Put the Effort In

by Vashte on September 20, 2013

Inspired by a post from my new friend Hannah Seemann, I am compelled to add my two cents worth. Please read THIS article which I found highly accurate and certainly not confronting enough for the reality in which we live. A brilliant piece nonetheless, and written kindly as it would seem our generation is far too fragile to handle anything less.

I can speak with a certain frankness as I fall into this generation so, in essence, I am writing about myself just as much as anyone else so no hard feelings; although I am of the opinion we are past bubble wrapping our words and behaviours. It clearly has not worked.

HOPE. Vashte www.vashte.com

We, (and I include myself in that ‘we’) – We today, those of us brought up in the land of plenty, God’s Zone, Australia, New Zealand or any Western developed country, seem to have made a unanimous decision that we ‘deserve it all’. mwa hahaha. Whilst this could possibly be true for those people who work for their goals, dreams and desires; this decision also appears to have been made by those of us who just want it, without having to lift one little finger. Enter the world of the Spoilt Brat.

Spoilt Brats: Generation Y and most certainly Generation X.

I am included in these generations I remind you.

We have been given everything we asked for, or wanted. Whether we deserved it, earned it or whinged for it, we generally have managed to find a way to get what we wanted, and have the belief we ‘deserved’.  Our parents wanted to make our lives that much easier than theirs so they worked hard, as shown by their parents, and then gave us everything they missed out on. Enter – the issue.

Through being given everything we wanted, or as much as our parents could give at least, we have grown up with an overinflated ego of ourselves, as clearly pointed out through Hannah’s linked article.

What has risen is a generation of ‘takers’, who have no conception of giving. Nor do we have much of a concept of working  hard and pushing through times that are seemingly hard. And I must reiterate seemingly hard– we have grown up with pretty much everything at our fingertips, or within arms reach, and if it is not, well the Government or some charitable body surely must have some kind of grant or benefit to aid and assist us. Surely?!

Unfortunately for us, this has not helped us one iota. A generation of spoilt brats has emerged, and we are breeding another generation of even more grossly spoilt brats- unless we stop it! Learning how to overcome obstacles is an important growth factor in life. We have no serious obstacles to overcome, aside from the ones we generate ourselves and usually due to our own ill equipped planning.

Look at us! We grow fatter and fatter, sicker and sicker, and some poorer and poorer.. all whilst we sit back on our couches, watching pay TV, eating fast food (as we believe that is all we can afford, or can be bothered preparing); we move less and less, discover more and more illnesses and reasons not to work, and still want and demand the best of everything. We stink of laziness and sloth.

DIETING

Our children are only products of the environment they grow up in. We are not setting the best example nor a model that is doing anything to benefit them for their future. Our children are predicted to die before us due to this model we have set in motion.

This is scary.

We complain as foreigners take ‘our jobs’ and yet, how many of us are actually willing to get up off those couches, leaving that paid TV, takeout pizza and cigarettes to actually go to work? Why should they when they are collecting a hefty sum from our Govt to continue acting in such a manner? A sum, often more lucrative than the weekly pay check at the end of the week.

Some people actually need this and are legitimate. Some, not many, and certainly not as many as are currently collecting this ‘magic money’. This magic money will dry and is drying up, as surely we are all aware this magic money is not magic at all, but results from taxes paid from those employed. If less people are employed.. it stands to reason there is less money to distribute to the couches, let alone to the running of the country.

Come on team- and we are a team! I am in this group too and it is up to all of us to turn this around or we are looking down the nozzle of a very real firearm. We are doing it to ourselves and our children.

Isn’t it time we looked back at how our parents and their parents lived? We do not ‘deserve’ anything at all. Noone does. When we put in the hard yards and work for a living; when we set goals and take the action needed; when we understand those credit cards are NOT your best friend.. perhaps we can lead our children and their children into a better quality of life. Instead of setting them up for failure from day dot.

Isn’t it time we went back to the drawing board and learnt to restrain ourselves from our whimsical notions that we are ‘born to shop’; that ‘shopping defines us;  that the car we drive reflects who we are?.. We do not need the latest ridiculous gadget, outfit, nor be ‘seen’ in the ‘right’ circles. Why are we refusing to grow up?  We do not deserve holidays when we do not work for them. If we work, then we can afford to take a holiday every now and then– without out racking up debt to take it.

How about showing our children how to save, by going without. How about eating the leftovers from last nights dinner as lunch. How about NOT buying takeaway 3 times a week, or NOT switching on the TV, and NOT using that credit card so easily. How about learning to budget, and showing our children how!

It is up to us to do this! If we love our children as much as we say we do, we would set them up for a realistic life by showing them they DO NOT deserve everything they ‘want’ but if, and only if, they work hard with consistency, then perhaps they too will be shown how to live a life worth living.

We are teaching them, and many of us believe ourselves, that ‘love’ as a foreign construct- reachable through materialism, and external. This is a lie. Such a big, fat common lie in our world today and that is why so many of us are so lonely and miserable. Teach them, and reteach ourselves that love, (which is what we all yearn for when it all boils down to it), is found within. All  the money in the world cannot buy love for yourself, or other people. Not to be truly satisfied.

Let’s go back to our grandparents ways of living. Return to simplicity and learn to smell the roses; grow and cook our own food; and make our own fun, instead of this vain attempt at buying it all- via the remote control, and sticking it on the credit card then declaring bankruptcy. Seriously!?

Life is so much more than taking! Life can be abundantly blessed and filled with love and everything your heart desires if we go back to the basic understanding that we DO live in an abundant country; that we have NO real hardships and so.. we CAN work hard to earn the desires of our hearts…if we really do want them. It is through consistent work, not luck.

I am a Spoilt Brat Gen Y individual too. I have been given more than I deserved and worked for. I have not worked as hard as my mother or any of her brothers and sisters.  I am very aware of this. I do not assume I deserve anything in life aside from that which I work for, and even then I don’t ‘deserve’ anything. Come on team, lets find our Spirit, lets find our Spunk and get off our butts and make something of our lives. Especially for those of you who have children- they are looking to us for guidance. It is up to us to show them how.

Stop looking for the quick fix in life. There are none that count for anything. Quick fix diets, 4 hour working weeks, magic money, perfect lives without any thorns- a bubble that just doesn’t exist so lets stop buying into it as it only blows up around our faces.

Enjoy working and earning your keep. Enjoy making an effort. Enjoy obstacles and times of challenge – they result in improvement. These are the things in life that strengthen our spines and make us determined and focused. These are the things that create great stories and a wonderful sense of achievement.

We were born to succeed. Work for it.

stop wishing

Living life is not through being handed everything on a platter. Life gets very boring, very quickly that way, and we find ourselves in trouble often when we are spoilt. Life is meant to be interesting; life is meant to be peppered with situations. How else can you grow aside from facing and overcoming situations?

  • Set more goals.
  • Refocus your aim.
  • Reach higher and work harder.
  • Show yourself how strong and capable you actually are. Show your children and their children that you are NOT the spoilt brat of our generation, but one of the hopefully growing few that revolt against this pathetic way of life, and that you achieve more than you think you can.
  • BE the inspiration this world is looking for.
  • Quit looking for the quick fix.
  • You are stronger than you know- just get up and go do it!!

It is fun jumping off that diving board into the unknown! Seriously- ask yourself- what is the worst that count happen? And then ask yourself: what is the BEST that could happen??!!!! And then make it happen!!!

xx Vashte xx

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