness Australia.  She has been researching nutrition for 20 years; composing wholefood food plans for 6 years, focusing on weight and fatloss via wholefood.

Vashte is a health and wellness ambassador, specialising in spirit, mind and body. 

Vashte is currently based on the Gold Coast and consults from there. Skype sessions are available for those outside this area. Please contact her via email: info@vashte.com for further information.

 

 

 

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Vibrant Life

by Vashte on February 12, 2014

Here I am. In your face :) With a smile. Why frown?!

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In my posts on facebook, instagram and here on this site I like to keep an upbeat outlook on life. Why? Because so much we see and hear out there IS doom and gloom when it just doesn’t have to BE that way!

  • Have I lived a life without trouble? No.
  • Is there trouble in my life now? Sometimes.
  • Do I choose to dwell and marinate on the negative circumstance, or do I choose to figure out a way around those times- or through them. You guessed it- the second option. I choose to move through as often and as fast as I can.
  • Why don’t you try that too, if you haven’t already done so?

I have found that when I dwell on worry’s, or the hard situations ‘thrown” at me (could it be a possibility that I may have created that event myself….); or the unfairness in life (?!!)… well, that is what I dwell on and talk about. By dwelling on and talking more and more about these things, I’m sitting in my own little pigsty rolling in the mud. And then I wonder why life looks like, smells like and tastes like… crap!

All  problems are problems of our imagination; just as all solutions are solutions of the imagination. Think about that!

If the thoughts I constantly think are misery, lack-of, defeatist thoughts; then what are my actions likely to be? The same!!! Because as a man thinkith- so is he- A little quote from the Christian Bible. In the same breathe, if my thoughts are uplifting, happy and joy filled, what are my actions then likely to be as a direct result? The sameuplifting, happy and joy-filled. And when a person has those thoughts and those actions flowing- what is possible for that person?? ANYTHING THEY DESIRE.

  1. Strength comes from faith.
  2. Faith is believing in something unseen yet, and perhaps not experienced in the body yet.
  3. Faith is believing.
  4. Believing is power.
  5. With power you can overcome the worst nightmare you can dream up, in your reality.
  6. You CAN.

Every single day people are rising up out of the darkness and into the light. In the light there are no secrets, there is no doubt, there is no fear. But we must make the FIRST MOVE. The first move is to just imagine what it might be like to have faith. Imagine what it might be like to believe that all things are possible. All things ARE possible to the one who believes in Christ Jesus. That, my friends, is a promise of God. And God keeps ALL of His promises. Unlike humans. Once we start to IMAGINE that these things are possible…they become so; as Truth states: as a man thinkth so it he! Because once we start imagining good things, what are we doing? We are thinking these things. If we are thinking these things, then what is a likely follow on effect …? We start DOING good thingsjust because. Not with the intention of getting something in return. Just because. And here-in lies the secret to a fun filled, ease filled life, with the ability to overcome when trouble rises. And trouble does come. This is life. Get with the programme.

Attitude will determine Outcome. Every. Single. Time.

I thought I would write this little post as I believe some people think that I am constantly ”up” and constantly positive. This is simply not true. You see, I, like you, are human too. I have good days and days where I would like to give myself a frontal lobotomy for the things I say and the things I do. On those days, I usually pull away from the maddening crowd and make some attempt at coming to terms with where the brain farts are coming from. I have a couple of people whom I may choose to confide in. It is never via an open forum social media platform :) That to me is unnecessary. The world does not need to hear my dirty laundry, unless I make it the world’s business. lol but what point is there in that, and quite frankly the world doesn’t care; it has enough of it’s own crap to try deal with let alone little ol me.

The higher the platform you put someone on is setting that person up for a higher fall as we are all human. We all make mistakes. Understand every person has their strengths and their weaknesses, be aware of them and love them anyway. I still have to allow others that right too as it is easy for us as humans to fall into ‘self’- righteousness– condemning others for behaviour we believe incorrect. Until we do it.

Join me in 2014 in allowing more forgiveness, more love, more acceptance, more tolerance into my life. Yours too perhaps. And understand that I too am human, don’t put me on a pedestal as I just might fall and I don’t like that; I fall hard. Same goes for anyone else in your life.

Here’s to an EMPOWERED 2014 with more understanding, more love and more truth than ever before.

xx Vashte xx

 

 

 

 

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Put the Effort In

by Vashte on September 20, 2013

Inspired by a post from my new friend Hannah Seemann, I am compelled to add my two cents worth. Please read THIS article which I found highly accurate and certainly not confronting enough for the reality in which we live. A brilliant piece nonetheless, and written kindly as it would seem our generation is far too fragile to handle anything less.

I can speak with a certain frankness as I fall into this generation so, in essence, I am writing about myself just as much as anyone else so no hard feelings; although I am of the opinion we are past bubble wrapping our words and behaviours. It clearly has not worked.

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We, (and I include myself in that ‘we’) – We today, those of us brought up in the land of plenty, God’s Zone, Australia, New Zealand or any Western developed country, seem to have made a unanimous decision that we ‘deserve it all’. mwa hahaha. Whilst this could possibly be true for those people who work for their goals, dreams and desires; this decision also appears to have been made by those of us who just want it, without having to lift one little finger. Enter the world of the Spoilt Brat.

Spoilt Brats: Generation Y and most certainly Generation X.

I am included in these generations I remind you.

We have been given everything we asked for, or wanted. Whether we deserved it, earned it or whinged for it, we generally have managed to find a way to get what we wanted, and have the belief we ‘deserved’.  Our parents wanted to make our lives that much easier than theirs so they worked hard, as shown by their parents, and then gave us everything they missed out on. Enter – the issue.

Through being given everything we wanted, or as much as our parents could give at least, we have grown up with an overinflated ego of ourselves, as clearly pointed out through Hannah’s linked article.

What has risen is a generation of ‘takers’, who have no conception of giving. Nor do we have much of a concept of working  hard and pushing through times that are seemingly hard. And I must reiterate seemingly hard– we have grown up with pretty much everything at our fingertips, or within arms reach, and if it is not, well the Government or some charitable body surely must have some kind of grant or benefit to aid and assist us. Surely?!

Unfortunately for us, this has not helped us one iota. A generation of spoilt brats has emerged, and we are breeding another generation of even more grossly spoilt brats- unless we stop it! Learning how to overcome obstacles is an important growth factor in life. We have no serious obstacles to overcome, aside from the ones we generate ourselves and usually due to our own ill equipped planning.

Look at us! We grow fatter and fatter, sicker and sicker, and some poorer and poorer.. all whilst we sit back on our couches, watching pay TV, eating fast food (as we believe that is all we can afford, or can be bothered preparing); we move less and less, discover more and more illnesses and reasons not to work, and still want and demand the best of everything. We stink of laziness and sloth.

DIETING

Our children are only products of the environment they grow up in. We are not setting the best example nor a model that is doing anything to benefit them for their future. Our children are predicted to die before us due to this model we have set in motion.

This is scary.

We complain as foreigners take ‘our jobs’ and yet, how many of us are actually willing to get up off those couches, leaving that paid TV, takeout pizza and cigarettes to actually go to work? Why should they when they are collecting a hefty sum from our Govt to continue acting in such a manner? A sum, often more lucrative than the weekly pay check at the end of the week.

Some people actually need this and are legitimate. Some, not many, and certainly not as many as are currently collecting this ‘magic money’. This magic money will dry and is drying up, as surely we are all aware this magic money is not magic at all, but results from taxes paid from those employed. If less people are employed.. it stands to reason there is less money to distribute to the couches, let alone to the running of the country.

Come on team- and we are a team! I am in this group too and it is up to all of us to turn this around or we are looking down the nozzle of a very real firearm. We are doing it to ourselves and our children.

Isn’t it time we looked back at how our parents and their parents lived? We do not ‘deserve’ anything at all. Noone does. When we put in the hard yards and work for a living; when we set goals and take the action needed; when we understand those credit cards are NOT your best friend.. perhaps we can lead our children and their children into a better quality of life. Instead of setting them up for failure from day dot.

Isn’t it time we went back to the drawing board and learnt to restrain ourselves from our whimsical notions that we are ‘born to shop’; that ‘shopping defines us;  that the car we drive reflects who we are?.. We do not need the latest ridiculous gadget, outfit, nor be ‘seen’ in the ‘right’ circles. Why are we refusing to grow up?  We do not deserve holidays when we do not work for them. If we work, then we can afford to take a holiday every now and then– without out racking up debt to take it.

How about showing our children how to save, by going without. How about eating the leftovers from last nights dinner as lunch. How about NOT buying takeaway 3 times a week, or NOT switching on the TV, and NOT using that credit card so easily. How about learning to budget, and showing our children how!

It is up to us to do this! If we love our children as much as we say we do, we would set them up for a realistic life by showing them they DO NOT deserve everything they ‘want’ but if, and only if, they work hard with consistency, then perhaps they too will be shown how to live a life worth living.

We are teaching them, and many of us believe ourselves, that ‘love’ as a foreign construct- reachable through materialism, and external. This is a lie. Such a big, fat common lie in our world today and that is why so many of us are so lonely and miserable. Teach them, and reteach ourselves that love, (which is what we all yearn for when it all boils down to it), is found within. All  the money in the world cannot buy love for yourself, or other people. Not to be truly satisfied.

Let’s go back to our grandparents ways of living. Return to simplicity and learn to smell the roses; grow and cook our own food; and make our own fun, instead of this vain attempt at buying it all- via the remote control, and sticking it on the credit card then declaring bankruptcy. Seriously!?

Life is so much more than taking! Life can be abundantly blessed and filled with love and everything your heart desires if we go back to the basic understanding that we DO live in an abundant country; that we have NO real hardships and so.. we CAN work hard to earn the desires of our hearts…if we really do want them. It is through consistent work, not luck.

I am a Spoilt Brat Gen Y individual too. I have been given more than I deserved and worked for. I have not worked as hard as my mother or any of her brothers and sisters.  I am very aware of this. I do not assume I deserve anything in life aside from that which I work for, and even then I don’t ‘deserve’ anything. Come on team, lets find our Spirit, lets find our Spunk and get off our butts and make something of our lives. Especially for those of you who have children- they are looking to us for guidance. It is up to us to show them how.

Stop looking for the quick fix in life. There are none that count for anything. Quick fix diets, 4 hour working weeks, magic money, perfect lives without any thorns- a bubble that just doesn’t exist so lets stop buying into it as it only blows up around our faces.

Enjoy working and earning your keep. Enjoy making an effort. Enjoy obstacles and times of challenge – they result in improvement. These are the things in life that strengthen our spines and make us determined and focused. These are the things that create great stories and a wonderful sense of achievement.

We were born to succeed. Work for it.

stop wishing

Living life is not through being handed everything on a platter. Life gets very boring, very quickly that way, and we find ourselves in trouble often when we are spoilt. Life is meant to be interesting; life is meant to be peppered with situations. How else can you grow aside from facing and overcoming situations?

  • Set more goals.
  • Refocus your aim.
  • Reach higher and work harder.
  • Show yourself how strong and capable you actually are. Show your children and their children that you are NOT the spoilt brat of our generation, but one of the hopefully growing few that revolt against this pathetic way of life, and that you achieve more than you think you can.
  • BE the inspiration this world is looking for.
  • Quit looking for the quick fix.
  • You are stronger than you know- just get up and go do it!!

It is fun jumping off that diving board into the unknown! Seriously- ask yourself- what is the worst that count happen? And then ask yourself: what is the BEST that could happen??!!!! And then make it happen!!!

xx Vashte xx

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Bridge To Brisbane Fun Run. 10km.

by Vashte on September 10, 2013

Bridge To Brisbane

It was another seemingly unsuspecting Sunday morning with a difference! Two things marked this Sunday a little different from the outset than other Sundays. The first was Fathers Day Down Under– so one might expect many Dads to be enjoying breakfast in bed made by their doting kiddy winks, and yet a crowd of over 41,000 people gathered at the foot of Brisbane’s Gateway Bridge- many of whom likely fathers! I suspect some fathers had chosen to get up well before their little ones could surprise them with such an idea this year- but why?!

On the 1st Sept 2013, 41,000 people give or take, joined together with a common goal: to run, walk, push prams, wheel themselves, or somehow transport  themselves on foot 10km over the Gateway Bridge and beyond.. for fun! I was one of those 41,000 people!!

I know that many people shudder at the thought of getting up while it is still pitch black to voluntarily throw on lycra of any description for whatever reason. Add to that  the absolutely preposterous concept of actually opting to run such a distance at their own free run. All before breakfast! But then again, it would seem many people think it something different and fun to do.. 41,000 of us!

Until you join in and try it, you cannot bag it. The buzz in energy 41,000 people creates is something else. Whilst the thought of running such a distance may make your heart flutter slightly, and send your mind into a spin telling the story you keep playing to yourself that ”you could never do that”.. giving it a go just once would enable you to know once and for all if you would make it! Most people don’t race. In fact, it is pretty hard to race unless you put yourself in the elite category, and get off first. These guys and girls are usually racing for money, time and/or somewhat professional. Thes guys and girls are the minority.

The rest of us choose a category we think we fit. If it is your first attempt at a run/walk like this.. go easy on yourself and put yourself in the group that sets off last! They give you oodles of time to finish so even if you walk the entire thing, you do it!

Everyone is very supportive! Many people dress up for the fun of it or as a team. We are all there with the knoweldge that the great majority of Australians are still sleeping in bed, warm and rugged up. We may indeed be slightly crazy but we know that after this is done.. we can all enjoy a shower, and head off for a well deserved breakfast with a metabolism burning like a fire in the knowledge we did what most people can’t be bothered even trying!

Bridge To Brisbane

Watching the sun rise on the first offiicial day of Spring whislt running along roads that are very rarely closed is something special. Promo girls are dotted along the track holding banners and calling out encouragement, as are specatators holding personal placards for their friends and family members, and then there are the dj’s!! Yes dj’s- I remember at least two officially set up, pumping out tunes to keep us going! All fun and all very cool.

The bridge itself  is a gradients of 5%. It is at the start so many people choose to walk it. I found it easier than I expected, likely as the adrenalin kicked in passing the start line :) The killer for me was the sneaky little bridge at the 8km mark.. it was a little one but I was not expecting it. Youch! Having very little running training behind me, and what running I have been doing this year is all very flat, any increment is a move up for this long distance, flat line runner! At that little bridge I almost stopped, but the mind is a great thing when also exercised well. I decided to dig in just when I wanted to stop the most and push through. No stopping allowed I had a Personal Best time to make!

I would have been so disappointed with myself had I stopped. Having run two ½ marathons this year already, this 10km should be in the bag – 1km 5% incline on the bridge aside 😉

With the crowd pumping, I nailed this run in 53 minutes and 7 secs; a personal best for me including hills! I was aiming for 50 mins, so that will be for the next 10km I run then.

Bridge To Brisbane

Challenge yourself. Do stuff that scares you. Book yourself in for events and get amongst it. Give life a go! Some people say that running is not good for the joints, and yet, neither is sitting on the couch stuffing your face with chocolate watching movies on a regular basis!! If something has to give, I would prefer that it gives through me being active as opposed to being a sloth whist giving out unsolicited advise to people who like to get amongst it!

So come on and join me! You don’t have to be the world’s fastest runner. You don’t have to be incredibly fit. You don’t have to have spent the last 3 months running 5 days a week to have some fun in an organised run. You CAN walk part, if not all of it! Come on down to get involved in the atmosphere, feel the sense of achievement in crossing the finish line walking or running. Come and see the plethora of people all ages, all abilities, all shapes, all sizes..all just giving life a go!

Come out from behind those four walls you call home and breathe the fresh air, watch the sun rise, and enjoy the excitement as people, just like you, line up and wonder if they can cross the finish line as well!

While you have all your facilites about you, why don’t you do something crazy like this consciously?? Heaven knows what you will do later in life! There is nothing more heart wrenching than coming to the end of your life and wishing you had given it more of a go.

We only regret the things we wanted to do, but didn’t. Not the things we ‘failed’. If you try, and I mean really try, and find things don’t work out the way you imagined- at least you found that out for yourself.

Quit giving advise on stuff you havent tried!! We all do it!! Just get out there and try it for yourself! It really is surprising what we can do. Our minds tell us we can’t. But.. there is no such thing as can’t… unless you believe it.

:)

Think you can or think you cant- either way- you will be right.

So think you can and start Living a Life OutLoud!!!

Are we there yet??

Are we there yet…????

xx Vashte xx

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Push Through

by Vashte on August 21, 2013

Push Through

Push Through Inertia

Push Through Pain

Push Through Hard Times

Push Through Broken Times

Push Through Criticism

Push Through “Cant”

Push Through Doubt

Push Through Excuses

Push Through Self Hatred

Push Through Giving Up

Push Through Ridicule

Push Through Comparison

Push Through Odds staked against you

Push Through it all.

When you are going through hell just keep walking. Why do people stop when they think they are in hell? Why do people give up when the odds are staked against them? Why do we listen to those that have no confidence in themselves? Why do we let other people bring us down? What other people think of you is none of your business. Let them talk! Because they will. Small people talk about people, leaders talk about ideas, design and inspiration. What are you and what are you listening to? What are you talking about over coffee, dinner and  friendly chit chat?

If we let other people’s opinion  of us define us, then we are shooting ourselves in the foot. Consider this: most people out there have little to no self-confidence. Those with the least self-confidence are not the ones you may expect. These people are usually the biggest and baddest bullies. The people are the ones with the loud mouths and attitude to boot. Such people usually have nothing inside to hold them up so they think they need to try to bring others down. Such people love to criticise, laugh at, and pull you down publically. This is the only way they know to try to elevate their status over you.

Once you understand that the loudest people have the least self-confidence and self-assurance, it stands to reason that every day people also have self-doubt.  Understand this: if you have self-doubt, you can be fairly confident that most other people out there have exactly the same issues, questions, nagging doubts going on inside their heads. It is not only you. Push through those thoughts. Do not give them validation nor the time of day. You are completely normal for having those thoughts! It is Ok. You are OK. Push through it! Do not spend time on them nor focus on them. Instead,  focus on taking the necessary action in making your dreams goals and therefore reality.

Why do we all constantly compare and make remarks about attributes in people we don’t even know? We make instant judgements based on premise. All fallacy. With nothing substantial to back up statements and judgements.  Stop spreading rumours.

Just Stop.

If you don’t, then how can you expect to be exempt from the critical eye? Criticism is a habit many people have developed in the comfort of their own home in front of TV. We sit there, on our couches giving our harshest criticism on people who have stuck their neck out. We openly condemn those that worked against all odds to actually get on TV and give it their best. Why do we do this? To bring them down. Secretly we all wish we had the confidence to try ourselves.. but then we worry what other people would think. Other people (critics) just like… .. ourselves …as we sit there destroying these people, laughing  at these people, and are appalled that they should ever think to audition or have an opinion!!

“Who do they think they are??!!””

  • These people are The Ones. The ones who pushed through. Pushed through all YOUR criticism, sneering, laughing, cajoling.
  • These are the people who WILL make it, one day, if not this day while you stay repeating the same ol, same ol. Getting older, getting fatter, getting lazier. Fading into nothingness.
  • These are the people who pushed through the tough times, the bullying, the self doubt.
  • These are the people who made a decision. A decision in which they decided to CUT OFF from all else. A decision which meant they focused on their goals to the exclusion of all else. So that they would give it their best shot.

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YOU can be this person too.

Just get up off the couch. Quit criticising other people no matter how preposterous you think their dream is. WHO are You to judge another person’s dreams? Haven’t you seen the complete transformations made in some people’s lives when they hold on to a dream, take the necessary action and just keep getting up every single time they get knocked down?

If you doubt them, if you think it is impossible; then you think it is impossible for your own life. Think about that for a second or three. The only reason you say it is not possible for someone else is because you are speaking your own self-doubts over someone else. If that person has made a decision to go for it- nothing YOU say can stop them. Why would your words affect them one iota? They don’t care what you think. You have no right to speak negative over their lives.

Just as no one has the right to speak negative over yours. Unless you let them. Unless you speak negative over others.

So stop doing that.

Start new today. Right now. Start with endorsing other people’s dreams. Start encouraging other people and you will be encouraged yourself. Self-confidence does not necessarily come from focusing on yourself. Perhaps you have been doing that for too long! Start taking the focus off yourself and turn your attention onto other people. BE an encourager. Open your eyes to the possibility of hope manifested. Give hope. Give life. Speak words of encouragement and life over others, and without you even trying, you will become empowered yourself.

The more you encourage; The more you believe; The more you endorse as opposed to tear down- The less you will need to push through as you will find hard times become less and less frequent. When they do occur, you will have strengthened your resolve;  your self-confidence; your belief in the possibility of hope, that you breeze through events you previously may have thought impossible to deal with.

That is the power of love. That is the power of walking in love. That is the power of being in love. Being in peace. Living in hope and faith. Take your eyes off yourself and your situation right now. Focus on the goal. Do the work needed and push through being positive in your steps; being positive in your words.

If you have nothing good to say, then choose to say nothing. Pulling other people down only pulls you down further. If you want to push through, if you want to fly like the eagle, then start acting like one.

Push through it all. Push through them all so you can soar higher every day.

xx Vashte xx

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CREATE your Joy!!

by Vashte on August 7, 2013

In a world where dreams are stolen, shattered and destroyed every day, it is a welcome respite when you find your light, however faint, still flickering away. Although muted by the events of the world, your candle never goes out. It was designed to withstand the greatest of tragedies, and in some cases shine brighter through those times.

HOPE. Vashte www.vashte.com

Realise this: the tiniest candle outshines the darkest dark- every time.

There is hope. There is strength. There are possibilities.

  • You can.
  • You will.
  • You are able and capable.

When you find yourself facing those dark times, don’t give up. Don’t turn and run. Don’t cower and hide. STAND tall. FACE your fear, and you will find it turns into a sniveling little willow the wisp and runs away FROM YOU. Fear is most often a fear of the unknown. Why we are afraid of the unknown is intriguing as the unknown is where we grow the most. The unknown is where the possibilities lie! The unknown is where you go when you want change to happen in your life! How can we expect anything different when we continue to repeat the same behaviour, the same thoughts, associate with the same type of people?

Same shit, different day? Well that can be someone else’s mantra. It is certainly not mine or any of my clients!

The world will want you to believe that mantra. ”The world” is not here to support you in your dreams, your goals or your aspirations… until you make it support your dreams, goals and aspirations!

When they say ”it is all in your mind”.. you better believe it! Because it is!

Think about this if you would:

  • 2 children born into the same family, treated exactly the same but-
  • One child believes for some ‘strange’ they will one day win gold at the Olympics, despite the obstacles, despite parents putting them down, despite school mates poking fun at them.
  • The second child who listens to the put downs, and believes them; Owning those condemning thoughts and useless affirmations =  Believes they will never amount to anything.
  • What do you think happens in adult life?
  • The first child grows into a strong adult, capable of anything, overcoming ALL obstacles seemingly effortlessly.
  • The second child grows into a shadow of an adult, timid and afraid. Shy and quiet. Introverted and introspective. Life is difficult at the best of times.
  • Two individual people, dealing with life in very different ways.

It is all in the mind. Build the strength of your mind.

I believe without a doubt we are ALL made in the image and likeness of God; that we are righteous through Christ. My Bible tells me these Truths. These are integral aspects of learning that ‘man’ does not have the final say over who you are, what you are, nor what you amount to – today, tomorrow OR as you were as a child, nor what you did yesterday. Live within the law of man, yes, but don’t let other people’s opinions as to what you are capable of dictate your life to you!! If you can dream a dream, it is yours to achieve it. Why do you think you dream your dreams, specific to you? Your dreams are different to my dreams! Your dreams are created by you and for you to achieve. If you can imagine it, you can dream it, if you can dream it you can set it in your future time line and make it a goal to hit! Make it fun! Step outside that box! You are stronger than you think you are! Oh yes you are!! BELIEVE it. KNOW it. OWN it.

Find your Joy in this life. It is never too late to start. Awaken to see the Truth in every given situation. Understand you are very special. You are needed in this life. You are here for such a time as this and you fit in perfectly, if only you learn to love yourself the way God loves you. If He sees you as perfect, righteous and beautiful- as He does– why do you not see yourself as this also? SEE the Truth. HONOUR yourself. GROW into the YOU that you are designed to be.

Don’t worry about the past. Make peace with it. Forgive every day, and ask for forgiveness for your mistakes. Allow yourself to change. Allow yourself to explore. Find out what inspires you, what motivates you, what EXCITES you? It does not matter what other people think of these things- they are yours! What other people think of you is not your business so long as you walk in love!  BE the type of person you want to meet! Don’t LOOK for what you want in your world! CREATE it!

You CANNOT change other people. You CANNOT change your husband or wife. You CANNOT change your parents, your children, your friends. You CANNOT change another person. So please stop trying! It is a waste of time and completely redundant! So what CAN you change? YOU can change YOU. TODAY. Right NOW. You can start to look at how YOU can change YOURSELF to BECOME the awesomeness of you! BE kindness. BE joy-filled. BE peace. BE love. BE patience. BE faith. BE all the things you value in life. THEN you will open your life to other people of the same calibre. THEN you will create the change you would like in your life.

BELIEVE, HOPE, TRUST.

There IS goodness out there. There IS life! There is faith! There IS fun! There IS an incredible lightness of being and its all out there!! Ór rather..it is all WITHIN you … all it takes is a little exploring, a little understanding, a little open-mindedness, and a touch of love and patience. You have all this and more inside of you! Even if you don’t see it, feel it or think it possible – I DO.

I BELIEVE in YOU. If that is what it takes to help you step up, and out of that box that you currently live within, let ME believe IN you and offer my hand in HOPE and BELIEF until YOU can BELIEVE it all for yourself. You have a MIGHTY God looking down on you, wanting so much to love on you, support you, care for you.. one step at a time. That is my mantra for life. One step. That is all it takes.

One step towards your Joy. Towards your Peace. Towards your Strength. When you take one step, you can take another, and then another, and before too long you have taken yourself, by taking ownership of your own life, into a whole new rhelm- a rhelm of life that is very real, and very tangible for those of us who live in it.

JOY Filled Life with Vashte www.vashte.com

If you would like to talk more with me on my coaching programmes, please feel free to make contact. My email is: info@vashte.com.  I offer my hand in help and assistance. Perhaps I can be that person to walk with you for a short time, or for a long time, side by side through life for a while. Empowering you through mindful strategies, giving you tools in life to aid and assist you in making strategic, healthy decisions; encouraging you to find your Joy, find your Peace, Find your Strength when you think all hope is lost, or you are just looking for some direction.

No matter what- you have everything you need within you. Right here, right now. It may be a simple matter of flicking a switch in your mind, changing a couple of behaviours, or enabling you to fall back in love with life… who knows.. you are unique and every single person is different. And important. And so very special.

You are very, very important, and you are needed in this life. You are needed for today.

“The Joy of the Lord is my Strength” Neh 8:10 Maybe you could let that be your joy too!! It is so much easier that way.

God Bless you and thank you for spending time on my blog xx

xx Vashte xx

 

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