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DownSize You! De-Clutter Life!

by Vashte on May 9, 2014

Hellooooo! Back from a fabulous quick trip to Thailand and raring to go!

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A change in environment is often a catalyst to a change in thinking, and potential change in situation. It can give us the ability to see the wood from the trees. When we are slap, bang! in the thick of things, it takes a unique person to detach from e-motions and from the simple fact we are ‘in’ the melting pot. Few can experience life objectively and rationally from that place.  – We are emotive beings- 

Thailand was bliss! I love the Thai islands I have been to! Her beaches. Her people. Her food. Her weather. I can not fault Thailand. I only see the good there :) I went to celebrate a wedding there on this occasion; reuniting friends from all over the globe in celebration of dear friends committing life to each other. That is something very, very special!

Now I am back, and I too, am experiencing a more clear perspective for my life here in Australia. I have decided to harness this perspective and take action. When we choose not to take action in times like these, we soon fall back into old habits, old behaviours, old thought patterns. Life then returns to exactly as it was before. Same ol’, same ol’.

Change.

Make some changes. They can get a little, or a lot, harder to make as we get older if we choose not to make at least a few changes in life. Don’t be that miserable, old, lonely, cranky-pants who point-blank refused to change. Don’t get stuck in the past! Live today for today, making plans for the future.

  • The words you speak today form your reality tomorrow.
  • The action you take today will reflect in your today, tomorrow.
  • What future are you creating with your today, today??

So one major change I am committing to and sharing with you is the commitment to de-clutter my life. ‘De-cluttering my life’ is a very broad statement and concept so lets break this down into a bite sized chunk easy to chew.  I have previously posted on how to set and achieve goals, click HERE for a refresh. This is a goal. It is going to take effort and work but I am starting out small and so will grow in confidence and enjoyment in this potentially painful experience. -All dependent on how emotionally charged I am to items I choose to de-clutter.

We tend to hoard, gather and consume more and more in this consumer based life. We collect things; be they physical items (stuff); friendships or souls…; memories; behaviour/survival patterns. We refuse to let go of some. Even when they drag us down physically, emotionally, and or spiritually. Even when they make us sick. Or just plain get in the way of our moving forward. So we get stuck. Immobile. When we plateau, and the world keeps moving forward. Effectively we get left behind. And that’s not kosher Jack is it?!

Ruthless. That is how we (I) need to be when de-cluttering life. Ruthless. Unemotional. Get factual and objective. It is the only way to ditch the baggage.

I think the easiest place to start is in de-cluttering my home. Followed closely by de-cluttering my workspace. What in your environment can you afford to de-clutter? Or a better question to ask is: what in your environment can you NOT afford to de-clutter? What is your clutter costing you?!!

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I have read that attachment to people, places and things is the basis of much of our suffering. Think about that and consider the truth in that. Really think about it. I see the truth in that perspective. My suffering and pain has often been in relation to my attachment of things/places or people I did not want to let go of. Are you the same? A healthy balance is important. Being completely detached is equally unhealthy. When we come to terms with seasons in life, de-cluttering becomes a lot easier.  I understand that I have lived many seasons in life so far, and I have many more to come. If I hold on to past seasons, I am in effect, living in the past. I then prevent myself from living in today. Some of my past is found in ‘stuff’ I have kept – on display or in storage (is that baggage?!) Some of my past in found in friendships and equally enemies. Some of my past is located in places and events.

‘Stuff’ is not a major factor in my life, having traveled for most of it and not considering myself grounded or rooted in one place, I probably have fewer ties to hoarding for memory. Apartment living also aids in this department. There is nowhere to hoard!! I do, however,have a tendency to keep books and documents ‘in case I can use them in the future’. Yes, books, magazines, cutouts and the like. I have a plethora of photos as well- they are emotional I suppose, but more a footprint of my life so far. (Is that an excuse?!)

Culling some of these items will be hard, but greatly beneficial, as they weigh heavy- in physical weight as well as the ever questioning ‘ what if I can use them?”- effectively cluttering my mindspace ?!! Here I have to get tough with myself and reason: If I haven’t used them already, then chances are I won’t in the near future. If I do, then I can always find them again. It really is not the end of the world. None of them are the Holy Grail!

By de-cluttering space, we keep what is useful and loved. We learn how to let go in the physical. There is power in letting go. Even when that letting go is represented by the smallest item in the house. Personal possessions. Sometimes personal possessions mean more to us than human interaction. Don’t let your personal possessions define you.

YOU define you. Personal possessions only fool fools, and impress small minds. What are you? Who do you choose to associate with?

If I can make basic decisions on what to keep and what to either give, throw away or sell; then those decisions spill into all aspects of my life. These decisions can be the seed planted allowing me to let go of more of my past so that I an un-clutter my entire home- mind, spirit and body.

  • New business ideas can flow, once old business concepts are closed.
  • New friendships are formed, once old friendships that have grown stale or changed paths are finished.
  • New attitudes can be developed, once old attitudes that not longer serve to benefit are changed.
  • New belief systems can be set up, once old belief systems that are not working are stopped.

Out with the old- in with the new!

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A trip overseas, or just away for a night or two can be that catalyst for clear thinking to re-emerge. Act on it when you see the wood from the trees. This can take courage. You can do it. Start with baby steps. These grow into infant steps, to teen steps and then to adult steps. Before you know it, you are running down the path of your dreams. And it could all have been sparked by you committing to a simple act, such as de-cluttering your space. 

-That book you have been meaning to read for years- read it or de-clutter it. Out it goes.

-That outfit you have never worn, the one with the tags still attached- that one you bought 2 years ago – give it away, or sell it. 

-That ornament reminding you of times past- the good ol’days – throw it away. How can you have good times today when you constantly pine for the ol’ days?

Our past has helped shape us to who we are today. We are very special and unique people. Each one of us. Our past does not define us though. Do not let the past hold you down to the person you were yesterday, or years ago. Do not let people hold you back in their desire to keep yesterday alive. That image may no longer suit or fit the person you are today, or plan to become. Break free of the chains. Ask yourself this: who is the person who stands in front of the mirror today? Who are you creating yourself to be for tomorrow and tomorrow’s tomorrow? Bring your dreams to life.

Enjoy your today and let go of the past. Learn from it, yes. Be thankful that it happened, no matter what it entails; and let it all go. Get on with Living Life OutLoud for today, so that you can make your dreams, your reality. 

Declutter – Start at home!

Here is how to start:

  1. Go to the seconds shop.
  2. Buy a plastic container- usually about $20.00 Aus.
  3. Label it “Declutter Box”
  4. Add one item every day for one month (add more if you like but make sure at least one item goes in every day to make a habit).
  5. At the end of one month donate it to the Salvation Army; throw it out or sell it on ebay/garage sale..whatever you do, get it out of the house!!

This is a step by step process to lighten the burden in life. Too often we are held down by insignificant ‘stuff and things’. This simple, easy, but achievable game-plan begins something much deeper in the Spirit and Soul. It brings empowerment.  You begin to learn how, or remember how to, let go of things that just are not relevant to life now or the future. 

Your lifespace can be a reflection of your mind space. As you de-clutter your home space, work space, living space; imagine how de-cluttered your mind space could potentially become. 

I am excited!! Are you??

If you too think this is a good idea- commit with me and join me on this 30 day de-clutter challenge! Please leave a comment. We can become accountable to each other. Let me know what and where you are choosing to start! My first item is actually two items: 2 photo albums of a wedding back in 2003. I haven’t spoken to the couple since, have tried to contact them to ask if they want the albums but there is no response. It is cluttering  my space so they are going in my de-clutter box as the inaugural first items!!  Big step for me- de-cluttering photos- as I tend to be emotionally tied to these. I figure it has got to get easier if I start with the hard things!

Why not make 2014 the most progressive year to date? 

Join me on this 30 day challenge! Who knows..maybe it will continue past 30 days! Imagine the space  we can create by removing old, unused items. Ready for new, fresh items to take their space.

Add your comment below if you are joining in with me! Do it!!

xx Vashte xx

 

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BULIMIA. A life free from it.

by Vashte on February 28, 2014

As a self confessed ‘foodie’ I love to share my learnings, creations and ideas on this page hoping that I inspire a few others to come to the realisation that food is our friend, and not the enemy.

Fillet of Salmon in lemon and pesto with Fresh Salads

My ENTIRE life I have believed the opposite; that food was my enemy. I thought this was my lot in life and I just had to live with it; that I had a ‘love-hate’ relationship with food and this was the way life was going to stay.

I have been on so many diets, so many pills and every fix known to man (woman) to get my weight/size down. I know what it is like to battle the mind every moment of every day of your entire life wondering where the voices came from, and where the decision for this love/hate thing evolved from.

More importantly:  how to get rid of it.

I started dieting young. I have always had eyes on me as a young girl with a pretty face; intellectual (had to work at that); and very competitive and successful in sports. Yet, I grew fast in my teen years. Yay- for some but not for a self-conscious sports girl.

Food became my escape. I thought I ate well; healthy, and followed the rules. The rules that stipulated grains are ‘healthy’ and ‘good’ for you. So healthy whole grains  will help keep me lean and filled with energy? Wrong. Boy; is that the biggest, FATTEST LIE the food industry has had the audacity to vomit all over us, and is still allowed to do so? It makes me angry to say the least.

How can we move forward as a healthy nation(s) when we are SOLD constant lies like this. People like you and I think we are doing the right thing, when, in fact, the truth is the complete opposite. Celebrities endorse rubbish products; sports people we, and especially young people admire and aspire to be like.  Where is the integrity?  When they wouldn’t eat these foods even if it was the last ‘food’ item on the earth. Hypocrisy I cry!!

Enter, stage left, to my life bulimia. But first I lost a truck load of weight through Weight Watchers. I have never been  significantly overweight at any stage in my life, but have lived at the heavier zone of the ‘healthy weight range’ at times. It all started with training for sports and eating too much wheat/fibre. Little did I know then. (If only I had known then what I know now, it could have saved years of agony.)

You don’t have to be significantly different to passionately hate yourself you know.

I know as I have lived many years masking that truth.

So success reigned in for me at age 15 when I lost so much weight I touched on anorexia..but didn’t quite make it. So, as I ‘failed’ at that as well (note the language used- I thought I was a failure in life). Here is where the love/hate thing with food entered my life and pretty much stayed with me until only very recently. Bulimia. A Love/Hate relationship with food representing a love-hate relationship with self. More hate than love but as passive aggressive people we rarely take it further. Enough that it rules our lives and minds.

I visited the hospital as an outpatient for a short time working through this event around this age.  Perhaps this is when I decided to study the mind and how it worked to complete a degree in psychology, as I found it far too easy to tell the therapists what they wanted to hear, or lie to them and have them believe me.  Interesting that.

Bulimia is not just vomiting food back up. A person with bulimia will use whatever means there is to ‘purge’ food eaten. This can involve vomiting, laxatives, excessive exercise.. any way that person thinks they can get rid of the ‘bad’ or unwanted food eaten. As they get older, they often get wiser and more able to justify certain behaviours to sell them as acceptable and normal.- To themselves as well as those around them.

They can starve themselves for long periods of time going on strict diets, and then BOOM one day eat one thing off the schedule, and it is all over red rover. The bingeing starts.

Noone would ever guess that I have experienced this. It is not something many people speak on and we are usually pretty good at keeping it quiet. Professionals don’t get caught.

I am sharing this with anyone reading my blog as I think it is important you know that I am not perfect. I do my best. I learn. I grow. I need help sometimes. I help others. We all have our strengths and we all have those points that are not so strong. Admitting those not so strong points can help us beat them. When they are kept a secret they can and will eat you alive, eventually killing you. Literally.

One Life, Live it Well

So what needs to change for a person living a life like this? A lot, yes. But one step at a time is the answer, as it is with all things in life.

Steps. There are always steps to progress -big and small. When we understand this we can move forward whilst in control, or gaining control. The key word here is únderstand’.

I understood that the behaviour of bulimia was not sensible or positive but I continued this for most of my adult life regardless; seeking answers through routine, systems and rules. Permitting it to continue by not dealing with it.  This doesn’t work because routines, systems and rules are always broken or changed at some stage so we need flexibility. A person who inherently believes they are at the mercy of anything else, be that a person, thing or situation, is a victim. They are a person living in blame; passing responsibility off to other people, other situations or other things.

Living and allowing bulimia to have any part of my life gave all the power to…food! An inanimate object??! Food- which is meant to be a source of nourishment and enjoyment; to me was a severe source of pain and hatred.

Stepping out of the blame side of life and into the responsibility side of life has been easier than I could ever have imagined.

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There are steps I took in the ‘natural’. Meaning steps made by man; developed by psychologists, great ideas from people who speak on how they themselves freed themselves from the dark depths of despair.. (please note that many people who claim such things are not always walking in truth– scratch at the surface and you will see for yourself so beware the blind leading the blind…)

Many of these steps make good logical sense. I have spent years studying the mind and how it works, and have the qualifications to boot. But somehow there was always an empty void there, despite the great ideas and science behind many theories.

So what was missing?

Spiritual Truth.

Enter Christ. When the concept of Christianity was reintroduced to my world in 2008, I was just like most sceptics out there. I was sure there was God- some universal spirit being overseeing us all. I am inherently sure I have not evolved from any animal. But my question was: what and who is this universal God?

I have spent many days, perhaps years screaming into the night with a silent cry asking “why am I here????”. But I was screaming into darkness and not to anything or anyone specifically. So when the concept of Christianity was brought once more into my life, I was vehement I was not one of those “archaic, dusty Christians”. What I was thinking and visualising was the concept of ‘religion’. Man Made religion. Religion overflowing with rules and regulations (I  make enough of my own without the need for some crusty old human dictating how I’m supposed to be in this life); that Man Made Religion packed with hypocritical paedophiles; that Man Made Religion not designed for 21st living. No. I was definitely NOT one of those and never will be.

I’m still not!

When Christianity was explained and then shown to me for what it really is; that is: true love, true peace, true forgiveness; then that is when I was happy to

  • A. Give my heart to Jesus and ask Him to live in it.
  • B. Be called a Christian- A follower of Christ.

Christianity: where no man or woman tells me how to love God, myself or others because God has written it all down in His own Bible.  I can read it for myself, from my own heart and He can do his loving work in me and change me from the inside out without any other man or woman giving their spin or opinion on it. Thankyou very much!

So He did, He has and He continues to.

Chains have been broken from my life just ‘like that’’. Some took a little working, some took a lot and some still have to be. But when change comes from within, and a little seed is planted – in love- showing us how to change, and giving us the strength to change, and giving us the belief that we CAN change… because no matter what we do, say or are, that God LOVES us no matter what… and we are safe..and we are protected…and when we don’t have the strength we can give it all to Him because we are strong in the Lord and the power of His might….

Then we can make the change.

Until then, we will always be in our heads. This is fact. I lived there most of my life and often go back to living in my head until I am reminded to reconnect to my heart. That is where God lives if you ask Him to. That is where He can make more change in your life than you EVER thought possible.

Bulimia. Just ONE chain I carried around most of my adult life. Gone. That one took a bit of work. It started with beginning to understand HOW MUCH God loves me. How much He has ALWAYS been there for me and protected me- even through the REALLY, REALLY bad times. He protected me. So in seeing these truths, I could finally break the concrete barrier I had laid over, and over, and over, and over that issue to ‘protect’ my heart from more hurt. In this space I could feel and connect safely with the behaviour and understand what drove it. In this space I could let it go. Forever.

You know when something leaves your life forever. Spiritually you will feel it. Because YOU control what you allow in and out of your life.

Bulimia. That issue I held onto as a security blanket for so long. Why? Well without it..what was I? I had infused it into such an everyday event in life even until recently; that without it- if I let it go- there would be an empty space. Be careful with empty spaces. Make sure you fill them with Truth. I filled mine with God’s love, His peace and His total acceptance.

Today I no longer have to exercise for hours on end to burn off the food I ate. The food I ate was often not even in excess but I had developed such a negative association with so many items it was obsessive. I can walk past a shop selling items I used to crave and obsess over, and not have any connection whatsoever. I no longer have that burning desire to self harm- because that is what it is. Really. There are fewer and fewer rules that ‘won’t allow’ me to have this or that- because I just don’t want them anymore, or I can have a taste and be satisfied. This in itself is a miracle.  Such is the mind of a person carrying bulimia. What it boils down to is self-love. Or self-hate.

The words I speak over myself are now empowering, most of the time. The words I speak come directly from the Bible. I have tried affirmations. They are nice. They are like pretty flowers to brighten a room but they die, quickly. They are not from Truth. I speak the words that God speaks about me. They quicken my Spirit and make me alive. The Spirit knows Truth when it sees and hears it.

Through loving myself and accepting myself, because God loves and accepts me- no matter what; I can change. I have changed and will continue to change exponentially.  I use my thorough studies in psychology; neuro linguistic programming; fitness; and nutrition to work on a practical level. But without the words from God’s one true book of the Bible, nothing would instigate permanent and lasting change. I took a year out to study the Bible at Rhema Bible College. Here I developed an understanding and an amazing relationship with The Lord God.  That was in 2011 completing a Dip in Biblical Studies. The best year Spiritually of my life. Perhaps one of the hardest emotionally and physically.

But you see, God always shines through your darkest days, if you give Him permission; and reigns down on the great days!! He is the ultimate gentleman and will not force himself on you; will not push you, nor harass you. He waits at the door of your heart, and knocks gently, yet persistently, for you to answer and ask Him in for tea or coffee. Try it. My life has never been so abundantly blessed, so incredibly freed, so wonderfully positive since I asked Him in.

Even through death I am more blessed than even before.

I am all about control. I love to have it. Do not like being out of it. Just look at what happened when I jumped out of an aeroplane. I am an orderly person, and do live with rules and regulations. They are part of my personality. I like them. They make everything tidy and keep things in order. But I give everything to God now. Bulimia is a thing of the past and that’s why I can write about it.

  • I write to perhaps offer hope to anyone else out there who may experience moments of disorder. Because that is what it is- out of order 😉
  • I write to help, even if it is just one person, because YOU as that ONE person; YOU are important. Especially to The Lord.
  • I write because I do not think I am alone in having lived this nightmare. So whether you are someone or know someone who lives an eating ‘disorder’ for a long time or short time.. you are not alone. And if you start to face it; Speak it out and understand it; you are well on your way to destroying that issue.
  • I write because despite this being something most people won’t speak about, or are ashamed of; I am not. It is just another ‘thing’ that I allowed into my life and I have exited it out. No big deal. Nothing is a big deal. Why give it that power. It is ‘just’ something; like an ‘event’; that I experienced and passed. And perhaps because of it, I can reach out to you, or someone you know, to help guide them along the way. Perhaps this synopsis can be a light; a glimmer of hope or even a huge propulsion in the right direction.

Bulimia. It took me around 20 years to break the chain despite a university education, even further education, and immersion into a plethora of mind-body-soul strategies. Why? Because I was looking in all the wrong places for the key.

The heart. The Spirit. That is where the key is to break any chain you have.

Vashte BawdenYou are welcome to connect with me on facebook (inspiration and motivation); instagram (food pictures only so be aware of that); on this post or email me at info@vashte.com

I offer coaching sessions via skype if you are looking for a mentor or trainer to move you from a stuck place, into a place of growth and empowerment. Ask me about it. 

God bless you and thank you for hanging with me here. I hope this journey has shown you some truth into a little part that has made me who I am today; and given you hope for your very own future. It’s a bitch living life blaming other people, things or circumstances for what happens in your own life. Take ownership back, over EVERYTHING.

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Xx Vashte xx

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SkyDive ByronBay. What WAS I thinking!!!

by Vashte on February 20, 2014

I jumped. I really jumped!!

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From the video you can see the moment I lost all sense and sensibility when I jumped out of a perfectly good place, 14,000 feet above sea level to hurtle at a mere 200 kms an hour towards earth. It really is not pretty. Attached to the back of me is a man. He is cool, calm and collected. I was absolutely not!

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  • Note the complete loss of colour from the neck up, loss of colour to the lips; shielded by a heavy layer of makeup on the face.
  • Note my poor neck. I think I pulled all my neck muscles as I looked this way all the way down.
  • Note the open mouth. In pretty much every photo….lol

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  • Note the bright red chest and collar bones.

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  • Note the wide eyes, tiinnnnyyyy, pupils, the constant licking of the lips..Somehow my lips no longer fits my mouth….?!

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I AM smiling OK?! THAT IS my smile dude. You get a grimace as I’m trying to play along to the ‘fun’ you guys are clearly having!! (Oh shiiiiit..what HAVE I got myself into!!)

I am so scared. This is sooo totally not normal. Crazy eyes.

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My parachutist was very experienced, and put me at ease as much as it is possible to put one at ease when they are clearly doing something so far out of their comfort zone one has to question the reasoning and sanity behind it…?!

It was a perfect day in Ballina. Stunning in fact. Perfect conditions for a first time jumper. For many years I have contemplated jumping out of an aeroplane with a parachute attached. Never have I brought myself to do it.. until now. I don’t know what changed.

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Well, maybe I do.

For the first time in a very long time (perhaps ever), I am beginning to feel safe and secure. Since 2011 I have been running around with my adrenals in overdrive the entire time reassuring myself that I was fine. And I was. In actual fact I have never felt more alive. Nothing like death to throw life ones face.  I guess that’s a way to put a positive spin on it.

So now, I feel enveloped in safety. Security. Surety.

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I am not sure I have ever let myself experience these things to the degree I am today. It is amazing. I recommend it! And yet, in allowing this I can feel my adrenals slowing down even more. And this scares me.

So I went looking for the adrenalin buzz.

I wanted that high those adrenalin junkies all seek..and get apparently. I wanted it for the day. To feel the high of life. Natural but forced excitement to have me bouncing off the walls and into infinity again. Because in my security, I am letting that go. Well that’s how it feels sometimes. So jumping out of a place ought to slap me around a bit, wouldn’t you think?

Slap me around is the word.

One of my favourite sayings is “Keep your feet on the ground and keep reaching for the stars’’. Perhaps I mean it literally! Some people are programmed for air time. It scares the crap out of me. I like to run, short or long distances…I don’t mind. But I’m rarely far from the ground. And have never hurtled like a space cowboy AT it! Until now.  Roller-coaster rides used to thrill me to a point, but underlying it all I was petrified. Now that I am older and wiser… I am OK with admitting this… I’m petrified with this sort of behaviour. I quite like the earth, with me standing on it.  My ears wouldn’t equalise when I tried to scuba dive as well- that was a bummer as that was quite beautiful and surreal down there… but I’m figuring … as some people are vegan; others meat eaters; some like raw foods; others love a good home roast… so it is for adventure seekers!!!

Some are designed to spend time in the air. As much time as possible! Like all those instructors who went up with us. Something has to be said for the thrill seekers- their eyes- wow. Crystal clear and filled with life and excitement.

My eyes, showed utter horror and fear. I have to give myself some credit as I think I did a pretty good job of covering up the terror until we got to the open door of the plane (which I was sitting right next too btw); and then my survival mechanism smacked my consciousness aside, telling it in no uncertain terms that the pathetic little show of ‘’I’m cool, calm and excited is WAY OVER BABY, time to let the truth out.”

FARRRRKKKKKKK

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Seriously. Dangling from another human being, complete stranger, with my life entirely under his control; 14,000 feet above the earth, OUTSIDE the freaking aircraft…. with him telling me to look DOWN (isn’t that what I’m exactly NOT supposed to to); wind smashing me at however fast we are travelling in the lovely little aeroplane above the sea; its COLD dude!! (Breath Vashte just breath)… Why am I not hot from adrenalin!!! Petrified. That’s the best word to describe how I was feeling. Now look up…what?! Seriously wtf???? Look up at what???? Oh the camera. Smile? You have GOT to be kidding me. Note the shortness of breath, the worry lines etched across my forehead– I look like a rolly polly dog. Quite frankly I don’t CARE! (Don’t you worry, I had prayed the night before and all the way up- like I was going to take any chances! All my sins had been forgiven I am sure of it!!) And finally we tumble.

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Into …nothing. Somersault, in thin air. Wooahhhh. Literally. And rocket towards the ground faster than a speeding bullet. Surely? Can’t breathe, Oh My G. This is scary. It’s going forever. So loooong. He hasn’t pulled the shoot. Mann…through some clouds, woooah.Cold. Really cold. Still can’t breathe. Yes I can..no I can’t…. Vashte- pull yourself together woman!!!!  It’s a long way down you know. Stuff being pulled from a plane without a parachute- there is a lot of time to think whilst plummeting that fast towards earth. Too much time. Jowls flapping and my skin flapping around trying to depart from my body… it’s so wrong on so many levels …. There goes the botox. Hahaha In actual fact,  I’d recommend not jumping with Botox- you’d just waste the stuff- the speed at which your metabolism goes to- pfst gone in a flash with a jump. Now that’s funny.

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Boom. FINALLY the chute is pulled and I can breathe. Farrrrkkkkkkk. With the chute pulled we could drift gracefully down, but noooooo. Selwyn gives me the controls and gets me to pull hard to the right and then to the left. Yeah. Not funny. Seriously…. I think when they tried to make up the video and pictures they may have been hard pressed to find shots of me screaming for fun. Petrified till we landed. And that’s a fact.

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I jumped for joy on landing  because it was OVER at last. I didn’t want to tell him that. He obviously loves this stuff. Me. I crashed and burned 30 minutes after landing. Almost vomited on a number of occasions as we drove to Byron., and for some reason gravity in Byron was so much heavier that afternoon.. I was dragging myself up the street!!! Surreal.  The intention was to catch up with one of my BFFs there but after eating, which helped momentarily, I was back to close to comatose state, and had to drive straight home to lie in darkness till the next day.

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Would I recommend it? Absolutely. I jumped with Byron Bay- Sky Dive The Beach and Beyond; click here for their website –  and Selwyn was my instructor. The company is brilliant, professional, very friendly. Awesome team.

vashte.com Skydive ByronThe guy deserved a hug. Technically speaking, he just saved my life.  I’m ALIVE!!!!!

It was way out of my comfort zone. Yes, I am glad I did it. I can cross it off my bucket list finally, but inherently I knew it was not a natural thing for me to seek out. I was looking for the high…and used it all up on the way down being so terrified. Once landed my body just shut down. That sucked! I was surprised and disappointed the high didn’t last but having looked back on the video ( I couldn’t bring myself to watch it till the next day); I can see that if I had continued that buzz I would have been greedy, and the crash following would have been even more scary.

I’m not normal. On so many counts.

I have spoken to many others who didn’t feel this way- they loved it. I was petrified. Horses for courses huh, but I say, if you have contemplated a jump, then go do it. You only live once and stuff missing out on fun things in life.

Fun things are scary- especially when they take you out of the boundary conditions of the box you live in. I was well out of my boundary conditions. Perhaps this will help me open more doors to more adventures that are out of my ‘normal’ adventure box!

Do it!

It’s a blast!

Not once did I see my life flash before my eyes. So I knew I was not in any danger. That, I think, was the real head spin; My logic rationalising it out, and my unconscious self having a right royal hissy fit.

Stunning view on the way down. Personally, I prefer it from the window seat comfort of a plane or helicopter where I can breathe without fighting 200km wind rammed down my throat, or ice particles swallowed at that speed but …what a hoot.

Go jump. Try it on for size.

Watch the video HERE. It is 6 minutes of total adrenalin and…. new experience 😉

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Vibrant Life

by Vashte on February 12, 2014

Here I am. In your face :) With a smile. Why frown?!

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In my posts on facebook, instagram and here on this site I like to keep an upbeat outlook on life. Why? Because so much we see and hear out there IS doom and gloom when it just doesn’t have to BE that way!

  • Have I lived a life without trouble? No.
  • Is there trouble in my life now? Sometimes.
  • Do I choose to dwell and marinate on the negative circumstance, or do I choose to figure out a way around those times- or through them. You guessed it- the second option. I choose to move through as often and as fast as I can.
  • Why don’t you try that too, if you haven’t already done so?

I have found that when I dwell on worry’s, or the hard situations ‘thrown” at me (could it be a possibility that I may have created that event myself….); or the unfairness in life (?!!)… well, that is what I dwell on and talk about. By dwelling on and talking more and more about these things, I’m sitting in my own little pigsty rolling in the mud. And then I wonder why life looks like, smells like and tastes like… crap!

All  problems are problems of our imagination; just as all solutions are solutions of the imagination. Think about that!

If the thoughts I constantly think are misery, lack-of, defeatist thoughts; then what are my actions likely to be? The same!!! Because as a man thinkith- so is he- A little quote from the Christian Bible. In the same breathe, if my thoughts are uplifting, happy and joy filled, what are my actions then likely to be as a direct result? The sameuplifting, happy and joy-filled. And when a person has those thoughts and those actions flowing- what is possible for that person?? ANYTHING THEY DESIRE.

  1. Strength comes from faith.
  2. Faith is believing in something unseen yet, and perhaps not experienced in the body yet.
  3. Faith is believing.
  4. Believing is power.
  5. With power you can overcome the worst nightmare you can dream up, in your reality.
  6. You CAN.

Every single day people are rising up out of the darkness and into the light. In the light there are no secrets, there is no doubt, there is no fear. But we must make the FIRST MOVE. The first move is to just imagine what it might be like to have faith. Imagine what it might be like to believe that all things are possible. All things ARE possible to the one who believes in Christ Jesus. That, my friends, is a promise of God. And God keeps ALL of His promises. Unlike humans. Once we start to IMAGINE that these things are possible…they become so; as Truth states: as a man thinkth so it he! Because once we start imagining good things, what are we doing? We are thinking these things. If we are thinking these things, then what is a likely follow on effect …? We start DOING good thingsjust because. Not with the intention of getting something in return. Just because. And here-in lies the secret to a fun filled, ease filled life, with the ability to overcome when trouble rises. And trouble does come. This is life. Get with the programme.

Attitude will determine Outcome. Every. Single. Time.

I thought I would write this little post as I believe some people think that I am constantly ”up” and constantly positive. This is simply not true. You see, I, like you, are human too. I have good days and days where I would like to give myself a frontal lobotomy for the things I say and the things I do. On those days, I usually pull away from the maddening crowd and make some attempt at coming to terms with where the brain farts are coming from. I have a couple of people whom I may choose to confide in. It is never via an open forum social media platform :) That to me is unnecessary. The world does not need to hear my dirty laundry, unless I make it the world’s business. lol but what point is there in that, and quite frankly the world doesn’t care; it has enough of it’s own crap to try deal with let alone little ol me.

The higher the platform you put someone on is setting that person up for a higher fall as we are all human. We all make mistakes. Understand every person has their strengths and their weaknesses, be aware of them and love them anyway. I still have to allow others that right too as it is easy for us as humans to fall into ‘self’- righteousness– condemning others for behaviour we believe incorrect. Until we do it.

Join me in 2014 in allowing more forgiveness, more love, more acceptance, more tolerance into my life. Yours too perhaps. And understand that I too am human, don’t put me on a pedestal as I just might fall and I don’t like that; I fall hard. Same goes for anyone else in your life.

Here’s to an EMPOWERED 2014 with more understanding, more love and more truth than ever before.

xx Vashte xx

 

 

 

 

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Your Reality- What does it look like?

by Vashte on September 27, 2013

Thoughts – Questions – Ideas

Dreams- Goals- Your Reality

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  • Are you aware of your thoughts as you progress through your day to day life?
  • What words do you speak over yourself each day? Are they positive and encouraging, or are they actually negative and dis-empowering?
  • What do you REALLY believe for yourself? -For your today, and for your future?

I am a firm believe that we create our own reality. I know I do. If I do not, then who is creating my reality for me? Media? Friends? Family? Work? The wind? If I take control of my mind by becoming aware of my day to day thoughts, I can then see how I am processing information coming at me, every day in every way. You can do the same too.

Through becoming aware of our thoughts and observing them as they pop up, we can then understand what filters of ‘reality’ we have chosen to live through. And change them if we like.

  • Empower yourself.

  • Empower your world.

I know ‘things’ have happened to each and every one of us that are unfortunate. Very unfortunate. And many downright stink. We have two choices; to live in the past and marinate in what was, has been or could have been; or we can move on.

What do you choose?

I believe the way to live an empowered, successful, easier life is to observe. Observe everything, and choose what you allow in and then choose how those things make an impact on your life. You choose.

You are not governed by emotions. You govern those emotions. That takes practice, and awareness- just as you practice to learn to play a piano or play a sport. Develop the habit of strength. Strength of mind resulting in strength in character.

If we insist on turning back and living in the past, what happens? You turn to salt. You will be preserved back there, in the past,  stuck in an existence that is no longer relevant or meaningful to a world progressing ever forward. You are left behind. What use are we to anyone, including ourselves, by choosing that life? You are born for such a time as this. TODAY. To LIVE in the today, and build into your future. Not remain in the past. So come with me, let go of those memories, learning from them and letting them go.  This is not ignoring the past. This is strength of character.  Acknowledge the past as that which happened, back then. That ‘then’ is not now. Become aware and alert so that you do not have to repeat that learning again.

Use your wisdom.

You do not have to be the sharpest tool in the box to do well in life. No, no, far from it in fact! Look around and truly see who you respect the most in life. Research these people. You may be surprised as to their past, and their upbringing- it takes all sorts. YOU are an allsort too! You do not have to have the highest grades, nor an intellect that surpasses your peers. You do not have to have the most active social media know-how;  be clever,  be smart,  be fancy…. You do not have to be the skinniest, the prettiest, the biggest, the smartest anything in life to rise sky high.

You DO have to grow your wisdom- and you all have that. It resides in each person’s heart. Listen. Take a moment to stop, and BE. When you stop, exit out of the rat race and take a moment to feel the pulse of life.. that is when your wisdom can grow. Learn from life. Become aware of events in and around you. Question everything. But live through love and you will develop an innate ability to discern truth when you hear it and see it. Words, words, words – So many words, so little action following through. Come out of the sleepwalking slumber so many have permitted to fall over their lives. Come out of the matrix.

So many things do not add up in life- why. Ask the question for yourself, and start to look for your own answers. Too many of us have permitted a life of intravenous drip consumerism… must have, want to have, need it.. we have turned our brains off and along with that- our hearts. It is time to wake up world. It is time to reclaim what is yours- your life.

Vashte Bawden

I believe we are created in the image and likeness of God. Why? Because it is written by the handbook of life- The Bible. What Jesus says goes- more-so now than ever before. Oh I realise many people trip out at the name of Jesus, and immediately barriers are raised, ears are closed. I was one of these people as well, until 2008. The thing is- what is written makes so much sense! It resonates with your heart, and plucks at your soul– when you hear the Word of God spoken through Love – something goes off on the inside of you- that is Truth. So many of us do not understand what that feeling, or emotion is.. because we have never heard it, or felt it before. If we get past the wall of anger- and for many there are valid points to that anger – (humans are humans so often twist anything to be used to their own advantage), but when we allow the love of God to flow through and to you- life changes like nothing else.

But back on point- if we are made in the image and likeness of God, as I believe; and if we treat our bodies as the temple they are designed to be, then we permit our minds to function at a optimum levels through correct treatment of the body in which the mind is housed. Right?!

If we unplug ourselves from the factory farm in which so many live, and take back our lives and learn to think for ourselves, then it stands to reason we will live a more productive, fun filled, free life, right?!

  • Do not allow your thoughts to run wild. I used to.
  • Do not allow your emotions to rule your world.
  • Do not allow others to speak negative over you, invalidate their opinions.
  • Do not allow yourself to speak negative over your own life, and stop criticising others!
  • Stop doing things to yourself that you know harm you!

Choose your thoughts wisely- choose your words wisely – choose your food and drink wisely- choose your actions wisely….

You control everything about your life. Take back those reigns. You were born to reign. It is high time men stood up to be men and women stood up to be women!

I am over seeing big bullies push individuals around. It has never been more prevalent than today; patients being bullied by doctors because doctors are being bullied by sales reps of BIG corporations-as well as bribed; Govts being bullied by Big Pharma; boutique shops and restaurants being destroyed by fast food chains with money to market and lie; lies, lies and more lies on your TV which you watch every single day – for how long????

Unplug!! Unplug!!!

Live the life you were designed to live. And if you don’t know what that is, there is little wonder as you have likely been plugged in most of your life!! The wonderful, exciting thing is though, that you are stronger than you know and a very fast learner! Once you start listening to your heart, and doing the things that make you tick- you will soon get a desire stronger than you have ever felt before.. and it is at that point my friends that you have begun to find your passion.

We live in an age where we can reinvent ourselves at any age. So – go for it! Stop and change direction completely if necessary! Just get off that conveyer belt system churning out pork sausages filled with crap!

YOU are better than that!

YOU can do it!

I Believe in YOU!!

It is time for YOU to believe in YOU too :)

xx Vashte xx

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Put the Effort In

by Vashte on September 20, 2013

Inspired by a post from my new friend Hannah Seemann, I am compelled to add my two cents worth. Please read THIS article which I found highly accurate and certainly not confronting enough for the reality in which we live. A brilliant piece nonetheless, and written kindly as it would seem our generation is far too fragile to handle anything less.

I can speak with a certain frankness as I fall into this generation so, in essence, I am writing about myself just as much as anyone else so no hard feelings; although I am of the opinion we are past bubble wrapping our words and behaviours. It clearly has not worked.

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We, (and I include myself in that ‘we’) – We today, those of us brought up in the land of plenty, God’s Zone, Australia, New Zealand or any Western developed country, seem to have made a unanimous decision that we ‘deserve it all’. mwa hahaha. Whilst this could possibly be true for those people who work for their goals, dreams and desires; this decision also appears to have been made by those of us who just want it, without having to lift one little finger. Enter the world of the Spoilt Brat.

Spoilt Brats: Generation Y and most certainly Generation X.

I am included in these generations I remind you.

We have been given everything we asked for, or wanted. Whether we deserved it, earned it or whinged for it, we generally have managed to find a way to get what we wanted, and have the belief we ‘deserved’.  Our parents wanted to make our lives that much easier than theirs so they worked hard, as shown by their parents, and then gave us everything they missed out on. Enter – the issue.

Through being given everything we wanted, or as much as our parents could give at least, we have grown up with an overinflated ego of ourselves, as clearly pointed out through Hannah’s linked article.

What has risen is a generation of ‘takers’, who have no conception of giving. Nor do we have much of a concept of working  hard and pushing through times that are seemingly hard. And I must reiterate seemingly hard– we have grown up with pretty much everything at our fingertips, or within arms reach, and if it is not, well the Government or some charitable body surely must have some kind of grant or benefit to aid and assist us. Surely?!

Unfortunately for us, this has not helped us one iota. A generation of spoilt brats has emerged, and we are breeding another generation of even more grossly spoilt brats- unless we stop it! Learning how to overcome obstacles is an important growth factor in life. We have no serious obstacles to overcome, aside from the ones we generate ourselves and usually due to our own ill equipped planning.

Look at us! We grow fatter and fatter, sicker and sicker, and some poorer and poorer.. all whilst we sit back on our couches, watching pay TV, eating fast food (as we believe that is all we can afford, or can be bothered preparing); we move less and less, discover more and more illnesses and reasons not to work, and still want and demand the best of everything. We stink of laziness and sloth.

DIETING

Our children are only products of the environment they grow up in. We are not setting the best example nor a model that is doing anything to benefit them for their future. Our children are predicted to die before us due to this model we have set in motion.

This is scary.

We complain as foreigners take ‘our jobs’ and yet, how many of us are actually willing to get up off those couches, leaving that paid TV, takeout pizza and cigarettes to actually go to work? Why should they when they are collecting a hefty sum from our Govt to continue acting in such a manner? A sum, often more lucrative than the weekly pay check at the end of the week.

Some people actually need this and are legitimate. Some, not many, and certainly not as many as are currently collecting this ‘magic money’. This magic money will dry and is drying up, as surely we are all aware this magic money is not magic at all, but results from taxes paid from those employed. If less people are employed.. it stands to reason there is less money to distribute to the couches, let alone to the running of the country.

Come on team- and we are a team! I am in this group too and it is up to all of us to turn this around or we are looking down the nozzle of a very real firearm. We are doing it to ourselves and our children.

Isn’t it time we looked back at how our parents and their parents lived? We do not ‘deserve’ anything at all. Noone does. When we put in the hard yards and work for a living; when we set goals and take the action needed; when we understand those credit cards are NOT your best friend.. perhaps we can lead our children and their children into a better quality of life. Instead of setting them up for failure from day dot.

Isn’t it time we went back to the drawing board and learnt to restrain ourselves from our whimsical notions that we are ‘born to shop’; that ‘shopping defines us;  that the car we drive reflects who we are?.. We do not need the latest ridiculous gadget, outfit, nor be ‘seen’ in the ‘right’ circles. Why are we refusing to grow up?  We do not deserve holidays when we do not work for them. If we work, then we can afford to take a holiday every now and then– without out racking up debt to take it.

How about showing our children how to save, by going without. How about eating the leftovers from last nights dinner as lunch. How about NOT buying takeaway 3 times a week, or NOT switching on the TV, and NOT using that credit card so easily. How about learning to budget, and showing our children how!

It is up to us to do this! If we love our children as much as we say we do, we would set them up for a realistic life by showing them they DO NOT deserve everything they ‘want’ but if, and only if, they work hard with consistency, then perhaps they too will be shown how to live a life worth living.

We are teaching them, and many of us believe ourselves, that ‘love’ as a foreign construct- reachable through materialism, and external. This is a lie. Such a big, fat common lie in our world today and that is why so many of us are so lonely and miserable. Teach them, and reteach ourselves that love, (which is what we all yearn for when it all boils down to it), is found within. All  the money in the world cannot buy love for yourself, or other people. Not to be truly satisfied.

Let’s go back to our grandparents ways of living. Return to simplicity and learn to smell the roses; grow and cook our own food; and make our own fun, instead of this vain attempt at buying it all- via the remote control, and sticking it on the credit card then declaring bankruptcy. Seriously!?

Life is so much more than taking! Life can be abundantly blessed and filled with love and everything your heart desires if we go back to the basic understanding that we DO live in an abundant country; that we have NO real hardships and so.. we CAN work hard to earn the desires of our hearts…if we really do want them. It is through consistent work, not luck.

I am a Spoilt Brat Gen Y individual too. I have been given more than I deserved and worked for. I have not worked as hard as my mother or any of her brothers and sisters.  I am very aware of this. I do not assume I deserve anything in life aside from that which I work for, and even then I don’t ‘deserve’ anything. Come on team, lets find our Spirit, lets find our Spunk and get off our butts and make something of our lives. Especially for those of you who have children- they are looking to us for guidance. It is up to us to show them how.

Stop looking for the quick fix in life. There are none that count for anything. Quick fix diets, 4 hour working weeks, magic money, perfect lives without any thorns- a bubble that just doesn’t exist so lets stop buying into it as it only blows up around our faces.

Enjoy working and earning your keep. Enjoy making an effort. Enjoy obstacles and times of challenge – they result in improvement. These are the things in life that strengthen our spines and make us determined and focused. These are the things that create great stories and a wonderful sense of achievement.

We were born to succeed. Work for it.

stop wishing

Living life is not through being handed everything on a platter. Life gets very boring, very quickly that way, and we find ourselves in trouble often when we are spoilt. Life is meant to be interesting; life is meant to be peppered with situations. How else can you grow aside from facing and overcoming situations?

  • Set more goals.
  • Refocus your aim.
  • Reach higher and work harder.
  • Show yourself how strong and capable you actually are. Show your children and their children that you are NOT the spoilt brat of our generation, but one of the hopefully growing few that revolt against this pathetic way of life, and that you achieve more than you think you can.
  • BE the inspiration this world is looking for.
  • Quit looking for the quick fix.
  • You are stronger than you know- just get up and go do it!!

It is fun jumping off that diving board into the unknown! Seriously- ask yourself- what is the worst that count happen? And then ask yourself: what is the BEST that could happen??!!!! And then make it happen!!!

xx Vashte xx

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Bridge To Brisbane Fun Run. 10km.

by Vashte on September 10, 2013

Bridge To Brisbane

It was another seemingly unsuspecting Sunday morning with a difference! Two things marked this Sunday a little different from the outset than other Sundays. The first was Fathers Day Down Under– so one might expect many Dads to be enjoying breakfast in bed made by their doting kiddy winks, and yet a crowd of over 41,000 people gathered at the foot of Brisbane’s Gateway Bridge- many of whom likely fathers! I suspect some fathers had chosen to get up well before their little ones could surprise them with such an idea this year- but why?!

On the 1st Sept 2013, 41,000 people give or take, joined together with a common goal: to run, walk, push prams, wheel themselves, or somehow transport  themselves on foot 10km over the Gateway Bridge and beyond.. for fun! I was one of those 41,000 people!!

I know that many people shudder at the thought of getting up while it is still pitch black to voluntarily throw on lycra of any description for whatever reason. Add to that  the absolutely preposterous concept of actually opting to run such a distance at their own free run. All before breakfast! But then again, it would seem many people think it something different and fun to do.. 41,000 of us!

Until you join in and try it, you cannot bag it. The buzz in energy 41,000 people creates is something else. Whilst the thought of running such a distance may make your heart flutter slightly, and send your mind into a spin telling the story you keep playing to yourself that ”you could never do that”.. giving it a go just once would enable you to know once and for all if you would make it! Most people don’t race. In fact, it is pretty hard to race unless you put yourself in the elite category, and get off first. These guys and girls are usually racing for money, time and/or somewhat professional. Thes guys and girls are the minority.

The rest of us choose a category we think we fit. If it is your first attempt at a run/walk like this.. go easy on yourself and put yourself in the group that sets off last! They give you oodles of time to finish so even if you walk the entire thing, you do it!

Everyone is very supportive! Many people dress up for the fun of it or as a team. We are all there with the knoweldge that the great majority of Australians are still sleeping in bed, warm and rugged up. We may indeed be slightly crazy but we know that after this is done.. we can all enjoy a shower, and head off for a well deserved breakfast with a metabolism burning like a fire in the knowledge we did what most people can’t be bothered even trying!

Bridge To Brisbane

Watching the sun rise on the first offiicial day of Spring whislt running along roads that are very rarely closed is something special. Promo girls are dotted along the track holding banners and calling out encouragement, as are specatators holding personal placards for their friends and family members, and then there are the dj’s!! Yes dj’s- I remember at least two officially set up, pumping out tunes to keep us going! All fun and all very cool.

The bridge itself  is a gradients of 5%. It is at the start so many people choose to walk it. I found it easier than I expected, likely as the adrenalin kicked in passing the start line :) The killer for me was the sneaky little bridge at the 8km mark.. it was a little one but I was not expecting it. Youch! Having very little running training behind me, and what running I have been doing this year is all very flat, any increment is a move up for this long distance, flat line runner! At that little bridge I almost stopped, but the mind is a great thing when also exercised well. I decided to dig in just when I wanted to stop the most and push through. No stopping allowed I had a Personal Best time to make!

I would have been so disappointed with myself had I stopped. Having run two ½ marathons this year already, this 10km should be in the bag – 1km 5% incline on the bridge aside 😉

With the crowd pumping, I nailed this run in 53 minutes and 7 secs; a personal best for me including hills! I was aiming for 50 mins, so that will be for the next 10km I run then.

Bridge To Brisbane

Challenge yourself. Do stuff that scares you. Book yourself in for events and get amongst it. Give life a go! Some people say that running is not good for the joints, and yet, neither is sitting on the couch stuffing your face with chocolate watching movies on a regular basis!! If something has to give, I would prefer that it gives through me being active as opposed to being a sloth whist giving out unsolicited advise to people who like to get amongst it!

So come on and join me! You don’t have to be the world’s fastest runner. You don’t have to be incredibly fit. You don’t have to have spent the last 3 months running 5 days a week to have some fun in an organised run. You CAN walk part, if not all of it! Come on down to get involved in the atmosphere, feel the sense of achievement in crossing the finish line walking or running. Come and see the plethora of people all ages, all abilities, all shapes, all sizes..all just giving life a go!

Come out from behind those four walls you call home and breathe the fresh air, watch the sun rise, and enjoy the excitement as people, just like you, line up and wonder if they can cross the finish line as well!

While you have all your facilites about you, why don’t you do something crazy like this consciously?? Heaven knows what you will do later in life! There is nothing more heart wrenching than coming to the end of your life and wishing you had given it more of a go.

We only regret the things we wanted to do, but didn’t. Not the things we ‘failed’. If you try, and I mean really try, and find things don’t work out the way you imagined- at least you found that out for yourself.

Quit giving advise on stuff you havent tried!! We all do it!! Just get out there and try it for yourself! It really is surprising what we can do. Our minds tell us we can’t. But.. there is no such thing as can’t… unless you believe it.

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Think you can or think you cant- either way- you will be right.

So think you can and start Living a Life OutLoud!!!

Are we there yet??

Are we there yet…????

xx Vashte xx

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Push Through

by Vashte on August 21, 2013

Push Through

Push Through Inertia

Push Through Pain

Push Through Hard Times

Push Through Broken Times

Push Through Criticism

Push Through “Cant”

Push Through Doubt

Push Through Excuses

Push Through Self Hatred

Push Through Giving Up

Push Through Ridicule

Push Through Comparison

Push Through Odds staked against you

Push Through it all.

When you are going through hell just keep walking. Why do people stop when they think they are in hell? Why do people give up when the odds are staked against them? Why do we listen to those that have no confidence in themselves? Why do we let other people bring us down? What other people think of you is none of your business. Let them talk! Because they will. Small people talk about people, leaders talk about ideas, design and inspiration. What are you and what are you listening to? What are you talking about over coffee, dinner and  friendly chit chat?

If we let other people’s opinion  of us define us, then we are shooting ourselves in the foot. Consider this: most people out there have little to no self-confidence. Those with the least self-confidence are not the ones you may expect. These people are usually the biggest and baddest bullies. The people are the ones with the loud mouths and attitude to boot. Such people usually have nothing inside to hold them up so they think they need to try to bring others down. Such people love to criticise, laugh at, and pull you down publically. This is the only way they know to try to elevate their status over you.

Once you understand that the loudest people have the least self-confidence and self-assurance, it stands to reason that every day people also have self-doubt.  Understand this: if you have self-doubt, you can be fairly confident that most other people out there have exactly the same issues, questions, nagging doubts going on inside their heads. It is not only you. Push through those thoughts. Do not give them validation nor the time of day. You are completely normal for having those thoughts! It is Ok. You are OK. Push through it! Do not spend time on them nor focus on them. Instead,  focus on taking the necessary action in making your dreams goals and therefore reality.

Why do we all constantly compare and make remarks about attributes in people we don’t even know? We make instant judgements based on premise. All fallacy. With nothing substantial to back up statements and judgements.  Stop spreading rumours.

Just Stop.

If you don’t, then how can you expect to be exempt from the critical eye? Criticism is a habit many people have developed in the comfort of their own home in front of TV. We sit there, on our couches giving our harshest criticism on people who have stuck their neck out. We openly condemn those that worked against all odds to actually get on TV and give it their best. Why do we do this? To bring them down. Secretly we all wish we had the confidence to try ourselves.. but then we worry what other people would think. Other people (critics) just like… .. ourselves …as we sit there destroying these people, laughing  at these people, and are appalled that they should ever think to audition or have an opinion!!

“Who do they think they are??!!””

  • These people are The Ones. The ones who pushed through. Pushed through all YOUR criticism, sneering, laughing, cajoling.
  • These are the people who WILL make it, one day, if not this day while you stay repeating the same ol, same ol. Getting older, getting fatter, getting lazier. Fading into nothingness.
  • These are the people who pushed through the tough times, the bullying, the self doubt.
  • These are the people who made a decision. A decision in which they decided to CUT OFF from all else. A decision which meant they focused on their goals to the exclusion of all else. So that they would give it their best shot.

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YOU can be this person too.

Just get up off the couch. Quit criticising other people no matter how preposterous you think their dream is. WHO are You to judge another person’s dreams? Haven’t you seen the complete transformations made in some people’s lives when they hold on to a dream, take the necessary action and just keep getting up every single time they get knocked down?

If you doubt them, if you think it is impossible; then you think it is impossible for your own life. Think about that for a second or three. The only reason you say it is not possible for someone else is because you are speaking your own self-doubts over someone else. If that person has made a decision to go for it- nothing YOU say can stop them. Why would your words affect them one iota? They don’t care what you think. You have no right to speak negative over their lives.

Just as no one has the right to speak negative over yours. Unless you let them. Unless you speak negative over others.

So stop doing that.

Start new today. Right now. Start with endorsing other people’s dreams. Start encouraging other people and you will be encouraged yourself. Self-confidence does not necessarily come from focusing on yourself. Perhaps you have been doing that for too long! Start taking the focus off yourself and turn your attention onto other people. BE an encourager. Open your eyes to the possibility of hope manifested. Give hope. Give life. Speak words of encouragement and life over others, and without you even trying, you will become empowered yourself.

The more you encourage; The more you believe; The more you endorse as opposed to tear down- The less you will need to push through as you will find hard times become less and less frequent. When they do occur, you will have strengthened your resolve;  your self-confidence; your belief in the possibility of hope, that you breeze through events you previously may have thought impossible to deal with.

That is the power of love. That is the power of walking in love. That is the power of being in love. Being in peace. Living in hope and faith. Take your eyes off yourself and your situation right now. Focus on the goal. Do the work needed and push through being positive in your steps; being positive in your words.

If you have nothing good to say, then choose to say nothing. Pulling other people down only pulls you down further. If you want to push through, if you want to fly like the eagle, then start acting like one.

Push through it all. Push through them all so you can soar higher every day.

xx Vashte xx

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CREATE your Joy!!

by Vashte on August 7, 2013

In a world where dreams are stolen, shattered and destroyed every day, it is a welcome respite when you find your light, however faint, still flickering away. Although muted by the events of the world, your candle never goes out. It was designed to withstand the greatest of tragedies, and in some cases shine brighter through those times.

HOPE. Vashte www.vashte.com

Realise this: the tiniest candle outshines the darkest dark- every time.

There is hope. There is strength. There are possibilities.

  • You can.
  • You will.
  • You are able and capable.

When you find yourself facing those dark times, don’t give up. Don’t turn and run. Don’t cower and hide. STAND tall. FACE your fear, and you will find it turns into a sniveling little willow the wisp and runs away FROM YOU. Fear is most often a fear of the unknown. Why we are afraid of the unknown is intriguing as the unknown is where we grow the most. The unknown is where the possibilities lie! The unknown is where you go when you want change to happen in your life! How can we expect anything different when we continue to repeat the same behaviour, the same thoughts, associate with the same type of people?

Same shit, different day? Well that can be someone else’s mantra. It is certainly not mine or any of my clients!

The world will want you to believe that mantra. ”The world” is not here to support you in your dreams, your goals or your aspirations… until you make it support your dreams, goals and aspirations!

When they say ”it is all in your mind”.. you better believe it! Because it is!

Think about this if you would:

  • 2 children born into the same family, treated exactly the same but-
  • One child believes for some ‘strange’ they will one day win gold at the Olympics, despite the obstacles, despite parents putting them down, despite school mates poking fun at them.
  • The second child who listens to the put downs, and believes them; Owning those condemning thoughts and useless affirmations =  Believes they will never amount to anything.
  • What do you think happens in adult life?
  • The first child grows into a strong adult, capable of anything, overcoming ALL obstacles seemingly effortlessly.
  • The second child grows into a shadow of an adult, timid and afraid. Shy and quiet. Introverted and introspective. Life is difficult at the best of times.
  • Two individual people, dealing with life in very different ways.

It is all in the mind. Build the strength of your mind.

I believe without a doubt we are ALL made in the image and likeness of God; that we are righteous through Christ. My Bible tells me these Truths. These are integral aspects of learning that ‘man’ does not have the final say over who you are, what you are, nor what you amount to – today, tomorrow OR as you were as a child, nor what you did yesterday. Live within the law of man, yes, but don’t let other people’s opinions as to what you are capable of dictate your life to you!! If you can dream a dream, it is yours to achieve it. Why do you think you dream your dreams, specific to you? Your dreams are different to my dreams! Your dreams are created by you and for you to achieve. If you can imagine it, you can dream it, if you can dream it you can set it in your future time line and make it a goal to hit! Make it fun! Step outside that box! You are stronger than you think you are! Oh yes you are!! BELIEVE it. KNOW it. OWN it.

Find your Joy in this life. It is never too late to start. Awaken to see the Truth in every given situation. Understand you are very special. You are needed in this life. You are here for such a time as this and you fit in perfectly, if only you learn to love yourself the way God loves you. If He sees you as perfect, righteous and beautiful- as He does– why do you not see yourself as this also? SEE the Truth. HONOUR yourself. GROW into the YOU that you are designed to be.

Don’t worry about the past. Make peace with it. Forgive every day, and ask for forgiveness for your mistakes. Allow yourself to change. Allow yourself to explore. Find out what inspires you, what motivates you, what EXCITES you? It does not matter what other people think of these things- they are yours! What other people think of you is not your business so long as you walk in love!  BE the type of person you want to meet! Don’t LOOK for what you want in your world! CREATE it!

You CANNOT change other people. You CANNOT change your husband or wife. You CANNOT change your parents, your children, your friends. You CANNOT change another person. So please stop trying! It is a waste of time and completely redundant! So what CAN you change? YOU can change YOU. TODAY. Right NOW. You can start to look at how YOU can change YOURSELF to BECOME the awesomeness of you! BE kindness. BE joy-filled. BE peace. BE love. BE patience. BE faith. BE all the things you value in life. THEN you will open your life to other people of the same calibre. THEN you will create the change you would like in your life.

BELIEVE, HOPE, TRUST.

There IS goodness out there. There IS life! There is faith! There IS fun! There IS an incredible lightness of being and its all out there!! Ór rather..it is all WITHIN you … all it takes is a little exploring, a little understanding, a little open-mindedness, and a touch of love and patience. You have all this and more inside of you! Even if you don’t see it, feel it or think it possible – I DO.

I BELIEVE in YOU. If that is what it takes to help you step up, and out of that box that you currently live within, let ME believe IN you and offer my hand in HOPE and BELIEF until YOU can BELIEVE it all for yourself. You have a MIGHTY God looking down on you, wanting so much to love on you, support you, care for you.. one step at a time. That is my mantra for life. One step. That is all it takes.

One step towards your Joy. Towards your Peace. Towards your Strength. When you take one step, you can take another, and then another, and before too long you have taken yourself, by taking ownership of your own life, into a whole new rhelm- a rhelm of life that is very real, and very tangible for those of us who live in it.

JOY Filled Life with Vashte www.vashte.com

If you would like to talk more with me on my coaching programmes, please feel free to make contact. My email is: info@vashte.com.  I offer my hand in help and assistance. Perhaps I can be that person to walk with you for a short time, or for a long time, side by side through life for a while. Empowering you through mindful strategies, giving you tools in life to aid and assist you in making strategic, healthy decisions; encouraging you to find your Joy, find your Peace, Find your Strength when you think all hope is lost, or you are just looking for some direction.

No matter what- you have everything you need within you. Right here, right now. It may be a simple matter of flicking a switch in your mind, changing a couple of behaviours, or enabling you to fall back in love with life… who knows.. you are unique and every single person is different. And important. And so very special.

You are very, very important, and you are needed in this life. You are needed for today.

“The Joy of the Lord is my Strength” Neh 8:10 Maybe you could let that be your joy too!! It is so much easier that way.

God Bless you and thank you for spending time on my blog xx

xx Vashte xx

 

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I ALWAYS get what I want. Do YOU?

by Vashte on July 24, 2013

Vashte and Cilla

I live a very enjoyable life.

And I appreciate it.

If you were to meet me today you may think I have always lead this style of life.

And I would tell you that -this is so.

Does that mean I have been spoilt? Have I always got what I wanted? Two interesting questions and two very different questions which, to me, do not belong together but often are found together. We tend to think that a ‘spoilt’ person gets everything they want in life. Why is this? If a person is ‘given’ everything they want in life without learning to appreciate those things, nor how or what it means to work for those things, then this is would define a spoilt person to me.

There are however, those people out there who do get everything they want but, (and this is a defining but), know how to work for those things and sometimes do not have to because they already have in times past. And now is the time to reap the reward for seed sown. This is not a spoilt person but a person who has likely been through some very tough times; who just kept walking through those very tough times, deciding for themselves not to stop and wallow, nor look to the left nor to the right and just soldier on- with a smile on her or his face. Because this person believes in something bigger. This person believes that they were born for such a time as this, and this person believes that they can and will change their world by the little steps they take every day. This person believes in the light at the end of the tunnel even when fog clouds it like pea soup. This is the type of person that has faith in something bigger than themselves. Something much more powerful. This person knows that they are safe and protected in the midst of heart ache, pain and with the world crumbling around them this is the person who still believes in love when there is none to see; knows they are protected and rests in the presence of God especially through those times when the world turns its back.

There are people out there who know that they know that they know, they are here for a reason. That they are here to give and not take. That they are here to be the blessing they so desire to have. They are here to be the light, and be that smile on that cold miserable sad day- even when there is no smile to give. They still give it. And in doing so, by giving when there is nothing left to give- they are re-fueled and re-fired and re-strengthed through that giving.

So this is the type of person I am. Well I’m pretty sure I am- only you can really tell me that.. but as I look around my life today,  I have everything I created, just the way I created it. There is no such thing as luck. Luck is for the lottery winners- those people with the lottery mentality. If I placed $10 million in their hands today I could bet money on it that 90% of those same people would be bankrupt within two years. What is the benefit of being given something you dont have to work for? –  and therefore do not appreciate, nor have the wisdom in knowing how to care for it? There is none. It is wasted. As such are our lives! If we cannot learn to walk through the dark; if we cannot take a moment and look around and take the learnings from being in the dark, if we cannot grow as human beings through these times- how on earth can we ever make the most of the blessings we have when we cant even see them in the light?!

If we continue to sit in our own mess;  if we choose to sit and marinate in our own little or big pickle; if we choose to sit there and cry and moan and wonder ‘why me‘; if we continue to sit there asking for handouts with our arms outstretched as if we were helpless, weak and begging.. we will always be takers.

Oh I have had many an opportunity to wallow in misery for ‘stuff‘ that happened to me… maybe I didn’t ‘do it’,  maybe it wasn’t my ‘fault’; I could play the  victim…. boohoo… but no- that’s not me. It never has been and never will be.  NEVER. I’m a survivor. I’m a warrior princess. (One that loves being saved but only by a knight in shining armour and they are few and far between so Warrior Princess it is then!) Always have been and always will be. In fact my Bible tells me I am MORE than a conqueror through Christ who strengthens me.  I guess I must have inherently known this all my life way before I ever gave my heart to Jesus. Because I have always known this to be true.   I encourage you to take the same attitude. Learn. Learn and learn some more. Yes it hurts when you get kicked- bashed even, but learn. HOW did it come to that and HOW will you make sure it never happens again. This attitude is empowering. This attitude takes responsibilitynot blame. Don’t point the finger and dont take the blame. Just learn, and choose not to repeat it.

Through our adversity we can grow the most and fastest. If we choose. Come out strong, Come out a champion. Come out victorious- it doesn’t matter how long it takes, just come out bigger and better and more wise. Let the weak feed the weak- you however, you pull away from that mentality- stop asking “why me”? Instead focus on how to change, figure out why it happened, understand it so that you can prevent it ever repeating. And now armed with this knowledge, move boldly and swiftly towards your chosen life, your chosen destiny- a destiny that YOU are creating IN your today.

Live your life AS IF you have already achieved your goals, dreams and wants and you will find, one day much sooner than later, you too will wake up living your dream.

My life IS a dream come true. I created it. I am responsible for it. I took what the world wants to throw at me and passed it on like a professional martial artist- to God. I’m not shouldering the pain!!- I pass it on. I take the good stuff and grow that, nurture that and hopefully pass it on to you and the people I surround myself with. And through that my life grows more colourful, more robust, more blessed as I throw out the bad, ask forgiveness for doing any wrong and there has been wrongs in this life.. as well as forgive those who have wronged me, and continue to love this life in its every day, appreciating the small things as they grow into big things and then they grow into massive things.

You choose- live a well rounded life, filled with fun, love, light and forgiveness and take that ceiling of restricted expectation out of your life.. who said you couldn’t?!! Who said you wouldn’t?!! They LIED.  Who CARES what they said! You have one life to life so live it to the best of your ability and have fun!!!

Why dont you have all that you dreamed of? Because YOU dont believe it is possible for you. In life we dont get what we deserve for, we get what we expect. Start to raise the bar higher in your expectation for your own lives. Start to dream big, set the ball in motion and take the necessary action steps to create and live your dreams as your very own reality today. That is the ONLY difference between those who thrive in life and those who merely exist.

What do you want to do in life? THRIVE or Exist? Your choice. ALWAYS. ALWAYS YOUR CHOICE. Its time NOW, to make some changes so you can live the life you know you were born to live. It is up to you to make a start. Noone will do it for you.

I am so very grateful for all the wonderful people and events that have peppered my life. Some people stay, some people go, some people come back after time but no matter what each person and each event has taught me something valuable in life and every person is unique and very special. Every event has been unique and special. I’m chomping at the bit with excitement with the plans I have for the rest of my life!!! I create my life- what do you do?!

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Live your Life OutLoud and Love every minute of every day. Remember to tell people you care for how much you love them and cherish them. You may turn their day from something dark into something very special and loved. Who will NEVER know what anyone other than yourself is dealing with, so just love on your friends and family. Let them know how important they are to you. BE the blessing- so that one day you too can have EVERYTHING you want. 😉

If you feel the need or desire for encouragement in life, or want to know how to get started with a game plan on this topic feel free to contact me for my life coaching series designed to empower you in today’s world.

Thank you for spending time with me on my page. Now go off and have some fun!!

xx Vashte xx

 

 

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