I ALWAYS get what I want. Do YOU?

by Vashte on July 24, 2013

Vashte and Cilla

I live a very enjoyable life.

And I appreciate it.

If you were to meet me today you may think I have always lead this style of life.

And I would tell you that -this is so.

Does that mean I have been spoilt? Have I always got what I wanted? Two interesting questions and two very different questions which, to me, do not belong together but often are found together. We tend to think that a ‘spoilt’ person gets everything they want in life. Why is this? If a person is ‘given’ everything they want in life without learning to appreciate those things, nor how or what it means to work for those things, then this is would define a spoilt person to me.

There are however, those people out there who do get everything they want but, (and this is a defining but), know how to work for those things and sometimes do not have to because they already have in times past. And now is the time to reap the reward for seed sown. This is not a spoilt person but a person who has likely been through some very tough times; who just kept walking through those very tough times, deciding for themselves not to stop and wallow, nor look to the left nor to the right and just soldier on- with a smile on her or his face. Because this person believes in something bigger. This person believes that they were born for such a time as this, and this person believes that they can and will change their world by the little steps they take every day. This person believes in the light at the end of the tunnel even when fog clouds it like pea soup. This is the type of person that has faith in something bigger than themselves. Something much more powerful. This person knows that they are safe and protected in the midst of heart ache, pain and with the world crumbling around them this is the person who still believes in love when there is none to see; knows they are protected and rests in the presence of God especially through those times when the world turns its back.

There are people out there who know that they know that they know, they are here for a reason. That they are here to give and not take. That they are here to be the blessing they so desire to have. They are here to be the light, and be that smile on that cold miserable sad day- even when there is no smile to give. They still give it. And in doing so, by giving when there is nothing left to give- they are re-fueled and re-fired and re-strengthed through that giving.

So this is the type of person I am. Well I’m pretty sure I am- only you can really tell me that.. but as I look around my life today,  I have everything I created, just the way I created it. There is no such thing as luck. Luck is for the lottery winners- those people with the lottery mentality. If I placed $10 million in their hands today I could bet money on it that 90% of those same people would be bankrupt within two years. What is the benefit of being given something you dont have to work for? –  and therefore do not appreciate, nor have the wisdom in knowing how to care for it? There is none. It is wasted. As such are our lives! If we cannot learn to walk through the dark; if we cannot take a moment and look around and take the learnings from being in the dark, if we cannot grow as human beings through these times- how on earth can we ever make the most of the blessings we have when we cant even see them in the light?!

If we continue to sit in our own mess;  if we choose to sit and marinate in our own little or big pickle; if we choose to sit there and cry and moan and wonder ‘why me‘; if we continue to sit there asking for handouts with our arms outstretched as if we were helpless, weak and begging.. we will always be takers.

Oh I have had many an opportunity to wallow in misery for ‘stuff‘ that happened to me… maybe I didn’t ‘do it’,  maybe it wasn’t my ‘fault’; I could play the  victim…. boohoo… but no- that’s not me. It never has been and never will be.  NEVER. I’m a survivor. I’m a warrior princess. (One that loves being saved but only by a knight in shining armour and they are few and far between so Warrior Princess it is then!) Always have been and always will be. In fact my Bible tells me I am MORE than a conqueror through Christ who strengthens me.  I guess I must have inherently known this all my life way before I ever gave my heart to Jesus. Because I have always known this to be true.   I encourage you to take the same attitude. Learn. Learn and learn some more. Yes it hurts when you get kicked- bashed even, but learn. HOW did it come to that and HOW will you make sure it never happens again. This attitude is empowering. This attitude takes responsibilitynot blame. Don’t point the finger and dont take the blame. Just learn, and choose not to repeat it.

Through our adversity we can grow the most and fastest. If we choose. Come out strong, Come out a champion. Come out victorious- it doesn’t matter how long it takes, just come out bigger and better and more wise. Let the weak feed the weak- you however, you pull away from that mentality- stop asking “why me”? Instead focus on how to change, figure out why it happened, understand it so that you can prevent it ever repeating. And now armed with this knowledge, move boldly and swiftly towards your chosen life, your chosen destiny- a destiny that YOU are creating IN your today.

Live your life AS IF you have already achieved your goals, dreams and wants and you will find, one day much sooner than later, you too will wake up living your dream.

My life IS a dream come true. I created it. I am responsible for it. I took what the world wants to throw at me and passed it on like a professional martial artist- to God. I’m not shouldering the pain!!- I pass it on. I take the good stuff and grow that, nurture that and hopefully pass it on to you and the people I surround myself with. And through that my life grows more colourful, more robust, more blessed as I throw out the bad, ask forgiveness for doing any wrong and there has been wrongs in this life.. as well as forgive those who have wronged me, and continue to love this life in its every day, appreciating the small things as they grow into big things and then they grow into massive things.

You choose- live a well rounded life, filled with fun, love, light and forgiveness and take that ceiling of restricted expectation out of your life.. who said you couldn’t?!! Who said you wouldn’t?!! They LIED.  Who CARES what they said! You have one life to life so live it to the best of your ability and have fun!!!

Why dont you have all that you dreamed of? Because YOU dont believe it is possible for you. In life we dont get what we deserve for, we get what we expect. Start to raise the bar higher in your expectation for your own lives. Start to dream big, set the ball in motion and take the necessary action steps to create and live your dreams as your very own reality today. That is the ONLY difference between those who thrive in life and those who merely exist.

What do you want to do in life? THRIVE or Exist? Your choice. ALWAYS. ALWAYS YOUR CHOICE. Its time NOW, to make some changes so you can live the life you know you were born to live. It is up to you to make a start. Noone will do it for you.

I am so very grateful for all the wonderful people and events that have peppered my life. Some people stay, some people go, some people come back after time but no matter what each person and each event has taught me something valuable in life and every person is unique and very special. Every event has been unique and special. I’m chomping at the bit with excitement with the plans I have for the rest of my life!!! I create my life- what do you do?!

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Live your Life OutLoud and Love every minute of every day. Remember to tell people you care for how much you love them and cherish them. You may turn their day from something dark into something very special and loved. Who will NEVER know what anyone other than yourself is dealing with, so just love on your friends and family. Let them know how important they are to you. BE the blessing- so that one day you too can have EVERYTHING you want. 😉

If you feel the need or desire for encouragement in life, or want to know how to get started with a game plan on this topic feel free to contact me for my life coaching series designed to empower you in today’s world.

Thank you for spending time with me on my page. Now go off and have some fun!!

xx Vashte xx



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Liz Kennedy July 25, 2013 at 8:09 am

Love your Warrior Princess perspective Vashte, and let’s pray that more people find it within themselves to love and appreciate the wonderful human beings they are :) xoxoxo

Keep up the great work, as I’m certain you will be a true inspiration to many!


Vashte July 26, 2013 at 2:11 pm

HI Liz x Thank you for that xx I appreciate your belief in me and love that you enjoy this site xx


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